Ever Get Any Back-Handed Compliments?

OddBookOut
OddBookOut Posts: 25 Member
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I'm sure since all of us are striving to make a change or take care of ourselves that we've all had some of these. It's when people want to compliment you but they manage to throw an insult in somehow.

For example: Wow! You look so much better now!

What? Like I wasn't fabulous before?
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  • etavi
    etavi Posts: 85
    "Its not like you don't have a pretty face"
    OH GEE THANKS
  • Atarahh
    Atarahh Posts: 485 Member
    :noway: "You seem happier now"
  • FitnessSista
    FitnessSista Posts: 28 Member
    Yes!
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    "Tell that little lady not to be lifting such heavy weights" - mother-in-law
  • OddBookOut
    OddBookOut Posts: 25 Member
    I heard one the other day, "You have such lovely skin, but most fat girls do." Seriously??? Glad it was only second hand or I would have knocked someone out.
  • Aimyloo
    Aimyloo Posts: 14
    "Its not like you don't have a pretty face"
    OH GEE THANKS

    *But you have such a pretty face/eyes/smile/hair, etc*

    Well, wtf is wrong with the rest of me?

    People don't understand why this is insulting... :(
  • jadedm
    jadedm Posts: 31 Member
    " You're cute in the face, just abit big.." -___-;
  • OddBookOut
    OddBookOut Posts: 25 Member
    "Well at least you have boobs."
  • Zarebeth
    Zarebeth Posts: 136 Member
    "You seem a lot lighter on your feet" Um, duh!!!
  • breskittle
    breskittle Posts: 75 Member
    "Eat a Sandwich" - like um thanks?
    or always calling me "skinny girl" when they talk to me, but the way they say it doesn't sound like a compliment.

    It's like, I like that people think I'm skinny but you're insulting me saying it like that or instead of actually complimenting me or commenting on my weight loss you just tell me to eat more....why so I can me unhappy and chubby and jealous of skinnier people again?
  • katyar95
    katyar95 Posts: 6
    SO glad its not just me!
  • Mira710
    Mira710 Posts: 194 Member
    "You dress well for your size"

    Um thanks, b----.
  • jojopel
    jojopel Posts: 348 Member
    "Whatever weight Jo (me) lost, A (my husband) gained" - coming from my MIL. Way to insult her son :noway:
  • eva_lawlor
    eva_lawlor Posts: 81
    "youre so much smaller, your kinda hot now"

    Oh, i wasnt hot before? thanks >.<
  • RenaeM
    RenaeM Posts: 1
    "You dress so nice....for a big girl"
  • callmejessica
    callmejessica Posts: 1,868 Member
    My ex called me up one day to talk about his new girlfriend. He said, "I have to thank you so much. Because of you, I realized I have to learn how to appreciate others and care about their feelings more." Ummm thanks, where was this revelation DURING our four-year relationship???
  • OddBookOut
    OddBookOut Posts: 25 Member
    "Eat a Sandwich" - like um thanks?
    or always calling me "skinny girl" when they talk to me, but the way they say it doesn't sound like a compliment.

    It's like, I like that people think I'm skinny but you're insulting me saying it like that or instead of actually complimenting me or commenting on my weight loss you just tell me to eat more....why so I can me unhappy and chubby and jealous of skinnier people again?

    My sister is only 14 years old but she gets this all the time! She's gorgeous! The girls in school are jealous of her size though and it's like they think if you aren't overweight it's not an insult to talk about your size. Smaller girls get even more criticism than those trying to lose weight.
  • Aimyloo
    Aimyloo Posts: 14
    My skin is horrible! Oily face & sometimes scalp since I was a teen, scarred since adult onset acne in early 20's and the rest of me is so dry I call it "lizard skin" because It's dry & cracked. Resembles the desert floor, actually :-l

    Another fat person fallacy! Laughable tho.

    I've heard a ton...can't wait to see who posts what!
  • Billywoo
    Billywoo Posts: 141 Member
    Yeah... well guy's get things like, "WOW, you've lost so much weight!! I bet you can see your _____ Better now!!" Whats wrong with people?....
  • OddBookOut
    OddBookOut Posts: 25 Member
    Yeah... well guy's get things like, "WOW, you've lost so much weight!! I bet you can see your _____ Better now!!" Whats wrong with people?....

    OMG You are kidding me!!!
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    My gym buddy said to me, "... you've lost so much weight your stretch marks are really showing". :noway:
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    Haha, SoI'm not the only one. ...not sure I should feel about that.

    The most insulting backhanded compliment I received was, "You'd be so hot if you were 6'!" I'm 5'7''.


    -__- Tanks ladybrah.
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    i had to use a different trainer than i normally do for ONE day..after lifting for 15 minutes he said "wow- you can lift a lot more than i thought you could." :mad:
  • Lushaholic
    Lushaholic Posts: 62
    I joined roller Derby this was a huge breakthrough for me, Someone I know (who supposedly cares for me) be said that is awesome but make sure you can actually do it before you spend all the money on equipment.... I have not been back to roller derby since. I may just be over reacting, i'm not really sure but this really put out my light.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    "You seem pretty cool - but do you always where those rings in your lip?"

    B*tch.
  • fatgirlslove
    fatgirlslove Posts: 614 Member
    'Wow look at you! You're almost as skinny as me" -_-
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    I joined roller Derby this was a huge breakthrough for me, Someone I know (who supposedly cares for me) be said that is awesome but make sure you can actually do it before you spend all the money on equipment.... I have not been back to roller derby since. I may just be over reacting, i'm not really sure but this really put out my light.

    roller derby is soo cool. don't give up that dream!
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    On a first date with a guy who seemed nice before this point, "So, for like a fat chick, your boobs really aren't very big...... the rest of you is ok, but I was expecting bigger. At least your back doesn't hurt all the time." Then he wanted to clink glasses and do a cheers to that!

    I was like... "Wait... WTF?"
  • Hernandeak11
    Hernandeak11 Posts: 351 Member
    Woah, you're not fat anymore!
  • lizzynewm
    lizzynewm Posts: 199 Member
    "When did you get hot?"

    b*tch, since the womb.

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