I really need other parents opinions!

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  • Dalrae
    Dalrae Posts: 7
    EVERY SCHOOL HAS AN SRO....IT IS A POLICE OFFICER THAT WORKS IN THAT SCHOOL AND A COUPLE OF OTHERS ARE ASSIGNED TO THEM AS WELL. GO TO THE PRINICIPAL OR CALL THE LOCAL POLICE DEPARTMENT AND GET THE SRO'S NUMBER. YOU CAN DISCUSS WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THEM AND THEY WILL MEET WITH ALL OF YOU OR YOU CAN FILE AGAINST THEM. MY DAUGHTERS SCHOOL HAS A NO TOLORENCE POLICY AND THIS REALLY WORKS. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!!
  • Georg
    Georg Posts: 1,728 Member
    OK
    Now that's awful!
  • scrappinville
    scrappinville Posts: 3
    OK I am the stupidiest person in the world... can't figure out how to post a question... but of course I can reply to a message... Help would be greatly appreciated! Obviously I am new to this site and its late and I am tired and don't have much energy to figure this out after working out... so PLEASE help!
  • Dalrae
    Dalrae Posts: 7
    ALSO, TO ADD I WOULD INFORM CPS OF THE FATHER AND STEP-MOTHER'S SEXUALITY IN FRONT OF THE LITTLE GIRL. SHE WILL NEED SOME COUNSEL I THINK THIS IS FAR WORSE THAN ANYONE MAY REALIZE. :frown:
  • ilike2moveit
    ilike2moveit Posts: 776 Member
    OK I am the stupidiest person in the world... can't figure out how to post a question... but of course I can reply to a message... Help would be greatly appreciated! Obviously I am new to this site and its late and I am tired and don't have much energy to figure this out after working out... so PLEASE help!
    I sent you a message with the directions. Good luck.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    If you pulled her out of that school and put her in another school, i don't think you would be teaching her that it is o.k. to run away when you can't get along with someone. I think you would help her understand that she is in a very unfair situation that that school is overlooking and sometimes you have to change your situation because you can't make any headway with the people who are supposed to be there to defend you and help you.

    I agree with the first reply you received.

    You have taught your daughter to tough it at, but at a certain point in life, we are sometimes forced to cut ties and move along. No need to torment yourself (or her) on principle. She has learned early that the world is a mean place, full of liars and evil people. She can still remain good and wholesome, even through all this.

    The only other thing I'd suggest is speaking once more with the principal and the teachers, letting them know in no uncertain terms this will not be tolerated. (You have probably done that.) You may want to look (just for threat's sake) into legal avenues against the school for allowing the bullying to continue, or even against this girl and her father for continuing this torment. Bullying has become a HUGE deal nationwide and is not taken lightly, especially when immature parents are doing it themselves!!!!
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    ALSO, TO ADD I WOULD INFORM CPS OF THE FATHER AND STEP-MOTHER'S SEXUALITY IN FRONT OF THE LITTLE GIRL. SHE WILL NEED SOME COUNSEL I THINK THIS IS FAR WORSE THAN ANYONE MAY REALIZE. :frown:

    Yes. This little girl is gonna be messed up for life, methinks.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    Today I was informed that two boys my daughters age raped two younger girls on the playground in my community. It is less than 100 yards from my front porch.

    Forget changing schools. I'm moving the heck out of this place. There seems to be a pattern around here. I am disgusted. I know those girls. So does my daughter, they have played together.:brokenheart:

    :brokenheart: (speechless)
  • leavinglasvegas
    leavinglasvegas Posts: 1,495
    My internet was out for the entire day! OMG, I felt so disconnected:laugh:

    Update:
    I met with the teacher and my daughter got to tell the full story of what happened with me there. The teacher was shocked. I guess when this happened and she questioned the girls my daughter just gave up talking because she has gotten used to the direction it usually takes. There was so much against her that she just accepted that she wouldn't be heard.:brokenheart:

    Her teacher assured her that she would listen to her with an open mind. She also wants to know what is going on all the time and told her that she will do everything in her power to protect her safety. And she appologized that her friend lied and said she will address that issue seperately.

    Then I got to speak to her alone. I asserted that I WILL NOT tolerate another year of this. I made it very clear that the next time this child touched mine again, I will get the police involved and I will not wait to see if the school will do thier part. I told her to please relay that message to the principal and the other childs parents. She totally agreed with me, appologized for the way things have gone sofar, assured me that this girl has been warned to stay away and she will see to it that if she does it will be handled immediately.

    The very same day at lunch, this kid broke the rule less than 2 hours after being talked to by my daughters teacher. She sought her out in the lunch room and told her to keep her F***ing mouth shut! My daughter told the teacher, the teacher reacted immediately and has pulled the principal and social worker into the matter. We'll see what happens, but I feel more confident with this teacher. She was very concerned and not at all dismissive.

    I should also point out that the morning I met with the teacher this little girl stood in the doorway grilling me with her eyes as we walked down the hall. It was so creepy. I could tell she was waiting for me to look away so she could get my daughters attention. I met her gaze and did not look away to make sure she knew that I don't fall for her crap and she doen't scare me. But seriously, I wish I could show you a video or something. She creeps me out!
  • leavinglasvegas
    leavinglasvegas Posts: 1,495
    Today I was informed that two boys my daughters age raped two younger girls on the playground in my community. It is less than 100 yards from my front porch.

    Forget changing schools. I'm moving the heck out of this place. There seems to be a pattern around here. I am disgusted. I know those girls. So does my daughter, they have played together.:brokenheart:

    :brokenheart: (speechless)

    We have discussed new rules for outdoors play and the friends that come around. We are exploring activities and making friends outside of our community. We don't ride the bus anymore, I walk or drive her to school. I have just 2 really great neighbors who will always be on alert with me and we will look out for each others kids so that they are never really out of sight. I have the police on speed dial now and I am not afraid to call them for any reason no matter how small.
  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    My internet was out for the entire day! OMG, I felt so disconnected:laugh:

    Update:
    I met with the teacher and my daughter got to tell the full story of what happened with me there. The teacher was shocked. I guess when this happened and she questioned the girls my daughter just gave up talking because she has gotten used to the direction it usually takes. There was so much against her that she just accepted that she wouldn't be heard.:brokenheart:

    Her teacher assured her that she would listen to her with an open mind. She also wants to know what is going on all the time and told her that she will do everything in her power to protect her safety. And she appologized that her friend lied and said she will address that issue seperately.

    Then I got to speak to her alone. I asserted that I WILL NOT tolerate another year of this. I made it very clear that the next time this child touched mine again, I will get the police involved and I will not wait to see if the school will do thier part. I told her to please relay that message to the principal and the other childs parents. She totally agreed with me, appologized for the way things have gone sofar, assured me that this girl has been warned to stay away and she will see to it that if she does it will be handled immediately.

    The very same day at lunch, this kid broke the rule less than 2 hours after being talked to by my daughters teacher. She sought her out in the lunch room and told her to keep her F***ing mouth shut! My daughter told the teacher, the teacher reacted immediately and has pulled the principal and social worker into the matter. We'll see what happens, but I feel more confident with this teacher. She was very concerned and not at all dismissive.

    I should also point out that the morning I met with the teacher this little girl stood in the doorway grilling me with her eyes as we walked down the hall. It was so creepy. I could tell she was waiting for me to look away so she could get my daughters attention. I met her gaze and did not look away to make sure she knew that I don't fall for her crap and she doen't scare me. But seriously, I wish I could show you a video or something. She creeps me out!

    I am so glad that teacher is willing to stand up for your daughter.
    I hate that teachers are put in such awful positions nowadays, having to defend the innocent from the ruthless kids who receive horrible or no parenting from their guardians.

    I agree with what you said -- if this girl lays so much as a finger on your daughter, get the police involved. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Keep a journal. Date EVERYTHING, every single event that has occured. It will benefit you in the long run.

    I feel badly for the creepy girl. She is going to end up strung out on drugs, pregnant with an STD before the age of 16. Her life will not be pretty. It's heartbreaking to see the end result of a mother who takes no part in her child's life :brokenheart: and a father who is scum :sick: .
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