No Open Diary

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  • fluffysexyme
    fluffysexyme Posts: 104 Member
    This is how I look at it- what I put in my body is my business. I don't go telling everyone when I've had sex and I don't have to tell everyone when I ate a donut. If you don't like that I have a right to privacy then feel free to remove me. This is my journey, my way. You can support that I'm here, I'm doing the work and making efforts or you can stay on your high horse and ride it on away from me. Support should be unconditional imo.
  • NJ64a
    NJ64a Posts: 13
    My diary is closed. I will keep it that way until I feel otherwise. If my 'friends' want to delete me because I choose to keep my diary private then I would say good riddance.

    I dont even ask my close 'real' friends what they do or dont eat because I dont feel its any of my business. When Ive been to Weight Watchers or Rosemary Conley in the past we dont all sit round in a big circle and analyse what each other have been eating.

    A friend is there to support and encourage, not to critique, or to have access all areas into a persons food diary.

    I dont feel it necessary to look into my 'friends' food diaries. If they are over-eating or not eating the right food and are not losing weight they already know the reason why. Im sure they dont need to hear it from anyone else.
  • amanda3588
    amanda3588 Posts: 422 Member
    Get over and focus on yourself. Did you ever consider that they don't need or want your input?
  • buckeye86
    buckeye86 Posts: 128 Member
    You pretty much said it in your post OP... I don't want advice on what to eat. Everyone has different opinions on what somebody should eat and nobody really agrees (including people who do it for a living). When I'm interested in changing some particular thing, I'll look it up. I just don't want lots of people trying to give me advice on changing things I don't currently feel the need to change. When I want advice, I have no problem asking for it.
  • themommie
    themommie Posts: 5,033 Member
    HMMMM EXCUSE me but your diary is NOT open to me, so you are not being accountable
  • theladyy
    theladyy Posts: 176
    Mine has always been private...even when I did try the 'having friends' thing. Strangers don't need to know what I eat, and I don't care what they eat...which is why I just deleted the friends anyway. All the generic 'good jobs' and happy whatever-number-of-days-you'vej-logged-in comments are just annoying. I get no motivation from strangers, or people I know for that matter.

    Just because food diaries have the option of being public, doesn't mean everyone has to have them set that way just so you can see what they eat (which to me, just makes you waste more time online anyway...)


    Speaking of, does anyone know why a week after I deleted everyone, I started getting their stories in my newsfeed again?
  • Justacoffeenut
    Justacoffeenut Posts: 3,749 Member
    Some people just don't want every stranger on the web to google and look at everything they do. Just because diaries are not open or accounts are not public doesn't mean they are hiding anything. Besides if they are not honest who are they hurting you? No themselves!!!!

    So I don't get what the deal is with people who get on ones who don't want to be open to everyone. You guys act like we all personally know each other and have been best of friends our whole lives. Those who are my friends who know me personally can see my information. Just to let some random Tom, Richard (it don't liek ****), Jane, Or Harry see it isn't going to happen. And making on apology about it.

    If I want suggestions about something. I honestly post what I need help about to ones. And honestly give the information needed regarding it. I don't need everyone to see everything all the time.
  • BTag3
    BTag3 Posts: 14
    I sometimes look at people's diaries if I'm looking for ideas of things I might could eat and stay within my calorie range... Things that I may not have thought of, or may not have ever tried... but I don't critique anyone, and even though mine is open.. I don't want a critique of mine.

    I'm not on here so that everyone else can tell me what THEY think I should be eating.. I'm doing this for myself..

    ^^ yep^^ True. I have mine open to friends only and my only friends are actually real friends who I've known for years and who are just wanting my support. I don't check on them and critique anything, very rarely look at all actually... and only if I need an idea of what to eat.
  • samiam321123
    samiam321123 Posts: 38 Member
    Most of you have valid points so let's switch gears.

    A lot of us got the way were (are) by not having a clue what to eat, if people allow us to see their diary it gives us the opportunity to see what other people are eating so that we can try those healthy foods ourselves.

    The open diary thing isn't so much about wanting to tell people what they can and can not eat but it's a way of showing we care. An example would be, I can't count the number of people I see who's eating unhealthy (low) amounts of calories so what is so wrong with me caring enough to let them know. People need encouragement from time to time.

    The bottom line is that if people don't like the kind of MFP friend I am, they always have the option to delete me and guess what, only one person has done that.

    I'm not a bad person for caring, we need more of that in this world. John 3:16 :bigsmile:

    So are you venting or are you caring?
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I love your melons, Cory!

    I very, very rarely comment on anyone's food diary unless they're asking for advice. Not a babysitter or a cheerleader.

    I kept my diary open, but I've pretty much stopped logging. When I do log, I don't post my "has completed her food diary" as a status update, because I don't need a "wtg" to let me know I ate well that day.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,290 Member
    I am new and honestly had NO idea that the diary defaulted to private. I changed mine. I dont really have anything I need to keep private. And I would never presume to advise anyone on anything unless they asked for it.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.
  • DarkNebula84
    DarkNebula84 Posts: 445 Member
    I totally understand what you mean! I had a friend that had her diary private and was under all the time, all of her friends kept telling her she was doing so well! How do they know?! Come to find out she was eating one time a day and it was a couple handfuls of popcorn! That is NOT a job well done or something that needs praising!
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.

    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.

    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.

    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.

    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.

    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?

    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Excuse me while I vent.........

    Why is it that people make positive comments under people who refuse to open up their diary?
    They say things like great job logging today, how do they know????

    For me, MFP is all about accountability and if you have to hide your diary, you're not allowing yourself to be held accountable.
    We all mess up from time to time and we are all trying to retrain our minds but come on folks, be accountable for your actions.

    I can not and WILL NOT be supportive of somebody who is hiding something from me.

    You can finish your diary under goal for the day while eating fried chicken, pizza and cotton candy but if I can't see that, how can I help you by making suggestions of healthier options.

    Friends don't lock the door on their true friends and those who lock the door on me will eventually see my name disappear from their friends list.

    That may seem harsh but I'm here to be supportive. I have far too many friends who will let me to waste my time on someone who's unwilling to open up.

    Ok I'm done, let the firestorm begin. Be gentle (LOL)

    Judgmental much?

    Here's the thing...someone hitting 'accept' on the friend request page doesn't give you the right to judge their food quality, and if you require that in order to be someone's friend, you should put it in your profile so they don't waste their time. I log, my diary is locked. There are plenty of reasons for this, which are also none of your business. As long as I'm coming in under my daily calories, I'll burn fat. It doesn't matter if I'm eating 2700cal of pizza, or 2700cal of chicken breast.

    Either way, the fat will come off.

    Now, I can see when someone is eating too little, as has been mentioned, but again, you have the right to say nothing if their diary is locked.

    /sigh...I must be bored...I thought I'd learned not to be sucked in by judgmental threads with no real intellectual or even entertainment value.
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.

    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.

    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.

    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?

    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
    Repeat to herself. " he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old. Bad bad Yanicka"
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    I am 29 years old, I am quite capable of making decisions for myself if I want to eat 1500 calories in fried chicken and cotton candy that is my choice... although I hate cotton candy so it would more likely be 1500 calories in ice cream and steak but thats me.

    I do not even track my exercise here...or click complete on my journal soooo if my friends on here have an issue with that they know how to delete me.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.
    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.
    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.
    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?
    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
    Repeat to herself. " he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old. Bad bad Yanicka"
    20 is legal.
    And I completely agree. We need a certain temperature for accurate weighing.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.
    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.
    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.
    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?
    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
    Repeat to herself. " he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old. Bad bad Yanicka"
    20 is legal.
    And I completely agree. We need a certain temperature for accurate weighing.

    must not imagine everyone naked...
  • KristalDawnO
    KristalDawnO Posts: 154 Member
    Funny. I come to the community for support and discuss what I can do to modify my own behavior, and see the all inspiring pictures!!! As for my diary, that's just it. My diary. I don't accept friendship with people I don't know. My best friend and I are working on this together. She can see everything I log. We discuss in our open wall. We blog. There is nothing wrong with being private and not sharing every little detail of your day with everyone. Weight loss and weight management is personal. It's so much more than food in/out. It is an emotional journey. Everyone's journey is different. Good luck to you on yours :)
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.



    I eat well, talk about the types of food I eat, and offer advice if someone asks me to look at their diary. Otherwise, I'm not their babysitter and they aren't mine, either.
    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.
    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.
    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?
    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
    Repeat to herself. " he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old. Bad bad Yanicka"
    20 is legal.
    And I completely agree. We need a certain temperature for accurate weighing.

    must not imagine everyone naked...

    Why not I do it all the time... I mean.... no thats what I mean
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    It is no one's business whether my melons weigh 130 grams or more.
    may i help you weigh your melons?
    You can weigh one and duharforstået can weigh the other.
    I think we will need weight them many times ,just to be sure.
    Fan herself. Is it hot in here all the sudden?
    I definitely think so, to combat this problem we should remove our clothes to allow body cooling to occur.
    Repeat to herself. " he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old, he is 20 years old. Bad bad Yanicka"
    20 is legal.
    And I completely agree. We need a certain temperature for accurate weighing.
    must not imagine everyone naked...
    Why not I do it all the time... I mean.... no thats what I mean
    I consider that my cardio.
  • velvetkat
    velvetkat Posts: 454 Member
    to the people who have their diaries private or have chosen not to log for whatever the reason you might have... do you have friends here that are people you dont know or just here to have a place to log and keep track of macros?

    just curious
  • RainxPain
    RainxPain Posts: 152
    I keep my diary locked. If anyone truly wanted to see it, they ask for the key. I don't like being judged about what I eat... so people who really care can look.
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    to the people who have their diaries private or have chosen not to log for whatever the reason you might have... do you have friends here that are people you dont know or just here to have a place to log and keep track of macros?

    just curious


    I actually consider pretty much everyone on my friends list really good friends...they have been with me for a long time and have held my metaphorical hand through some pretty crap stuff and talked me off the ice cream ledge of doom more than once... I keep my diary private because I just don't care to have suggestions on what I eat and if I do not track because I just don't feel like it than no one is going to go "you will not succeed if you do not track" I can criticize my self for not doing something I do not need people on my F-list doing it too..
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member

    I consider that my cardio.

    depending on the person it is totally cardio...

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