Did you tell anyone?

I am such a private person, that I don't tell anyone anymore. I have in the past to recruit my friends who wanted to lose weight, but I just like it to be my own private thing. Also my husband knows but he doesn't know how much I want to lose etc.

That being said I don't "hide" it. If someone asks me what I am doing I totally recommend this site and tell them things I have learned.

The thought occurred to me to keep it to myself this time, with pretty much the same mindset of wanting to do this for me and not have it be about what anyone else thinks... Problem is, I'm an open book so I couldn't keep my own secret for long. Plus, I was going to WW meetings at work so it was pretty obvious, at least to some of my coworkers, that I was working on losing weight.

The only person who made a negative comment was my brother. I forgave him because I love him but for a while, I was so ticked off that it gave me true motivation. He said something like "oh here we go again" when I told him I was joining WW and boy you better believe I wanted to prove him wrong! Of course more positive reasons to continue took the lead pretty quickly but I'm thankful in a way that he gave me that push.

This is totally cliche but seriously, if she's your best friend, she should be supportive no matter how she feels about it. My gym buddy is jealous of my weight loss because she's been stuck for months. It bothered me at first and I didn't even want to share my successes with her in order to avoid that reaction but after a while I figured it was her problem not mine. I'm going to keep telling her when I lose and maybe it'll tick her off enough to motivate her to change her ways. She does a lot of things right but refuses to track her food...and I just know it would make all the difference.

My point is, if she does react negatively when you do finally tell her, just tell her what you told us - you needed to do it on your own this time. And maybe add on that if she wants to try what you did, you'll give her the website and all that. Ignore her negativity as much as you can.

Best of luck!!

I just started so it could change but I haven't told anyone. I think if I don't tell and people start noticing it will motivate me and make me feel good about how far I've come.:happy: :happy:

I told my husband. That's really it. People noticed though and they noticed I wasn't eating as much and at work I was turning down the meal that they cook in favor of a bag of grapes or whatever - so I told them. Some people are ****s, and will continue to be so. Other people have been really nice. I didn't tell my mum until two weeks ago (she lives in another country so didn't see me and much of my weight issues revolve around family calling me fat as a child).

I told everyone, even post my progress and exercise on Facebook. But it didn't work out the the way I expected. I have about 200 friends (yes I know each one personally) and 3 of them comment/like those posts. If I measured support or caring by responses to my post I would probably have quit. However as I've lost weight and become more active, I care less about what others think. It's sad to think about how many things I've missed out on because I didn't have the confidence to see it through. More amazing is how many things I am planning that I never would have done if I hadn't committed to this journey. I will still talk about it with people who are trying to lose themselves, but it's not something I bring up. I have many friends who sabotage themselves, some who try to take me with them, I hope that when they see how well I'm doing they might change their perspective. Then again they might not. Their health (or lack thereof) is not my concern, that is to say I care about them, but I can't be bogged down by their baggage. I am being selfish for a change. It's about me, and your weigh loss/ increased fitness should be about you.

yes i told.. I had lived a life of hiding dieting before n never worked for me...i lost n then went back to eating n wasnt accountable for nothing...not this time... it's all out there. i am glad i did...for the support i received was wonderful. sure there were a few sabboteurs but my supporters outweighed them.

I think it would be funny if you told them you had cancer, and then later on tell them that you were joking, and that you've been on a diet.

I showed my husband the app after I found it. My doc already told me I needed to stay on a 1200 calorie diet. I tried counting myself but it just wasn't working. So, I use this app, changes the way I eat and stick to the serving size that's suggested for the food. As for my husband and my step son I told them im gonna change what i eat and they can fend for themselves. In awful i know but i do it for me. And its fun trying to make he gole or under the gole along with walking in the yard. My walking app tells me how far I've gone and i try to do a little more each time just to challenge my self.
Go on with Your Way and when you friend notices and wants advice then help her. This is Your thing. And i can see that you realize this in your last post.
By the way, i have MS and started this at 180#'s and have lost 10! And I'm feeling great, with the help of this app and My Walk app I can do this and so can you!

I told no-one, I'd started and gave up so many time I decided not to. Only my boyfriend knows what I'm doing. Also if no-one knows what I'm doing theres not that pressure to HAVE to lose every week or face having to tell people you put on 2lbs. Also its a nice gauge to find out when your weight loss actually starts showing as people start asking if you've lost.

Well said.. I agree! Your personal journey is the perfect way to look at it. It's yours and don't let anyone else divert you from it.

I can so relate! I don't see my family or inlaws very often, but when I do they are always commenting on my weight, or my food. I always bring my own food because I am on a renal/diabetic diet and their meal choices are not appropriate for me. The last time I tried to prepare my own food while I was visiting, (a chicken breast, steamed broccoli and a salad - and not a cheesy soup & pasta casserole with a side of buttered peas and rolls that everyone else was eating), my husband's niece made a comment about me being on another one of my "crazy diets". This is coming from my husband's family who eat Hershey's with almonds for breakfast, and icecream and cookies every night after dinner - and they are all skinny! The truth is, there are always sabateurs out there who mean well - but don't really help. I can completely understand not wanting to tell anyone. That is why I love this site so much, I can get the support I need from people who understand the struggle.

I had to tell MIL cause all she buys/cooks/eats/shoves in my face is GARBAGE... butter this, butter that, here have some chips, lick some salt, I'm gonna go back for 6ths...

I didn't say JACK to anyone else though til I hit 20 pounds.

I have told people - because, it helps keep you more committed! If you don't tell anyone - you might be more likely to slack. No one likes feeling like a hypocrite! Tell people! Then own up to your words! (:

I didn't say anything cause I had JUST gotten through 14 months of pregnancy (long story) where ALL I heard was "do this, don't do that, name the baby this, not that, you're gonna strangle him on his own cord, don't look at anything ugly, if the baby comes out like this it's gonna be all your fault"

So the LAST thing I wanna hear is "you shouldn't eat that, you gave up already? wow I can't even see a difference! guess you can stop now, you're getting too skinny! you don't need to lose weight, you're just big boned! oh really, what diet are you doing? there's so many to choose from! Have you tried weight watchers? I lost 40 pounds then gained it all back!"

I only told my husband at first after I had lost about 20-25 lbs then I started telling other people. I say you need to do what is right for you.....

People know that I eat heathlier now and exercise regularly, but they have no idea that I count my calories or log my exercise.
I wanted to do this for me and I know I am better off keeping the particulars to myself.
I did the same thing when I quit smoking over 8 years ago. They say tell everyone so you are held accountable but I failed several times and it was because everyone kept mentioning smoking and all it made thinking of was having a ciggarette.
So the last time I quit, did not tell anyone...and over 8 years later, I am still smoke-free!
Best of luck to you, you can do it!!! : )