Just need to VENT and advice?

Really, you are the only one that can motivate and support you. Don't expect your fiancee, the grocery store clerk or anyone else to monitor your activity or what you put into your mouth. My FitBit really motivates me and helps to keep my activity up which allows me to eat more. You obviously know what you need to do - you did it before. Best of luck!

I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend works 12 hours a day and gets back around 8p and just wants to gorge on junk food. To add to that I also have a tendency to eat very little throughout the day but once the sun goes down I become a ravenous monster. I find what really helps is trying to always cook for my boyfriend when he gets home, that way he can't suggest we go out to eat because the food is already there. If you are too tired to cook all the time try cooking meals over the weekends and freezing them, so you just have to heat them up around meal time.

I won't lecture you because I did the same thing myself. You have to want it more than anything else. Put yourself first. No one is going to care more about your weight or your health more than you. No one. You have to love yourself the most.

Really, you are the only one that can motivate and support you. Don't expect your fiancee, the grocery store clerk or anyone else to monitor your activity or what you put into your mouth. My FitBit really motivates me and helps to keep my activity up which allows me to eat more. You obviously know what you need to do - you did it before. Best of luck!

Hmm.. I'm sorry but I'll have to disagree- I think that others can motivate and support me. I don't EXPECT anyone to do anything for me, but having a support system makes all the difference in the world- hence, reasons that this website has forums available to ask questions and gain friendships, even if it is just through an online outlet. What is the FitBit? I'm interested in that. I didn't mean to sound rude or anything, I'm just respectfully disagreeing. I appreciate the advice, though.

No offense taken. A FitBit is a small device that you can clip to your bra strap or on your pants and it tracks your activity level and number of steps. It also tracks flights of stairs. It really helped me to see how much (little actually) activity I was getting. There is a web site that displays how active (sedentary, lightly active, fairly active, very active hours and percentage of the day). It then helps you calculate how many calories you should be eating. I walk/run longer and faster now and set up goals each week based on my calculations through this site.

Side note - I do know that it is nice to have someone to support you, especially your spouse, or soon to be spouse. Truth is, it doesn't always happen, at least not the way we want them to. If he doesn't see you really working for it, he isn't going to be going after you trying to get you to do it. He may not even feel that you need to lose weight and may feel like he would be pushing you in the wrong direction by saying something like, honey, I thought you wanted to lose weight. Why are you shoveling down wings and beer with me? Have you talked to him about it? I would think that more of your problem right now is new town, no friends in the area and a significant other that is at work very long hours. It is hard to adjust to a new place and new routine.

I am going through the same thing you are. I got off the wagon, had lost almost 20 lbs but then stopped doing what I should be doing and I gained about 5 of it back. I am also getting married in October and want to not worry that my dress will be too tight. Last night I got home, planned out my workouts until the end of September. I'm training for a half marathon so that's my workouts for the next three months. I did my first run this morning, and am letting myself enjoy the rest of the holiday weekend, then tomorrow I am back on track with my eating and making sure I'm eating the right foods at the right portions. It's hard for me to cook for my fiance and make healthy things he likes, so I figure if I eat a healthy breakfast and a healthy lunch, I'll just allow myself to eat a normal dinner but in better portion sizes. At least that's what I think will work for me.

Good luck! The biggest thing is remembering WHY you are trying to lose the weight and keep going with that. It's hard but I got a total high off of constantly seeing the scale go down...and then it stopped

I recently switched jobs - in doing so, I completely changed my schedule (and routine). So, I understand how easy it is to fall off the wagon and how hard it is to climb back on. My best advice is to try and make some meals ahead of time and freeze them. That way when your boyfriend gets home from work, you can pull out a pre-portioned meal and eat something healthy with him even if he chooses to eat fast food or junk food. You can't change his eating habits or choices... you can only change your own.

Also, I know that I will want to eat more at the end of the day (this is a hold over from my days working 2nd shift), so I make sure I eat lighter through the day in order to accommodate the fact that I'll want to eat more later in the day. If you think you'll want to eat more later, eat lighter through the day so you'll have calories left.

As for working out, you could rent a workout dvd from the library or go to a second hand bookstore and buy a couple. If you live on an upper floor and are worried about bothering your neighbors, go down and ask them "Is it okay if I workout between 2-3pm? There may be extra noise coming from my house, but it'll only be for an hour or so". It shows that you respect them and they'll be happy about it.

#1 - You can do this!!!!! I understand the whole frustration thing, and it being hard to get motivated. I started out with my eating. I got rid of all of the junk, and ate clean while working out only a couple of times a week. Now that my eating is conquered, I am exercising six days a week, and am LOVING IT!!!

#2 - Talk to your man. Tell him why you want to get fit (not skinny, not "I want to look good in my gown"). Enlist his help!! If he is working crazy hours, and is stuffing his face with junk food late at night, it's probably safe to assume that he could also use some help in the fitness department. DO IT TOGETHER!!!! I moved 2,000 miles away from all of my family and friends, so I understand that it can be difficult to not have a support system. Start cooking healthier meals, banish the bulk of the junk food from your home. If he wants chips and candy, he is going to have to make the trip to buy it. Tell him that you don't want him to eat it around you because this is really important to you. If he truly realizes how this affects you, he will make changes (even if it means that he eats the same things before coming home)!!!

#3 - Joining the Y is a great idea!!

#4 - Apartment exercising - yes I have done it. If you want to do it - DO IT!!!! If your downstairs neighbors feel like the sky is falling, they will let you know, and you can modify your workout at that time. Don't let not knowing stop you!!! If you know them (even if you don't), you could always just go down and let them know, "Hey, I'm really focused on getting fit right now, and I would love to do workouts here at home! At the same time, I don't want to bother you. If it gets too loud, or if you ceiling is shaking, please let me know!!" That lets them know what you are doing, and maybe they won't care since they know you are exercising, and there isn't a live WWF smack down going on above them!!! LOL!!! Also, maybe finding out when they are at work, or what time they get up could be good too. If you are going to worry about it too much, you probably won't be motivated to do it, so either get past that, or go out and find another way to exercise!!!

You CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!