Is it wrong that I have noticed more female attention ?

I am married and very loyal. Since the weight loss I have noticed more female attention and I like it is it wrong to use it as motivation.

Oh dude, no worries man. I been with my lady for 4 years and known her for 20 years now... And my biggest motivation is the attention I get from other ladies. She shouldn't get jealous, just like I think when I notice someone checking out my lady everyone should have this mentality of (if someone checks out what you have) "They want what I got" (that can go as in they want your sig other and it can go as in they want you, either way its a huge compliment)

But yeah nothing wrong with loving the attention, as long as it ends there.

Keep it up man.

There is nothing wrong with liking the attention and using it to continue to motivate you to work out and eat right.. but that is all it should be.. Compliments taken with a grain of salt.

You should be speaking to your wife.. Wanting her to be jealous of attention given to you by other females, b/c your not getting the attention from her could potentially open a can of worms that may or may not be in the relationship already.

There is nothing wrong with liking the attention and using it to continue to motivate you to work out and eat right.. but that is all it should be.. Compliments taken with a grain of salt.

You should be speaking to your wife.. Wanting her to be jealous of attention given to you by other females, b/c your not getting the attention from her could potentially open a can of worms that may or may not be in the relationship already.

What she said was perfect.

I hope she does get a bit jelous!

Why would you hope that she gets jealous? You're an asshat!!

You just said you love her to bits......but now you're saying you want her to get
jealous!?:noway:

I was about to say..before reading this comment..

Attention from the opposite sex is fine..and flattering..just don't let it go to your head...

Too late..you already have.

I love how quick women are to judge. Maybe his wife doesn't give him any attention. Maybe she is rotten to him. Maybe he does everything for her and gets nothing in
return...been known to happen.

Attention goes both ways...and if she senses this attitude, well then....compliments are really hard to give.

When your motivation is to look good to "others"..rather than your SO.....that's when the problem developes.

Don't give me that "Women are so quick to judge!" line.........he put it out there.

I had a girl from one of my classes ask me if I wanted to get some coffee. My wedding ring no longer fits so I wear it on a chain around my neck. I politely told her that I was married, but if she would like to get a drink and chat that's cool.

My wife has really enjoyed my weight loss though. It makes me happy in so many different ways

No, just don't act on it.

The lads will just give back hand comments(especially friends), girls seem to be more genuine.

I wouldn't get carried away, I have never cheated on any g/f and never intend to, I love her to bits been with her for a long time.

But I was also very shy when younger and lacked confidence so the girls would normally make a b-line for my friends so I find it quite interesting. One told me I had nice legs that has never happened before!!!!!!

My wife doesn't really comment, or has given me any other 'attention', once I think she said something.

your wife sees you every day it might be hard for her to see the results.

sounds like there are some deeper issues here.

It's nice to be appreciated by the opposite sex. I don't see it as bad motivation. My husband kinda takes it as a compliment when other men stare at me.

I compliment people all the time (male or female) when they achieve their weight loss goals. It is a matter of admiration, not physical attraction.

My husband rarely gives me compliments either...I do find it disappointing. But I'm learning that people who struggle with their own self-worth and value are not capable of giving compliments in the genuine sense. My husband has some issues with that. I decided this weight loss journey was going to be my own when I got no support from him or saw any interest from him to join me. He has high blood pressure and abdominal fat. As we get older, it gets harder and harder to lose weight.

Everyone enjoys getting some attention from the opposite sex. It makes you feel attractive. As long as you aren't flirting back, your good to go

As my mother says, "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, just as long as you come home for dinner".

This^^^^^^^^

I am married and loyal as well but I get a kick out of the look from something as they see something they can not have. And the evil bad girl in me thought it hilarious when a married man obviously gave me the once over to be promptly slapped by his wife. (I did not provoke this once over I was walking back from a rest room to go sit at the table with my friends and husband) We are all human and by nature we like to feel wanted. I say enjoy as long you do not partake....my husband and I are okay with one another reading the menu so to say as long as neither of us orders. We know who we go home with. Just because you admire does not mean you are cheating.

no way! It's not like you're cheating. Having people look at you and give you posivibes is totally ok (in my opinion) as long as you aren't playing the field or whatever.

My bf loves me no matter what. And he is the one I care about most. But he would tell me I'm beautiful regardless of my figure (cuz you know thats how love is!). So when random stranger tells me I look good, or coworker comments that I'm getting buff, I feel super good about that because they don't "love" me and they aren't blinded by that love.

It might sound dumb, but it's true. My BF saying i'm gorgeous means the most to me. But strangers saying it is what i think is more objectively true. hahahaha!

Nope not at all, the actions of others are not your responsibility.

I don't see anything wrong with it, and to those who cried "jerk" right off the bat are overreacting. Yes, it could have been worded differently, but if you're not receiving the kind of attention or appreciation you deserve, then yeah those are the kind of feelings that come across. My wife is the one out there beaming to her friends etc about my weight loss. That's what a true spouse should be doing....not only applauding your effort, but showing their appreciation to your friends etc. \m/