Why wont you open your diary?

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  • jaspn1981
    jaspn1981 Posts: 24 Member
    @Sniperzzzz,

    Hey man, how do you set your fitness bar from losing LBS - to LBS gained?
  • JonathonMars
    JonathonMars Posts: 358 Member
    I think mine is open---though I have seen several people think there diaries were open when they were not--I don't really care. I can see how some people could have been raised in an environment where it may be impolite or rude to talk about that sort of thing--we are all from different cultures/regions with different experiences.

    I figure if I want to eat any entire chocolate cake and someone wants to have a problem with it, it doesn't matter to me. But to each their own.
  • aftergypsies
    aftergypsies Posts: 248 Member
    I opened it for a while then I got a message telling me I don't eat enough because I am under my goal by 200cals. Which, is whatever lol. I told them I don't log certain things and I don't but I also don't really need people messaging me giving me tips either especially when I didn't ask for them.
  • LynC33
    LynC33 Posts: 196
    I dont lock my diary. Simply because Im human and we all have good and bad days. If someone wants to judge me for having the occassional icecream or chocolate....well Im sorry Im not perfect, get over it! Alot of people on this site ive noticed(usually the ones who jump down peoples throats for having a "bad food" item) expect you to be so strict with food and to never veer off. Well simply put, that is not life. NO food is off limits to me, If I want it, I'll have it, just in moderation.
  • sniperzzzz
    sniperzzzz Posts: 282 Member
    @Sniperzzzz,

    Hey man, how do you set your fitness bar from losing LBS - to LBS gained?
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker/update_weight :smile:
  • xxSjayxx
    xxSjayxx Posts: 56 Member
    Mines completely open because I dont mind if people have an insight to a normal day for me.

    I appreciate all the feedback (including the redicule :tongue: )
  • JonathonMars
    JonathonMars Posts: 358 Member
    I also have to remember that some people have really judgmental friends on here, which I don't get--then again, I have tried to have friends, and just stopped trying, cause I find it pretty pointless. Some random person saying "Way to go" on something I posted isn't really gonna change what I do--it may help some people though. Honestly, I think having an actual relationship with someone would maybe help, but so far, I've decided that 99% of the people on this site I have absolutely nothing in common with.
  • JonathonMars
    JonathonMars Posts: 358 Member
    I dont lock my diary. Simply because Im human and we all have good and bad days. If someone wants to judge me for having the occassional icecream or chocolate....well Im sorry Im not perfect, get over it! Alot of people on this site ive noticed(usually the ones who jump down peoples throats for having a "bad food" item) expect you to be so strict with food and to never veer off. Well simply put, that is not life. NO food is off limits to me, If I want it, I'll have it, just in moderation.

    Amen!
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    mines open i know i eat like crap, i dont realy care who els knows
  • sniperzzzz
    sniperzzzz Posts: 282 Member
    I opened it for a while then I got a message telling me I don't eat enough because I am under my goal by 200cals
    This is one of the reasons mine is locked!
  • 22colin
    22colin Posts: 31
    I get some good hints/tips/ideas from looking at what others are eating - especially people that are successful.
    Given that, I think it's only fair to have my diary open as well. It also adds a level of accountability & helps to keep me honest.

    If you want to review & be negative, then that's OK, I can take it :sad: however, I have to say most feedback is positive & even if I don't agree or take the advice, it gives you something to think about.

    I find the real value on MFP is the community - sharing with others that are on a similar journey - there are a lot of people out there that have a lot of knowledge & experience to share - seems to me that if you keep your diary closed (& others keep their diaries closed) then we don't get the full benefit.

    DISCLAIMER: THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED HERE ARE MINE & I'M NOT PREACHING TO OTHERS OR SUGGESTING THAT YOU SHOULD CHANGE YOUR OWN VIEWS :wink:
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    I don't want anyone seeing my salt water - honey - deviled egg cleanse logged.
  • NU2U
    NU2U Posts: 659 Member
    Several reasons....

    *I love chocolate
    *Some days I consume entirely too few calories
    *Somedays I consume too many calories
    *Somedays my macros are under/over

    But..I log daily, regardless...for ME.

    Besides...my temper can be somewhat nasty..and I'd hate to be the person who attempts to "scold" me for something *I* wrote..in *my* diary.
  • jamm2000
    jamm2000 Posts: 79
    My diary is open because I think it encourages me to be more honest with myself and do the right thing. For me, this group is about accountability. If I'm not losing weight I want my friends to look at my diary and tell me its cuz I'm eating strawberry pop tarts for breakfast every morning. To each his own.
  • Wendyerickson
    Wendyerickson Posts: 73 Member
    I sooooo agree :)
  • kstep88
    kstep88 Posts: 403 Member
    i use the food notes section to write about my feelings for the day, binges (if I have one), and digestive stuff. Not really things I want to share with the public. I do post a lot of recipes, so my friends have an idea of the foods I make and I talk about what I eat a lot, so I don't really care about showing what I eat, I just like the thought of having a private little journal on this journey of mine. :)
  • ishtar13
    ishtar13 Posts: 528 Member
    It's between me and my nutritionist; no one else needs to see it.
  • sniperzzzz
    sniperzzzz Posts: 282 Member
    Btw personally i don't want to look at peoples diary's. But if they wanted some advice, like stuck at a plateau, i would rather they opened it so i could give then some solid advice, instead of guessing and giving them the wrong advice.
  • fitniknik
    fitniknik Posts: 713 Member
    I had mine open to everyone and some weird guy kept emailing me that "I ate too many processed foods" which I dont believe I do. I have it open to friends because I do like feedback from my trusted friends and I also use it to keep myself in track knowing that they "could" look at it
  • Fitfortat
    Fitfortat Posts: 47
    I'm thinking this is not the type of site where people are going to judge you for not showing your food diary. We are all struggling with something. I think perhaps you should just not overthink how people may percieve your decisions.
  • psychofantasy
    psychofantasy Posts: 71
    I get some good hints/tips/ideas from looking at what others are eating - especially people that are successful.
    Given that, I think it's only fair to have my diary open as well. It also adds a level of accountability & helps to keep me honest.

    If you want to review & be negative, then that's OK, I can take it :sad: however, I have to say most feedback is positive & even if I don't agree or take the advice, it gives you something to think about.

    I find the real value on MFP is the community - sharing with others that are on a similar journey - there are a lot of people out there that have a lot of knowledge & experience to share - seems to me that if you keep your diary closed (& others keep their diaries closed) then we don't get the full benefit.

    DISCLAIMER: THE OPINIONS EXPRESSED HERE ARE MINE & I'M NOT PREACHING TO OTHERS OR SUGGESTING THAT YOU SHOULD CHANGE YOUR OWN VIEWS :wink:

    ^^^THIS^^^

    Although I only keep it open to friends. I do, however, understand the urge to 'fudge' your diary. I fudged once in the beginning...but only once. And it felt dirty. That in itself is motivation to do better.
  • Reecebullet
    Reecebullet Posts: 141 Member
    My reasons for a closed diary seem to be about the same as most peoples. I log the food I eat for my own sake, not for my friends here. If I need help with a food choice, I ask for it. I don't want people saying to me "You shouldn't have eaten that" or "Eat more of this.." based on my log as everyone makes bad decisions from time to time, as I'm aware of what I should have ate or did eat already.

    I understand why people do open them up, as they do want to know what they should be eating, or to help other people understand /inspire what they could eat. I just log so that I know how many calories I've had that day is all.
  • LisaBeateith2012
    LisaBeateith2012 Posts: 346 Member
    I have my diary on public, I do not particularly care if anyone looks at it, I am not ashamed to log all my bad foods, people can critize away. I do not give a flying F*kc!!! Hahahahahahaha!:laugh:
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    Mine is public. I really don't care what people say about it. I use it to be honest with myself about what I eat. I do keep it open so that I can ask questions about where I could make substitutes or how I can up my protein sometimes. I live by the philosophy of I don't tell you that you're doing everything wrong, please grant me the same courtesy.
  • jchowarth
    jchowarth Posts: 7
    Ok i was board so decided to ask a question, as the title says, Why wont you open your diary? I will go first, my diary is locked with key i will open it on request. The reason its locked with key code is, some days my calories do go quite low, not stupidly low and are swiftly followed by a few higher days, for that reason i don't want people, to judge me or be influenced by my lower day calories. Feel free to say, because its none of your damn business, im ready for the blows :laugh:
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    Because I rarely use my diary... I track my food but not on here - I use the food diary to look up the stuff for food. and before I get 100 questions asking why I don't use the diary on here - its because the app wont work on my phone, the mobile browser sucks, I have NO access while at work so I have to write it down in a note book anyways and I am lazy and I hate doing things twice.
  • LynC33
    LynC33 Posts: 196
    My diary is open because I think it encourages me to be more honest with myself and do the right thing. For me, this group is about accountability. If I'm not losing weight I want my friends to look at my diary and tell me its cuz I'm eating strawberry pop tarts for breakfast every morning. To each his own.

    LOL I luv this. 99% of the feedback Ive had has been positive, even when Ive gone over my calories. Generally speaking, People will judge regardless, they dont know what the busyness of your life is like or what goes on in your day that may affect you emotionally,so let all those people keep swimming in their little pool of negativity and say whatever crap they want, you know you are strong enough to ignore it.
  • megsmom2
    megsmom2 Posts: 2,362 Member
    Mine is open to ftiends only. I have more than enough trolls in my life.
  • graelwyn
    graelwyn Posts: 1,340 Member
    Mine is thus far open to friends, none of whom have judged me on what I eat, and I am fairly sure most know by now that I struggle with bulimia and balancing my food and exercise. If anyone did get unkind about it, rather than encouraging and supportive, they would be swiftly removed, as I am already my own harshest critic.
  • AnnMarie518
    AnnMarie518 Posts: 93
    Mine is open because I'm more inclined to stay on track if I know other people can see what I'm eating. I must have lovely friends because even if I've have a bad day, nobody is mean to me! :laugh:

    I like to see peoples diaries because it gives me new ideas on what I can eat. Also if they are doing well, it's good to see how they're doing it.

    I completely agree. I like to see what others are eating because it helps give me good healthy choices that I may not have known about. It really helps me!!

    Also I have not had a problem with any negitive comments, course I only have my diary open to my friends and I am choosing them carefully. I have no problem with someone on my FL offering suggestions, as long as its not judgemental. Part of the reason I'm on here is for support. Plus it does make me more accountable for what I eat.

    I suppose it depends on your reasons, and personal feelings. Just like fitness, it should be whatever works for YOU personally.

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