would you have a duck fit seeing a post about you???

george29223
george29223 Posts: 556 Member
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ive been on message boards for a good 15 years seen it time and time again people randomly blowing off steam about there partners not being supportive for one reason or another at home , what would you do if you sat on the computer a home and noticed your guy or gal posted something bad about you on a message board? ever have it happen?? forget to log off or left the screen open?
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  • glengiles
    glengiles Posts: 147
    It's never happened to me but she doesn't hang on any message boards either.
  • JPod279
    JPod279 Posts: 722 Member
    My wife never posts anything so if I saw a post by "her" I would have to assume aliens abducted her and replaced her., and I would pray that this replacement was a nimpho.
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    So long as no x-rated pictures were included.. ehh I don't care.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    That's why it's better to do your complaining to your partner instead of to strangers on the interwebs. Then you've only got one problem to fix and not two
  • george29223
    george29223 Posts: 556 Member
    yeah but what if they did or they forgot to close the screen and you seen it
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    my wife doesn't post on boards either - having said that

    hypothetically, if she were to post about me on a board, i'm not sure i would care too much (provided it wasn't something super sensitive).
  • hennyben
    hennyben Posts: 313 Member
    Well, I'd be a bit annoyed that he didn't just say it out straight to me. If it was FB I'd be pissed off, but on a message board like this where nobody knows him or me in RL I wouldn't be too bothered
  • Phoenix1401
    Phoenix1401 Posts: 711 Member
    Nah I'm not childish like that
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    If he was ranting on FB and blocked me so I couldn't see that post, I'd be pissed. I have no home friends on this site, so to everyone I'm just foxypoo with a horrible SO. And if he posted on message boards I'd be like what ever. He never tells the truth anyways, so if he needs to tell people some b/s lie to make him feel better about himself, oh well...
  • phinphanbill26
    phinphanbill26 Posts: 574 Member
    If I were you, I'd be more worried about why she hasn't washed your underwear in over a month...
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    My fiance wouldn't ever post on forums....he always wonders why I do...haha
    That being said, if I ever did see something like that I'd confront him and ask him 'WTF'?
  • WongoWoman
    WongoWoman Posts: 21
    Depends on the post and who he was talking to. Knowing my husband, I would have to have done something pretty confusing or hurtful for him to talk to someone about it. We have very healthy communication. I can see him mentioning something like, "she spent 15 mins straight poking me in the arm saying "hey David! hey David! hey David" and when I answered with a WHAT?! she said, "nothiiinnnngg." That's about it. Most of my friends refer to him as "Poor David", so..... ok it wouldn't bother me if he needed to talk to a friend.
  • f1ctional
    f1ctional Posts: 235
    My wife never posts anything so if I saw a post by "her" I would have to assume aliens abducted her and replaced her., and I would pray that this replacement was a nimpho.


    ^^ that
  • VanessaGS
    VanessaGS Posts: 514 Member
    yeah but what if they did or they forgot to close the screen and you seen it

    That's simple...just confront them about it and let them know you aren't happy. It doesn't bother everyone else cuz they don't know who she is, but if it personally bothers you then you need to address the issue because that deals with your personal feelings.
  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    Sounds like a good opportunity to troll her.

    But she has never, ever, had a problem ranting about me to me. :D
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    if he did, I'd be pissed, but he's not that type, so no worries here...
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    I would start another thread talking about her. Hah!
  • glengiles
    glengiles Posts: 147
    yeah but what if they did or they forgot to close the screen and you seen it

    what did she say?
  • Purpleflipflops
    Purpleflipflops Posts: 563 Member
    Eeeh, I'm single, So I don't really know how it is, but I don't think I would mind. That doesn't mean I wouldn't lurk in the messages to read what was going on, but, no....

    I would want them to incorporate the term "Duck fit" into it, though. I've never heard that saying before, and I plan on using it in every conversation now.
  • littlemoonsandy
    littlemoonsandy Posts: 1,930
    It's never happened to me, but if it had I'd probably try to fix what ever they were complaining about, or maybe smother him while he was sleeping for being mean behind my back..jk
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    This is why I don't post "vents" about my husband, unless it's something that he and I have talked about. Communication is a key part of a successful relationship, so if I have a problem with him, I *gasp* talk to HIM about it, instead of badmouthing him all over creation. Anything I say to other people about him is something that he already knows about, and I know he wouldn't be embarrassed or upset if he heard me sharing.
  • DavetheHYNIC
    DavetheHYNIC Posts: 318 Member
    I never heard the term duck fit before. I like it and am going to steal it
  • jodycoady
    jodycoady Posts: 598 Member
    ive been on message boards for a good 15 years seen it time and time again people randomly blowing off steam about their partners not being supportive for one reason or another at home , what would you do if you sat on the computer a home and noticed your guy or gal posted something bad about you on a message board? ever have it happen?? forget to log off or left the screen open?

    One time I instant messaged my friend how I was breaking up with my psycho b/f after Christmas and sent it to HIM instead. Of course you can imagine how the blood drained from my body....He freaked and called my office about 20 times, screaming and yelling at me....even came by.
    I got fired.
    And I had to leave the province to free myself from him. READ THIS YA JERK, lol
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    My wife went though my phone and all my mfp messages and I assume posts.
    It was rather ugly.
  • bmreed0920
    bmreed0920 Posts: 139 Member
    My husband vents about me on one of the forums he frequents. I don't mind. It's his way of blowing off steam so he doesn't yell at me.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    On the one hand, I'd probably be really pissed.

    On the other hand, I vent to my girlfriends on the phone or over a glass of wine if I'm mad at my bf for whatever reason. It's usually something really dumb and minor, and I blow off steam, get it off my chest, and I'm done with it. If it's a legit problem, I usually seek counsel from my friends and then talk with my boyfriend. Some people are closer to their online community of friends than they are to friends in their regular life, so perhaps they feel more comfortable seeking help from forums.

    I think the difference is sometimes in here I see some pretty serious stuff that I'd NEVER broadcast to the internet. Things that if I had those kinds of problems, I'd probably talk to my mom or best friend about and address it with my significant other and that's it.

    ETA: I've never made a negative post about my bf, and fortunately, he's a really private person and he doesn't internet, so I don't have to worry about that with him.
  • Tybalt71
    Tybalt71 Posts: 1,064 Member
    Haha would love it, i would sign on as an unknown user/avatar and get into the discussion with them not knowing it was me-Ty
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    I would just talk to them about whatever issue it was they brought up, and ask them to just come to me about it next time so we could handle it.
  • talzybob
    talzybob Posts: 80
    i tend to talk about it with them face to face. normally to many people are doing to much naggin and find that it soon gets back to them when it shouldnt. if ive resolved ill post about it to give a lil friendly advice to people how to avoid the situation, but for me i tend to find oth might be a fault and deal with it face to face. i cant be doing with people whinning on forums and profiles. it in my view spoils it for other people.

    my so called friend posted a horrible post about my sister on facebook. i reported him and flagged which post it was. he had his account blocked and wasnt allowed another using that email address. it was horrible. my sister was pregnant at the time and he just laid into her for being pregnant. last time i checked working full time, being 23, in her own house and having a partner to support her was a good thing. but he didnt seem to think so. i think he was one of those people that trolls peoples pages. makes me angry whe people cant be nice.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    I'd ask her about it, not angrily or confontationally - just ask what I had done to cause an issue that she didn't feel she could talk to me about. If you don't have honest communication, you have a problem.

    Unless it was a typical "men!" comment to one of her female friends, then I'd just see if I'd done something specific to piss her off, and if not I'd ignore it, because that's perfectly normal. I can't count the number of times I've seen guys griping about some detail of their relationship in a bar, and women do the same thing.

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