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  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
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    Excuse me while I vent.........
    Excuse me while I vent on your vent. :drinker:

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  • ashleymarie0104
    ashleymarie0104 Posts: 20 Member
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    I totally agree with you!!!!!!! Thank you for setting the person who created this thread straight!
  • beachlover317
    beachlover317 Posts: 2,848 Member
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    I don't have mine open to anyone, I'm accountable for myself. If I feel like I need some input, as in I'm struggling and can't see where I'm going wrong- then I will give someone the password and they can help me out.
    Even if my diary was public, who's to say what I'd be putting in it was absolutely truthful. To be honest, if my diary was public, I think I would be more likely to skim over the "bad" things I'd eaten that day. In the end, the only person I'm cheating is myself and I just don't understand what that has to do with anyone else on here. Maybe you and I will never be friends, but I do have friends on here who encourage me for my exercise, for logging in and for being within my calories. That is enough for me.

    I agree. I log in my food daily to get a handle on what the problem with my weight has been all along. I read other posts and if it's good advice or makes sense in my life - okay. I am proud of myself for logging in my food and actually watching my calories, carbs and fat daily. THAT is how I will be successful. Only I can change myself.....
  • CarriLu123
    CarriLu123 Posts: 82 Member
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    This subject has been discussed a lot before and for addition insight on the pro's and con's of this you can use the search function.

    For me personally - I am an adult and I'm accountable to myself. What I choose to eat is my business.

    Also there are many people on here that suffer from ED, celiac disease, food allergies, diabetes and have restricted diets. They prefer to keep their diaries private to avoid unsolicited advice from people not knowing their medical background.

    It's a personal choice - I feel there is no right or wrong. If you are comfortable with it open then go for it. But please respect other people's decision to keep theirs private.


    This... If you don't want to support those who don't open their lives to you then don't. Simple really.
  • Kamikazeflutterby
    Kamikazeflutterby Posts: 775 Member
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    Dude, I've referred about six real world friends to this site and then refused to tell them my username. I don't give a **** if MFP friends see my diary. I absofreakingloutely don't want people that I see in the real world to know every time I eat a cookie.

    I... I guess this means I have no true friends! :sad:
  • chelleann777
    chelleann777 Posts: 94 Member
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    Even if my diary was public, who's to say what I'd be putting in it was absolutely truthful. To be honest, if my diary was public, I think I would be more likely to skim over the "bad" things I'd eaten that day. In the end, the only person I'm cheating is myself and I just don't understand what that has to do with anyone else on here. Maybe you and I will never be friends, but I do have friends on here who encourage me for my exercise, for logging in and for being within my calories. That is enough for me.

    I agree with this. Also not everyone uses MFP the same way. It is a tool to use how you see fit. I don't usually log my food here because I keep track of it in a notebook, and it just feels like more work to do that again on MFP. I use it to look up calories of foods, exercises, recipes and new info in the forums. So to each his own; if thats what you look for in a friend- great. Its not what I look for...
  • dArtagnia
    dArtagnia Posts: 26 Member
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    Personally, I am not on here for accountability, I am on here for myself and if I get added support that's awesome. Not only that, but I have dietary restrictions. Much of the time my diary says Pizza or Pasta with Cheese... I live on carbs and cheese. No one here would think that is good for you. If I stuck to fruits and Veggies, Id have to eat twice as much because Id be throwing up all my food. Calorie counting is great for me, because I can rearrange what I can eat to fit in my day. If my diary were open, I was under my calories (portion control is my goal) and someone were to comment that I was failing or that I am not working hard or doing this right. I would be upset and quit. I would also probably eat... a lot. I don't believe in telling someone what they can and cant eat, how much? Maybe. What? No. It took me 12 years to figure out what my body would accept, I'm not changing it now.
  • Bevigal
    Bevigal Posts: 66 Member
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    Bottom line...its each persons own business whether or not they choose to open up. Regardless I am always supportive. Mine is not open. I have been hacked several times and its been a nightmare. Call me cautious.
  • celticmuse
    celticmuse Posts: 492 Member
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    My diary is open to my friends, primarily to share ideas for meals and snacks. I am not interested in unsolicited advice regarding my food choices. I am quite capable of understanding when I had a good day, and when I overindulged. I do not need to be reminded, or worst yet, reprimanded.

    I do wonder why some people are offended by closed diaries. I also what kind of person has time to spend trawling through the food diaries of strangers. I would say that person has too much time on his or her hands....maybe they should consider community service or a new hobby...
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
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    I keep mine open because I don't really care what other people think about what I'm eating, but I have some friends on here who are also gluten free so it's nice to have other diaries to pull ideas from . . . and I know that they'll sometimes stalk mine to see what's going on in there.

    I've thought about removing friends with closed diaries because I'd like to support them on all aspects of their journey, but then I decided that I actually like them despite their food/exercise/sexual proclivities . . . I realize this is a foreign concept for some.

    That being said, I don't do a generic post anyway. If I post on someone's diary it's either "send me the recipe" or if they ask for advice. I only give unsolicited advice to people I know very well outside of mfp, and in particular if I'm familiar with their goals and I think their average routine is going to prevent them from getting there.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
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    Why do you care again? How does this affect YOUR fitness goals?
  • wiltl
    wiltl Posts: 188 Member
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    I've been on the site for almost four months now, and this will be my first post. My diary and profile are private because I had to come to the realization that this is a journey for ME and the only person I am accountable to is ME. As my BFF reminded me, "this is for LIFE".

    This is something that I have to do for the rest of my life, and no one else can/will/should do it for me. I have to figure out what works best for me, what choices that may be better than others and how I can still enjoy the "bad stuff" once in a while. Someone on the internet that doesn't know me, my background or my quirks trying to offer what they feel is the best advice would do nothing more than stress me out. That said, I get and support that others find success when they are totally open and need the accountability offered here. Its up to each of us, I think.

    I have learned a lot by reading through forum postings and am thankful for all of the helpful information that others have posted and the experiences shared.
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
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    I keep mine closed to piss people off.

    HOW'S IT WORKIN' FOR YA???

    muahahahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


    Seriously, though, it's no one else's business if I want to have a six pack of beer and a pizza for my daily food.............it's about what I'm doing and what is working (or not working) for me. I know what healthy choices are - I just don't always make them. If I want help with my nutritional needs, I'll talk to my dietician. Otherwise - to each his/her own, and life goes on.

    I love MFP.................... it's done wonders for me, even WITH a closed diary!!!

    so there :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
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    What makes you think I need your opinion on what I eat?

    How are you more qualified than I am in deciding how I fuel my body?

    ETA: OP needs to wash the sand out of her vag. or a nice falcon punch.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I keep mine open because I don't really care what other people think about what I'm eating, but I have some friends on here who are also gluten free so it's nice to have other diaries to pull ideas from . . . and I know that they'll sometimes stalk mine to see what's going on in there.

    I've thought about removing friends with closed diaries because I'd like to support them on all aspects of their journey, but then I decided that I actually like them despite their food/exercise/sexual proclivities . . . I realize this is a foreign concept for some.

    That being said, I don't do a generic post anyway. If I post on someone's diary it's either "send me the recipe" or if they ask for advice. I only give unsolicited advice to people I know very well outside of mfp, and in particular if I'm familiar with their goals and I think their average routine is going to prevent them from getting there.

    That's all, like, reasonable and stuff.
  • AlyRoseNYC
    AlyRoseNYC Posts: 1,075 Member
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    For me, MFP is not about accountability. It's about logging calories and taking advantage of an excellent food date base. I am part of an accountability group on Facebook with people I actually know in real life. THAT is true accountability IMO. If I were to just delete my MFP account today, none of my friends on here would be able to call me out. How is that accountability?
  • itsuki
    itsuki Posts: 520 Member
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    Here's why I have my diary closed.

    I used to have it open. I wasn't good about waiting until the end of the day to click "complete this entry", so I would (and still do!) sometimes click it after I've logged just my breakfast and my lunch.

    Of course, I'd go back in after dinner (or even the next day) and finish logging, but the message pops up on your feed as soon as you click it for the first time, so if people were to view it then it would look like I only ate like 600 calories for the day (I eat 2 afternoon/evening meals which bumps me to like 1400-1800, depending on my exercise that day).

    Then I'd get people (people on my friends list, and people not on my friends list) who would send the most ridiculous PMs about how I was starving myself and how they were going to report me and how I was setting a bad example for other people on the site and how "my kind" weren't welcome here.

    Because I clicked a button at the wrong time.

    So I made my diary private. I'm not hiding anything. I don't care if other people know what I eat. But I sure as hell don't want people harassing me because they think they know more about myself and my eating habits than I do.



    That’s my reason. But honestly, it’s not really anyone’s business. If you want someone to help critique (in a constructive way!) your diet, you open your diary. If you want others to help you be accountable for what you eat, you can open your diary. If you're just using it for your own tracking purposes, you don't have do.

    I don’t understand why so many people get angry when they can’t read other people’s food diaries. It doesn’t impact your ability to use the site or be healthy. If you don’t want to friend people with closed diaries, don’t friend them. But there’s zero reason for you to complain.
  • april_beth
    april_beth Posts: 617 Member
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    who let you out of your corner today, OP? get back in there...
  • BruteSquad
    BruteSquad Posts: 373 Member
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    I keep my diary locked because having battled with eating disorders, the stress was causing me a lot of problems, so I locked it. There are a few people who can see it and know how I am doing, to keep me going in the right direction. But, if a person is THAT disturbed that I am not emotionally in a place where I can let the whole world see what I ate in a day, I really would LOVE for them to delete me.
    See that? One of my friends. Of course she is totally awesome....probably why she is my friend. She logs as she sees fit. Don't care if I can see what she eats. And when she is doing awesome, she probably doesn't really need me (as much as I might like to think I am the center of the universe. )
    But I can cheer on the NSV's, encourage her when she feels down or doesn't want to exercise, and be amused when she is fall down drunk.

    I don't see the down side of not seeing the diary.

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  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,352 Member
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    I keep my diary locked because having battled with eating disorders, the stress was causing me a lot of problems, so I locked it. There are a few people who can see it and know how I am doing, to keep me going in the right direction. But, if a person is THAT disturbed that I am not emotionally in a place where I can let the whole world see what I ate in a day, I really would LOVE for them to delete me.
    See that? One of my friends. Of course she is totally awesome....probably why she is my friend. She logs as she sees fit. Don't care if I can see what she eats. And when she is doing awesome, she probably doesn't really need me (as much as I might like to think I am the center of the universe. )
    But I can cheer on the NSV's, encourage her when she feels down or doesn't want to exercise, and be amused when she is fall down drunk.

    I don't see the down side of not seeing the diary.

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    The drunk posts are why most people keep me. :tongue:

    That is my point. I still look at certain peoples diaries. People that I KNOW are doing it right, to give me ideas and incentive. But the support I get in OTHER areas really means more to me than someone telling me what to eat. People have done that my whole life and it assisted with my downfall. Knowing that there are people I can talk to, and really, be MORE open with because I dont personally know them, makes a huge difference for me. We are all here for different reasons, and different things keep us all going.

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