Tattoo Question!!
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I think with everything else in a relationship, and in life, it's not black or white. You shouldn't completely disregard your S/O's feelings, but he shouldn't completely disregard your feelings, wants, needs, etc either. You should talk about it, find some common ground. Maybe he would like it if it was smaller, different location....0
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So basically your s/o is a "fair weather" love...any change and you're less attractive. I hope you and everything around you two have the ability to stay EXACTLY the way you are now or your s/o will be unhappy...
THIS HAS RED FLAGS WRITTEN ALL OVER IT!!!0 -
I just got a new one LAST NIGHT! (my profile pic)
it is a remembrance tattoo for my father and brother who have both passed... it is my ACTUAL signature of my maiden name tattooed.
ME PERSONALLY, I dont care one way or another what ANYONE says or thinks about them, they are FOR ME & ON ME..
my bf met me AFTER I already had 2 and Ive gotten 4 since and another piercing. . theres not much he COULD say or do to STOP me.0 -
It depends on what your relationship means to the both of you. If it's something you've wanted for a long time, and it's truly significant to you, he should understand that. My tattoo was one I'd thought about and worked on for years. My BF said he doesn't like tattoos, but as long as I wasn't covering my entire body in ink, he really doesn't care. It's my body and it's ME who has to live with it the rest of my life. So he was good with it in the end. But I'm lucky, I have a really wise BF!
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You're free to get the tattoo if you'd like it. He's free to leave when he doesn't like it. Doesn't make either of you bad people. Just incompatible.0
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I would still get it......AND DID!!!! My hubby didn't want me to get a tattoo, but it was important to me to get something done to represent the many loved ones I have lost. After it was done, he was fine with it. He shouldn't love you for what you are on the outside, it's all about what's on the inside. I hope you get it.0
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I would get it.......sure, take his feelings into consideration, but its still your body....0
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LMFAO.
Guess what...
ITS YOUR BODY.
If your s/o loves you then they will love you no matter what type of ink YOU decide to put on your body.
Been with my s/o for over 7 years.
60% of the tattoos on my body he DONT like but guess what... Its more about emotion then it is physical.
Thats just my opinion.
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This.
My boyfriend hates tattoo's in general, but he knows to never stop me from getting them. It should be about what makes you happy.0 -
If you really wanted to get a certain tattoo, I mean... you loved it and it had meaning… But your S/O doesn’t like it and told you it would make you “less attractive”… Would you still get it? OR Would you take your S/O’s feelings in account and not get it?
I'd get it.0 -
If you're with someone that doesn't like them, but you do, I think there could be some fundemental problems there.
Things like that aren't important now, but could be later. If you get it in a place where its visible, or partially, even if its only sometimes, and he is embarrased by it and by being with you in public when its showing,, that is going to cause some serious tension.0 -
i apologize if anyone else already stated the obvious but... usually a tattoo lasts longer then just a significant other these days so do what makes YOU happy. if he gives you crap, explain you did it for you and not one person more.
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hmm id take it into consideration at least...but ultimatley your decision. is it a very large peice that would be showing more often than not? he'll get used to it either way. IF howerever say the tat is a peice for him (like a show of love or whatever) and hes saying he doesnt think you should get it , than DEFINITLY dont! lol0
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I'd tell my SO to go take a long walk off a short f'n pier. Saying something like "I like you just as you are" would have been better than it would make you "less attractive". Bottom line, your body, your decision.0
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I'd get it. There's so many things I've done for myself now that I've completely cut ties with my ex that he basically fobade when we were together and I'm so much happier. So if you want the tattoo honey, get it. 0
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Do it anyways!
I honestly find it hard to believe that there are guys that don't like ink on a woman. Its fricken hot.0 -
I'm a woman who has several inked pieces on my body. My husband has none. He is not particularly into tattoos, but he IS into me! It is my body and I'll do with it as I see fit. If he really has a problem with it, then I guess he would have a problem with me. I had tattoos when we met.
He is visiting the tattoo shop with me in a few months, AND paying for my new sleeve. He has never been in one before. It'll be grand!
And...LMFAO.
Guess what...
ITS YOUR BODY.
If your s/o loves you then they will love you no matter what type of ink YOU decide to put on your body.
Been with my s/o for over 7 years.
60% of the tattoos on my body he DONT like but guess what... Its more about emotion then it is physical.
Thats just my opinion.0 -
It is your body and the only person in charge of it is YOU. If your S/O said jump off this bridge it would make you more sexy wet lol would you?0
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I can definitely see both sides to this but if this is a serious SO then their opinion does count, I can't see how going completely against them will help a relationship in any way but it is your body. You need to sit down and have a conversation with them about why they don't like it. Is it just a blanket statement about hating all tattoos or is it because you're getting a skull ridden, bloody dagger tattooed on your chest that would one day peak out above the neckline of a wedding dress?
If the relationship is the real deal you have to realize it is NOT all about you. Find a compromise.0 -
What does the relationship mean to you? If you are serious about this person, I don't think it should be such a black and white decision.0
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Well...I'm having this issue too. You see, my girlfriend prefers me with few-to-no tattoos or deviant piercings...and there are a few I'd like to get (tummy button piercing, dermal anchors on my back.) So....what I'll probably do is get them pierced, give it a year, and then, if she still hates them, take them out. Easy as pie. The tattoo is harder, though...but if your siggie oh really loves you, it shouldn't matter what you have (or don't have) on your body.0
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My husband isn't a huge fan of tattoos, but he still married me and I have two and plans to get one more 0
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I think it depends on what the tattoo is and how big it is.
Yes its your body etc, but if the tattoo is, for instance, a massive full body tattoo then I can imagine why your s/o might think you were less attractive, its not exactly the right attitude to have but he could just be looking out for you in the long run0 -
I'd lose the S/O for being such an *kitten*!!!! Should love you no matter what.0
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Thank you all for your opinions. I am married; we have been together for 9 years, married for almost 4. I had a tattoo before I met him. He said that tattoo was one of the things that made him talk to me that day, and he still loves it. Then I got a 2nd tattoo last year that at first he wasn’t a big fan of the idea, but once I got it now he says he loves it.
We have a stable relationship; in no way would he hold my tattoo over my head or bring it up in petty fights. He's not going to leave me or anything crazy. He just gave me his honest opinion on it, and unfortunately it is not the one I wanted to hear..LOL
I am 90% sure I am still getting it. I think he will like it when I do get it. I may have a talk with him and ask him if he would like me to get it someplace else on my body, or maybe a little smaller. But in the end, I do believe I will get it and love it.0 -
Get the tattoo!!!!!!0
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You should probably briefly consider his opinion then ignore it. Meanwhile, call him selfish and inconsiderate. Ignore any irony that may or may not be present.0
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If my husband was just being a brat I'd get it anyway, but if it would seriously bother him, I wouldn't want to send him the message that something like that is more important than him. I'd expect the same from him too.0
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You should probably briefly consider his opinion then ignore it. Meanwhile, call him selfish and inconsiderate. Ignore any irony that may or may not be present.
HAHA, ^^ This cracked me up!0 -
So basically your s/o is a "fair weather" love...any change and you're less attractive. I hope you and everything around you two have the ability to stay EXACTLY the way you are now or your s/o will be unhappy...
THIS HAS RED FLAGS WRITTEN ALL OVER IT!!!
GMAFB0 -
I had talked for a while with my SO before getting my first one. His opinion was that he does *not* in any way find them attractive on anyone.
Thankfully he loves me for my brain and sense of humour, and not just a piece of *kitten*. I acknowledged my SO's opinion, but in the end I told him I like them, and now I'm considering my 5th and 6th tattoos. He's not a fan of any one of them, but is still marrying me in 10 days!
I guess it would depend on how long you've been together and if he's in it for love or just flesh. *shrugs*0
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