i'm scared and need support from anyone willing to help

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  • glennstoudt
    glennstoudt Posts: 403 Member
    Several weeks ago one of my twin daughters best friends Mom passed away from complications due to her obesity. I'm afraid I am on the same path. I started the program two weeks ago and so far so good. I have been diligent about keeping track of my daily calories. My girls bought me a stationary bike for Mothers Day and I use it daily. That being said, I need all the moral support I can get so I don't become another statistic. I'm just sorry it took a life changing event to open my eyes. If anyone out there can just give me a quick 'way to go' or high 5 I would appreciate it more than you'll ever know. Thanks everyone!

    You have a plan. The quick way to go is to stick to the plan. Do not cave in to food pressures or miss your exercise for any reason at least for a time, say til you get to an interim goal or a certain time frame. Personally I don't believe in off days for calorie counts or lack of activity days. It doesn't have to be work if you do your level best to make it a challenge, a contest, a game. It doesn't have to be work, again. It has to be your new lifestyle. It is not a diet.

    Tell as many people as you can bear what you are doing and ask for their support. Some will give it. Some will have other reactions. Ignore the not so favorable reactions. When you make first a commitment to yourself, and then a broader commitment to friends and family, you have a much better opportunity to stay with it for the long haul, as in the rest of your hopefully long life. Good luck.

    PS. The MFP community is as good as any for external support, so welcome.
  • Venturin
    Venturin Posts: 244 Member
    Hi Riotsgram,

    It appears you are being overwhelmed with good wishes and wonderful support!

    Don't be afraid, all journeys begin with a first step and you are already past that, welcome to MFP and enjoy your path to your new healthy lifestyle! I added you

    -V-
  • gaffneymyles
    gaffneymyles Posts: 1
    hi...I'm scared too. I am 50 lbls overweight and have been told I need a hip replacement at age 54.
  • opaedas
    opaedas Posts: 3 Member
    Hey, awesome that you've decided to get on the healthy lifestyle while you're above ground for sure!!! We can only do what we put forth the effort to do, and sometimes it does take that "Ah ha" moment to spark us and fuel our fire. So here's a BIG HI-FIVE from me!! You're on your way, try to focus on the journey and leave the destination ahead for right now if things get frustrating. Always remember, every healthy choice you make us for the better... you will never feel good about unhealthy choices after they are made, but you will NEVER REGRET a good choice once you've taken the steps to make it. Longterm goals are essential, but short term are where we are every day. Taking it one day at a time and keeping it realistic is the way to make little bits of progress constantly. And you know what?? All those little bits ADD UP to a LARGER whole in time. It takes time to get it right, every mistake is simply a learning experience and a way to progress and move forward. Try to not beat yourself up if you slip, think positive things like "Well, I know what not to do next time, or what to avoid so I don't repeat the same bad habit". Please feel free to add me, and I'll be here for support for whatever questions you may have. If I don't know the answer, I will surely find resources so you can get the answer!!

    Bravo and keep up healthier living!!

    Mal
  • jadedbutterfly71
    jadedbutterfly71 Posts: 83 Member
    You got this!! Stay focussed and stay positive! Feel free to add me :flowerforyou:
  • lynette221
    lynette221 Posts: 2
    I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, you be okay. You'll be fine just take each day at a time and don't beat yourself up if you get off track. Continue your walking and your bike.You can do this. I had the lapband surgery and still find it hard because now it's all up to me after 132 pounds lost. I found out that Zumba is a great way to reduce and add acrdio with fun dancing. Try that if you can and just go slow no rush. YOU CAN DO THIS. and most of all have fun.
  • czuniga03
    czuniga03 Posts: 99
    Hang in there a death in the family is tough but 3..It's time to change your destiny! Feel free to add me :smile:
  • Cyngen
    Cyngen Posts: 557 Member
    Feel free to add me as well. You took the path to improve and this site an the friends you get will help.

    I'm sorry for your loss.
  • ConnieBoles
    ConnieBoles Posts: 7 Member
    High five. Just do not stop trying, small steps will keep you going.
  • glennstoudt
    glennstoudt Posts: 403 Member
    hi...I'm scared too. I am 50 lbls overweight and have been told I need a hip replacement at age 54.

    8 months ago I was 40 pounds overweight. I think you will hear similar stories from many here. Being overweight you can fix in the kitchen, about 80% of that weight. The rest will be activity related, referred to as exercise calories here. Sounds like you might have some temporary mobility issues, so your exercise might be different, but to the extent you can, you have to keep moving.

    My mother had a hip replacement at age 84. She's fine, now she's 86. Just one example, but......

    So, back to the weight issue. Symptoms that will improve or go away when you drop the weight include but are not limited to reduced inflammation, reduced joint pain which will lead to more activity which will lead to more weight loss. Look into an anti-inflammatory diet and supplements. Most of the medical conditions we experience in life are in some way related to diet. Some very short term improvements can be made by adapting some proven strategies for the reduction of inflammation in the body.
    And I am talking food, not big Pharma.

    Research it, come up with a plan. You can do it by taking the first step. Good luck.
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    sounds to me like you are doing what you need to - buckling down and getting started on the right path! Small changes add up - keep going with the bike (awesome gift by the way) and try to alter what you eat some.

    Hang in there - you are doing great!
  • JacquelineKalipeni
    JacquelineKalipeni Posts: 2
    The first step is admitting you have a problem! I HAVE A PROBLEM TOO!! We are all in this together!! Please feel free to add me as a friend.
  • rammsteinsoldier
    rammsteinsoldier Posts: 1,552 Member
    I would love to be your friend.
  • edjack
    edjack Posts: 20 Member
    Hi feel free to add me I'm on your team...
  • KJLIII
    KJLIII Posts: 225 Member
    ^5^ ! !

    The first step is the hardest one, and you've done that already - Great job ! ! Sorry about the friend's mom... that's awful. I'm saying a little prayer for that family, and all who were/are affected by the loss...

    I think we've all gotten a "wake-up" call in one way or another, and that's why we're here. Since I've been here, I've learned a LOT about eating healthy (or healthier!) and have been adjusting as necessary. Like many have said already, this is a lifestyle change - because we want this to last... diets come and go and wreak havoc on our bodies. Each one of us are learning about taking care of ourselves and are making the changes that help us reach the goals we KNOW we need to get to. It's always great to have encouragement and support in that journey, and that's the wonderful thing about MFP ! I'm sending you a friend request, and hope I can encourage you in this...

    Glad you're here ! ! :flowerforyou:
  • Dayna154
    Dayna154 Posts: 910 Member
    this is a great place to be for what you want to do. There are lots of people here in the same boat as you, or were in the past. There are lots of supportive people here willing to help and encourage you along the way.
    Add me if you'd like..
  • riotsgram
    riotsgram Posts: 24 Member
    Oh my gosh! I am sitting here in tears because I can't believe all the support I have gotten in just minutes. I joined in Jan. because my daughter sort of forced me into it but this time I did it for myself. Thanks so much and I will support anyone else who needs it.
  • Amygk22
    Amygk22 Posts: 3
    Keep at it...once you atart to see results it gets you even more motivated!! Do things that make you feel better about yourself, this will encourage you to lose weight. It does me anyhow.
    If you can, go get manicures and pedicures!! If helps!
  • ritzema5
    ritzema5 Posts: 57 Member
    I sent you a friend request. You have started on the right path and soon you'll be seeing results.
  • simone4uandme
    simone4uandme Posts: 13
    Hello! I'm right there with you, if I even make it to 60 I will be begging for death if I keep going in the direction I WAS headed. You are not alone!! I sent you a friends request. :smile:
  • SarLem81
    SarLem81 Posts: 115 Member
    Feel free to add me. I'm getting my weight in control because my mom passed away due to complications from diabetes. I don't want to pass away at 55....
  • stephanj
    stephanj Posts: 898 Member
    This community is filled with people who have been where you are (including myself) and have succeeded. The number one key is NEVER GIVE UP. You will have bad moments, you will have backslides. Don't ask yourself for perfection. But commit to the long term. Commit to a year, five years, the marathon begins with one step. We are here for you :-)
  • gobraves47
    gobraves47 Posts: 213 Member
    You can do it--you have a great motivation for getting and staying healthy! My own health issues have finally made me stop ignoring it and take control.
    :happy:
  • kitnkath1
    kitnkath1 Posts: 1
    :smile: You can do it! It starts with you wanting to do it and if you do....it's as good as done! Baby steps to start, making one mistake doesn't equal failure just the need to try harder, and eat for health first then taste!
  • kungfuguy45
    kungfuguy45 Posts: 7
    Ride the bike and lose weight and eat right. When I was 42 years old. I lost 100 Lbs in 1989. Only thing stopping you is you!
  • jennymin77
    jennymin77 Posts: 3
    Howdy, It is so good to meet you. Let's root one another on. It is hard work, but we can do it. I too, have gained weight. 12 years ago I was 119, now I am 155. I have a few medical conditions which helped in the weight gain. Now I too need help getting it off. How much weight do you want to get rid of? I am aiming for 20 pounds.
    Praying that we both can be there for eachother.
    It is good to meet you.
    I joined 2 days ago.
    with love Michele :wink:
  • Sassybrat1
    Sassybrat1 Posts: 3
    I think you are amazing that you are taking the first steps. I have been doing this for about 2 months and am doing fairly well. I give you tons of credit posting to the board which I have yet to do. I will be checking on your progress and may send an email from time to time to keep you on track.

    Wishing you the best! :happy:
  • SunshineNurse35
    SunshineNurse35 Posts: 2
    Take each day at a time! Keep up the good work! Losing weight has been the hardest task for me ever, but I won't give in! Neither will you!:wink:
  • stratusofkiser
    stratusofkiser Posts: 54 Member
    I would love to be your friend. Feel free to add me! ::)
  • ultim8one
    ultim8one Posts: 80 Member
    SLAP !!! <high five> .... keep at it ... connsistency ... consistency ... consistency

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