I can't do this again

Sure you can. Get right back up on that horse. Just know that it will take time,but know that others are here for you

Look at it this way, you still have 1 pound lost. Look at the biggest loser shows, even they have set backs and time frames without loses and all they have to do is lose weight. There will always be a baby shower, a wedding, a holiday, a something to hold you back. You can indulge, just limit your indulgence. (easier said then done, I know).

Try these things
*Have a crave day once a week. On that day anything you have been craving you can have. Most of the time by the time you get to that day, you won't want them. Also by looking how long it takes to burn a calorie and how many calories say a cookie has, will deter you from wanting it.
*Remind yourself: Don't give up what you want most, for what you want right now!
* Prepare, prepare, prepare! I go to the grocery store on Sundays. When I get home I cut my vegetables and fruits. That way when I am wanting a snack, it is easier to grab healthy because it is already ready (like chips are available you don't have to do anything but eat)
*Just because you make one bad choice in a day, the whole day isn't ruined. So you had a set back. Just eat healthier the rest of the day and do some cardio to make up for the bad choice (I am doing this today because my choices last night!)
*don't beat yourself up! Stay positive. Put up motivational quotes and things all over your house to keep your spirits up!

Think positive, don't be so negative...today is a new day. A fresh start. Take baby steps. And, don't worry because tomorrow is always a new day!! :happy:

Good luck!! Please feel free to friend me for support.

I know for a fact how hard it really is to keep a motivated mind. Allow your self to cheat once a week. If you plan on going out to eat or having a desert, do some extra excercise that day.

Leah,

Do you have a personal trainer or someone who you respect that will speak with you honestly and frankly? There is so much good advice up here but in the end you need more than posts of encouragement to stay strong.

That being said I wouldn't call that a set back, we fluxuate up to 5lbs a day sometimes and your cheating may just be coincidental so don't kill yourself over it. Keep working hard and you will get there.

Brian

Leah,

Most of us have been there before. I lost my first 88 pounds only to gain 60+ back. I felt hopeless, depressed and ashamed that I had wasted 9 months and made myself look like a fool. All of the new confidence I had gained was washed away. IT HAPPENS. They key is picking yourself back up. Very rarely will you figure out how to succeed without failing a few times (or a few times + a few times in my case)

Keep your head up, and visualize what you want to accomplish. Stay focused and remember that the only thing stopping you from achieving your goals is you. MFP is here for you, thanks for sharing

i do agree with the others, that part of the reason you're kicking yourself so much is because when you have one treat, you think it's all over so you just go all out.

I used to tell struggling people "it's okay if you mess up today because you will start over tomorrow" but I like what the recovering person with the disorder therapy said... you can make tomorrow come today by making up for your mistake with your very next meal. Just HAVE to have a slice of cheesecake? Make up for it with something better.

You also need to know how to swap out.

Swap out salt with Mrs. Dash salt-free seasonings.
Swap out a SLICE of cake with a 3-2-1 cake that has just 100 calories. I made some 110 calorie brownies using a box of mix and half a can of diet soda.
Need something sweet and crunchy? Have some dry cereal.
Starving? Have a sandwich. Have some rice. Eat a salad. Yogurt. Oatmeal.

Take the foods that are your weakness, like say, potato chips. Look at the BAG, see what their serving size is, and put that in a ziploc bag. Part out the whole bag. When you're dying, reach for a bag. It's okay. We all need a fix sometimes. I had jambalaya and cheesecake last night, and seeing how much it was worth this morning is making me wince, but it's OKAY.

Leah,
I am right there with you. I have gained my 30lbs I lost back from 3 years ago. I am trying this again. I had done a local Biggest Loser group which helped me out so much. However, with costs I cant keep taking the program. I learned so much. We use to have one day a week we could cheat whether we lost or not. That way we did not binge we had something to look forward to. However, a year ago I started gaining again and didnt nab it and here I am. Keep at it. Just like the others are saying you eat something you shouldnt dont beat yourself up just move on. If you can exercise a little more. Hang in there! Its a journey we take. I understand how you feel just keep at it.

Forget about any mistakes you made in the past and move forward. What's the saying---the reason the rear view mirror is so much smaller than the windshield is because where you are leaving doesn't matter nearly as much as where you are heading. You are heading in the right direction. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back on that wagon! You can do it!

What a great way to look at it..............Thank you!

you can do it

pick some peeps off here to friend with you and they will support you

good luck, falling over is how we all learn!

You have not failed. It doesn't matter how many times you fall; as long as you pick yourself up and keep moving forward you are winning. Live in the now.

Don't fall into the "all or nothing mentality".

There will be days you have the nachos & the cake. But those are the days you need to exercise & have moderation at other meals! Just because you had some bad days doesn't mean you can't still be successful.

The sheer fact you are on here means you want to do something good for yourself.

So pick yourself up, dust off and jump back on the wagon. You can do this!

Yes you can, Leah, you definitely can. In fact, you have no choice. You have at least one child, if I look at your profile picture. You owe it to your children to set the right example, to eat healthy, to ensure you have anough energy to do things with them.
If it's not for you, then do it for them.

It's okay to fall off the wagon, but you MUST climb back on.

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I have failed more times than I care to count. But I'm doing it now, and you can do it too.

For me, the key was to only do what I can handle from now until the end of my life. That means no exercising 5, 6, 7 days a week. I settled for every-other-day, and even that I am not strict with. I also started at only doing 10 minutes of exercise per session, because I was so fat that I couldn't even handle more than that. But I ramped it up to my target now of around an hour per session, and I did so rather quickly - it's amazing how the body improves so fast when you're trying to. And finally, I didn't even track or pay attention to my food at first. I kept eating exactly how I had been. But exercise gave me time to peer inside my mind, and I realized that all the work I was doing would be undone if I didn't at least try to eat better. So I came to it naturally, and from there, I gradually started making better choices, moved away from much sodium-laden, high-calorie processed foods and more towards cooking my own meals and using a lot of fresh ingredients. Then I started tracking here, after already losing around 40lbs, and it's only accelerated my progress. I also don't really dig the idea of spike days or cheat days or whatever you want to call them. If I want to eat chips or chocolate or something, I fit it into my calories (which I have calculated out myself, as MFP is far too aggressive for my liking. Yes, I will lose slower, but I won't be as hungry and I won't fail due to deprivation).

My point is, it's not an instant and permanent change. It's a decision that you have to make every day. I don't know what else to say; just don't give up, and don't look at any slips as failures. As long as you keep inching forward no matter how many times you are shoved back, you'll eventually reach your goal.

I really have no advise to give to you, and what I would say has already been said by many others. My question is... I notice on your weight loss slider that your goal is to get to 103lbs. Have you spoken to your doctor about the weight that you should be trying to reach? 103lbs is just a little more than what my 9 year old weighs. How realistic is that? I have A LOT of weight to lose, and I have a LONG way to go, but please... if you are trying to get back to a weight that "you were happy at" or " you were comfortable at"... please go and see your doctor. Needing to lose weight, getting to a HEALTHY weight is fine, but it just seems to me that a goal of 103lbs is setting yourself up for failure, no matter what you do.

She has a weight loss ticker that measures pounds lost, not goal weight. So she has 103 pounds to lose.