Real Question for Men!

tie him to the bed and sit on his face until he satisfies you !!!!!!

So, if he's not physically attracted to you, how is it that you're living together? You're not supporting him or anything are you? Cuz the only other answer I can come up with is he's gay and just hasn't admitted it yet.

So, if he's not physically attracted to you, how is it that you're living together? You're not supporting him or anything are you? Cuz the only other answer I can come up with is he's gay and just hasn't admitted it yet.

Ditto

I'm going to take a stab in the dark here, and I might be totally way out of line. But how much porn does he look at? everything you described in your post suggests he may be addicted to porn and covering up by saying you turn him off. Porn addicts (male) will often avoid sex because #1 they can't get it up or keep it up or #2 have trouble with PE. They often won't kiss or engage in foreplay that doesn't directly benefit them....you don't have to kiss a laptop...

Lots of guys who prefer porn to the real deal will say they don't want sex with you because you aren't attractive enough. But the REAL truth is that they are avoiding intimacy and their own hand is alot easier than doing all the work with a real person. The worst part is that being with a chronic porn user will destroy your self esteem.

Sorry if I'm being too graphic for you. And it's not my intention to offend.

i belive what u are saying

read this

SOLO SEX (MALE AND FEMALE *kitten*)

Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and
return to *kitten*, or never give it up, the torments are great.
Everywhere they look, their friends are unashamedly enjoying the pleasures
of normal sexual relationship. No part of society caters for them and they
are even cowardly shy to campaign for "Masturbators Liberation." Sex life
for most of them is fairly empty.

One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator
suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relationship is premature
ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When he is masturbating,
he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible, but in sexual
intercourse he normally has to attempt to control his excitement, which can
impose a great strain on a person who indulged in self-abuse over a lengthy
period.

Therefore people who continuously *kitten*, lose out all round. The
physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urination, or
excreting, and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they
are missing on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to
*kitten* without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. *kitten* is
merely an exhaustive, rather than constructive undertaking, resulting in
nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved there is Nothing else
left, except for a feeling of complete emptiness.

The following extracts from the writings of a dignified physician of the
Unani medicine will give one some idea of the damage done through
*kitten*: "Most often, students, bachelors or widowers and hypocritical
godly persons are its victims. It is such an evil practice that has ruined
many families and many more are being ruined today. The lack of manly vigor
and decline in the standard of young men's health is evidence enough for
this horrible social evil, eating into the vitals of an otherwise healthy
nation. If only our young men could foresee the consequences of this evil at
their own hands bring on them! It can be said with some certainty that
eighty percent of our young men are the victims of *kitten*. This
accursed practice affects equally the heart, the brain, the liver, the
stomach, the kidneys along with the reproductive organs. This practice makes
the muscles and the nerves of the reproductive organ sagging and lifeless.
Accumulation of fluids in the veins makes it unfit for its normal function.
There is extreme feebleness in the power of erection. The heat of the
friction between the delicate muscles of the organ and the tough hide of the
hand damages the former beyond repair." (Miftahi, Modesty and Chastity in
Islam)

Following the excitement which accompanies *kitten*, comes the feeling
of shame, anger, humiliation, and the sense of futility. This sense of
guilty and humiliation deepens as the years go on, into a suppressed rage,
because of the impossibility to escape. The one thing that it seems
impossible to escape from, once the habit is formed, is *kitten*. It
goes on and on, on into old age, in spite of marriage. And it always carries
this secret feeling of futility and humiliation. And this is, perhaps, the
deepest and most dangerous cancer of our civilization. Instead of being a
comparatively harmless vice, *kitten* is certainly the most dangerous
sexual vice that a society can be afflicted with, in the long run.

I am a social worker.

I know about myself that I will never be attracted to people without problems.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year, and we live together. When we got together, I was about 60 pounds heavier, but have since worked that off. I still have about sixty pounds to go, and I am working on it, but in the meantime I've been dealing with a really draining issue.

My man admitted after a lot of fights over why we never have sex that he is "not really a sexual person, and has to work himself up to it," and is constantly "tired and stressed out over his work." He told me then that if I wanted things to improve, I should just accept that my physical appearance improving would help "make him more motivated" to over-come these things. He also says I drink too much (once a week) and that when I get drunk I turn into a different person and he doesn't want to be intimate with me for a while. This is probably fair, and I am working on that.

Part of me thinks this sounds fair, because I understand that men are visually oriented, and he really never has much of a sexual drive, and I think that's partly because he has PE issues (sorry if that's TMI) that he admits make the act unpleasurable for him (and probably emasculating). Some improvements have come along, surely, with his willingness being more frequent, but we go for long periods of time where he turns me down or ignores my suggestions, and then when I don't bother to satisfy his needs for a while, he will either ask for it, or lay little guilt trips down about how he hasn't been getting any attention. Only twice in a year of dating has he ever made a single effort to satisfy me, and when asked, he says: 'Finish losing your weight if you want me to more interested in that." Last night, when I told him this one-sidedness was messed up and that he had no right to ask me for something he wasn't willing to give, he said he didn't understand why that was a problem, and then said that that was partly my responsibility as a woman.

I am 5'8, 204 pounds, and no, I don't think I look good naked, and have no self confidence. So, is this fair of him? I fear answers that say: This guy is a loser, get out - because I don't want to. Most other aspects of our relationship are great, and he's a good person, but I don't know if I am being treated in a way that implies a man is just being honest where many men would simply think this and not say it, or if I'm deluding myself.

What do I do? Please be honest about how men really think!

tie him to the bed and sit on his face until he satisfies you !!!!!!

Personally I wouldn't dream of saying anything like that to my wife or SO. As a partner, it is your job to make the person feel good about themselves. Some of these comments are just plain rude and un-called for.

I can't say I've ever had any PE issues, but as a guy I can understand why this would feed into his insecurities and as a consequence he may be transferring this to you through the form of personal attacks (about your weight etc). This, probably without him even consciously realising it, is his way of coping by offloading the guilt.

This is where the personality differences come into it. If I were in that position I'd be likely to make sure my partner was 'satisfied' first, then any PE issues become less important.

To be honest I'm not sure what to suggest to you here, but in my opinion this behaviour, regardless of the underlying causes, is still not acceptable.