Lost 44 Pounds And Still HATE My Body

Oh my goodness! You've done great!
Look at your profile pics, you silly girl!!!!
You're looking terrific!
Can't you see the difference? Your clothes HAVE to be fitting better.
Keep up the good work - & congrats!

It will take some time to adjust your mental image of your body to reality. You didn't love your body before you got overweight... so it's not going to be an instant thing where you love your body again.

If it helps, look at small parts of your body that you are proud of. Like, for me, even though I'm not quite halfway to my goal weight (which isn't even skinny as an end goal, just healthy) and I am liking how my knees are starting to look. They look like knees. So I focus on the little parts because like you I don't see any difference in me from before unless I break it down into smaller pieces, when I look at my chin, I see a huge difference, etc.

It will take time but just know that your mental image of yourself is WRONG and that you can't listen to yourself when it comes to your body. You have to work on it.

You are beautiful. Always. REMEMBER THAT!!!. I have struggled with weight most of my life and I too, disliked my body. But, when I looked back at pictures and realized that I was unhappy most of the time. I allowed my weight to dictate how I felt, how I interacted, and what I did. This was my excuse. Please don't allow this to be yours. You have has remarkeable progress to this point. You have achieved and exceeded your goals. You can do anything you set your mind to do. Take time to celebrate your success. Get a massage, pedicure, get your hair styled, or write down the things that you are greatful for ( health, schools out, a particular class is over, etc). You are Beautiful at any size, REMEMBER THAT!!!!!!!

I think you look wonderful, you look like you care, and you should love yourself for the motivation it took you to get to the first 44 down! :flowerforyou: Your face is so lovely, you are bleesed with good looks, you know that?
People tell you you look great because 1) you look great , 2) they want you to know they see the difference (even if you don't) and it's their way to support you on the way.
I have yet find a woman who loves her body for her whole entire lifetime. Girls I regard as stunning will tell me they hate something about the way they look. I'm not different either. As anybody, I have a few spots I almost like .... and a few I don't want to know of.
Don't be hard on yourself, you are healthy, lovable, strong willed. Use the dissapointment for motivation, but look at your life: you have only so many years to be young and vain...it's a shame to spend it beating yourself up.
When I start to hate my hips (I call them Mickey Mouse ears and expecting Disney to call any day that they want them back...:laugh: ) I think about others: my mom who passed away way to young from breast cancer. My daughter who was born without brain. I still hate my hips on those days....but it reminds me it could be worst.

:flowerforyou: Keep going!

There was a show on tv that would pick an overweight person to makeover, one of the things that they did was line up other people in thier underwear ,and have the person having the makeover pick out which person that they thought they most resembled.......... As far as I remember they all picked out someone bigger than they actually were. We never see ourselves they way we really are.

I loved that show! How to look good naked, I think was the name of it. ? :happy:

Yes, that was it.

I lost 82lbs and I think I still look really bad. I think it's a mind game we play with ourself

There was a show on tv that would pick an overweight person to makeover, one of the things that they did was line up other people in thier underwear ,and have the person having the makeover pick out which person that they thought they most resembled.......... As far as I remember they all picked out someone bigger than they actually were. We never see ourselves they way we really are.

As a psych major, I'm sure you've seen those studies where men and women look at silhouettes of body shapes and are supposed to pick out the shape closest to them - same thing; women always pick a shape that's bigger than they really are.

Sometimes we're our own worst enemies, beating up on ourselves for not being perfect rather than celebrating our successes. And you've got a lot to celebrate, you look fabulous!!!

I've been as much as 35 lb heavier than I am now and I can tell you that there's not much difference between my attitude about my body then and now. I can also tell you that there is a huge difference between my attitude about my body when I was 15 (wait, no, 12!) lb slimmer and now. When you get closer to your "right" weight, I think you'll feel better. There's light at the end of the tunnel, yet! Keep up the good work and you'll get there. :flowerforyou:

I am currently 198 pounds, and I look at others around that weight, and to me, they seem so much smaller than I am..

Girl you look awesome! And don't forget that the opposite is also true! I weigh 186 & wish my body had the definition & silhouette yours does. I still wouldn't be caught in outfit like your weighing in your current pic b/c of all my lumps & bumps.

I do feel your pain though! When I look in the mirror I don't see a 49lb difference unless I'm clothed b/c a lot of my previously tight have gotten soo loose that they're starting to look funny.

BUT I have been taking weekly photos from all angles in the same clothes (at least same top) & when I made a side by side of all them from week 1 & a few weeks ago I could see a huge difference. I honestly don't know when I'll be happy with my body because I don't recall a time I have ever been anything other than obese, but I'm hoping to get there someday. Just remember that we're always our own worst critic )

You look AMAZING in your picture! When I look in the mirror I feel the same as I did 60 lbs heavier but now I am 60lbs lighter and in better shape than ever!

Even though I am trying to lose 30 more pounds I know that I am on a positive track to that goal and so are you, good luck to you on your journey!

You had done a very, very good job, to loose 44lbs, that is a nice number. Did You did measurement before You start? I did my number, I can see them going down weight/measuremen and I am very excited..
Just continue what You had be doing, special if You want to loose more, be strong for Your self.

Cheer Your self, with something like, a nice hair cut, nails done ...

Good luck to You, :flowerforyou:

I agree with the prior posters, fantastic difference in pics. For me the key is pictures. When I see a picture of myself, it looks much different to me than looking in the mirror. The human mind is a strange thing. I can't explain it. I just figure that whatever the picture shows is the true way I look.

I still have a ways to go, but at least I am not where I started in April!!! Good luck, and keep thinking positive. For me the thing that helps keep my perspective is to run in to someone I don't see often and have them comment on how much smaller I am. I visited relatives I had not seen since the end of 208 and my aunt marveled at the change. I had dinner with friends and one of them referred to me as "skinny" Of course I told her she needed her eyes checked:laugh: but it still feels good to hear!!