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  • nailqueen74
    nailqueen74 Posts: 38 Member
    Don't ever ask your boyfriend/husband if you need to lose weight. That is not fair to ask. You need to do it for yourself, not anyone else.
  • Koshkaxo
    Koshkaxo Posts: 332 Member
    I asked my bf the same thing, and he told me Yes, I needed to lose weight. His answer hurt a bit, but overall Im happier he was honest with me. Ask your.man again and reassure him you wont be angry with him, and then make sure you arent! Haha
  • Robin_Bin
    Robin_Bin Posts: 1,046 Member
    You say you'd be ok with his answer either way. But you asked us a question; the general consensus in the answers you're getting is that the question you asked him was a "no-win / unfair" question and you seem to be rejecting the answer. If this is any indication, then no, you really wouldn't be ok either way with his answer. In fact, his "I don't know" may be his true answer... he may not have thought about your weight as much as you do. Many men are pretty clueless about how much women weigh or "should weigh".

    You're hurt by this answer, which could be his true answer. You reject the answers you're getting here. Think again about whether you're truly open to honesty and any answer he may give you.

    Also important here (as others have pointed out) is that his answer to your question is no where near as important as yours. It's your body. Do you think it would be healthier or feel better?

    Good luck with whatever you decide.
  • PayneAS
    PayneAS Posts: 669 Member
    I was just a bit concerned that he's overly interested in the fact my sister has lost weight and keeps commenting on it.

    That's probably what you need to talk to him about then. Tell him that it bothers you/upsets you that he's commenting on your sister's weight loss. Ask him why he keeps mentioning it.
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    It's annoying as he commented my sister has lost weight and is looking good (I'm 12000 miles away from him at the moment).

    GRRR.

    He's not sleeping with your sister. Talking to you requires much more diplomacy.

    [I just read the above comment. Whoops.]
  • FlittyGetsFit
    FlittyGetsFit Posts: 94
    I asked my husband what your boyfriend might have meant. His reply was that boyfriend only wanted to say what you wanted to hear, and didn't know what you wanted to hear!

    When last year I asked my husband the same question, he replied, I think you're completely beautiful, but if you think you need to lose weight I'll support you. I thought that was a pretty much perfect answer!
  • sneekspeete
    sneekspeete Posts: 136
    That's like asking a dude "does this make me look fat? "There is no right answer for him! Dammed if u do, n damned if u don't
  • stapler689
    stapler689 Posts: 2 Member
    Do not ask a man. Because he feels no answer is the right answer........
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    It's not his choice. Only you can say if you need to change something about yourself. So IMO, he was spot on.
  • shelleyannefriend
    shelleyannefriend Posts: 11 Member
    That's a leading question and there is no right answer. It's like when the prosecutor asks the defendant "do you still beat your wife?" Either way, the answer is potentially fatal to your relationship.

    We all need support from our partners but really, if they are who we think they are, they will love us no matter what.

    THe MFP club needs to support you so you don't go to your BF for weight loss support. Most people don't care what we eat or what we weigh and they really are not interested in our obsession. That's why we are here for each other.
  • jacque1129
    jacque1129 Posts: 113 Member
    that's a trick question! my girlfriend asks me if i think she should lose weight i always go with whatever makes you happy babe. works like a charm. guys don't seem to be as well thought out. but being a girl i know my way out of things.
  • CuteKitten92
    CuteKitten92 Posts: 3
    My boyfriend and i are overweight .So were both working together to lose weight =) he's honest with me we both tell each other the truth i know i'm over weight and need to lose! Where in this together i love him to death and he feels the same we want to be healthy to live a long life together! =)
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Yup. Pleading the 5th. I did that for a while myself.
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