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    "Don't Get Too Skinny"

    Posts: 935 Member
    edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
    I've lost 27 pounds since January and I've recently started getting the "Don't Get Too Skinny" comments. I had a co-worker ask me just now if my intention was to shrink away so that people couldn't see me anymore. I'm 5'6 and currently weigh 162 so I'm not in danger of disappearing anytime soon. Then he asked me how much more weight I wanted to lose? I made the mistake of giving a number. I told him about 15 pounds and he reacted like I was crazy and told me not to get all sickly. Seriously, 147 pounds is sickly? He's the second or third person to say something along these lines. Next time someone asks me what my goals are I will not give a number. I'll just say to be healthy. I'm not angry I just think it's surprising is all. Anyone else get these sorts of comments?

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    • Posts: 14,776 Member
      I've had these comments pop up fairly often, usually from people skinnier than my goal weight. I know some of it is jealousy (I had a close friend drunkenly try to convince me to stop dieting before I'm smaller than she is). I know most people who say it are well meaning, but sometimes it annoys me when I get ambushed with comments to quit.
    • Posts: 97 Member
      YES! I have resorted to just saying...I still have a few more pounds to go to get to a healthy weight...period. I am by no means "skinny" and I have to laugh sometimes when I get that...lol

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    • Posts: 2,236 Member
      I get that a lot and I just tell them - I am not where I want to be, but I will be sure to send a memo to you when I get there.
    • Posts: 267
      I know. i hate it when people say that. "oh don't get too skinny." "Your starting to look too skinny, like your sick" "You don't want to lose all your curves." ugh. drives me nuts. i'm gonna get down to the weight i'm happy with no matter what other people think. i think half the time when people say stuff like that, is that they might be jealous.
    • Posts: 120 Member
      Used to get that too (hoping to start getting it again).

      Just remind them that you are not getting "skinny", you are getting healthy.

      If they bug beyond that, then just walk away.

      Cheers,

      - Bill
    • Posts: 3,459 Member
      I kinda wish i got those comments! Lol x
    • Posts: 983 Member
      Just smile and wave...just smile and wave.
    • Posts: 4,584 Member
      My husband tells me this all the time. I think he is just afraid I am going to lose my butt and boobs. :laugh:
    • Posts: 436 Member
      Yes! I have gotten this comments A LOT lately. Hilarious because, my initial goal weight is 170. In what world is that skinny? But when I tell people I have 30 pounds to go they just tell me that they don't think I have 30 pounds left on my body! Such a change from when people were telling me that I should lose weight.. Just gotta remember that we're doing this for us, and no one else!
    • Posts: 14 Member
      I just think people are so used to you being at a certain weight, and then when you lose a significant amount, their brains read "too small". If they didn't know you and saw you for the first time at your current weight they wouldn't think "too skinny" when they saw you.

      If had this before. I have small wrists and when I lose weight people start to notice them more ( even though they've always been tiny) and think I've gotten too small.
    • Posts: 185 Member
      I have a friend who is bigger than I was at my starting weight. Her latest comment to me was "You are going to get too thin to be friends with me!"

      Really? :huh: You think I am that shallow?
    • Posts: 264
      People think they're flattering you when really, it's insulting. Like...are they blind or do they think I'm stupid? I just smile and nod. The people who care about me respect and encourage my goals. The general public just.doesn't.get.it.
    • Posts: 985 Member
      i get the same thing! im still on the "high" end or normal for a 5'7 woman. id like to be 139-143lbs. its not sickly at all!
    • Posts: 1,089 Member
      Oh .. YES. Gotta love it. I just smile and say .. NO WORRIES, I won't !
    • Posts: 1,555 Member
      Yes, I get that often (today, for instance, i got the double whammy: You're getting too skinny, you're not sick, are you?). I do not have a smarty pants comeback though, I just smile and say: I know where I want to be, don't you worry about it, k?
    • Posts: 177 Member
      I get it often. I got the "you are too skinny" when i started trying to loose weight at 140 (my usual weight is 120-130 but i packed it on when my hubby deployed). Now i have dropped to 126 and people seem to think i'm crazy or anorexic. I eat almost 1500 cals a day and am healthy. Do what you feel is right for your body, their words prob come from jealousy.
    • Posts: 2,525 Member
      I'd be really annoyed too. I think it's really rude for someone to ask someone else how much weight they want to lose... :noway: and rude to act like they get to tell you how much you should way :tongue:
    • Posts: 382 Member
      Just smile and wave...just smile and wave.

      ^ This is what I do...although sometimes I only use one finger.
    • Posts: 535 Member
      I had a conversation with a friend I hadn't seen in a while that went something like this: "Wow, you look great! Seriously though... You're done right? Cuz you're good... Don't lose anymore." Really?
    • Posts: 1,280 Member
      I just tell them what i weigh and what i'm wanting to weigh. then i tell them to look online for guidelines for healthy weight. that usually makes them think. maybe they are just trying to justify their own weight.
    • Posts: 1,296 Member
      I've lost 27 pounds since January and I've recently started getting the "Don't Get Too Skinny" comments. I had a co-worker ask me just now if my intention was to shrink away so that people couldn't see me anymore. I'm 5'6 and currently weigh 162 so I'm not in danger of disappearing anytime soon. Then he asked me how much more weight I wanted to lose? I made the mistake of giving a number. I told him about 15 pounds and he reacted like I was crazy and told me not to get all sickly. Seriously, 147 pounds is sickly? He's the second or third person to say something along these lines. Next time someone asks me what my goals are I will not give a number. I'll just say to be healthy. I'm not angry I just think it's surprising is all. Anyone else get these sorts of comments?

      People have no idea what the above average fit person looks like in clothes unless they have a ton of muscle. Its normal. Just tell them you're trying to look good naked. That usually ends the conversation.
    • Posts: 2,234 Member
      I, too, am 5'6" and get these comments daily. I started at 215 and am now 135 and not skinny. Ignore those people. The translation is "Stop getting healthy, you are making the rest of us look bad". Congrats on your great work so far. Keep it up and don't listen to the fools.
    • Posts: 198
      My boyfriend would prefer it if I stayed at my current weight...and never lost another pound! He'll try to grab my belly and see that he can't grip anything anymore and get all pissy lol. He gives me the "don't get too skinny and hot because you'll leave me stranded for some buff dude with a 6pack" speech...I assume he's joking but God knows :laugh:
    • Posts: 2,126 Member
      I get it a lot, which I find annoying. I think people are saying that based on where I came from. Like it my weight now was my starting weight people wouldn't bat an eyelash when I said I wanted to lose 10 pounds.
    • Posts: 401 Member
      I haaaaate that comment. My overweight friend told me "You've lost enough, you should stop." From her, it didn't come from a place of concern like I was actually looking too thin or sickly, it seemed like a "You're looking really good, you should stop looking so much better than me" comment. I'm well within the means of a healthy BMI now, and I will still be once I reach my goal weight. Kinda ticks me off. I'm not unhealthily thin nor do I look it...
    • Posts: 311 Member
      I'm also 5'6 and I get those comments. I'm currently 147 but I'm planning on 125 because I have a small frame according to my measurements. I tell them that based on my small frame, I'm going by the metlife table recommendations for mortality rate which should have me between 120 and 133.
      Obviously different for people with other frame sizes but it shuts them up, how can you tell someone they'll be "too skinny" if they've told you the statistically best weight for their height and frame to reduce mortality rates?

      I also think that some people say it because you look skinny in comparisson to before, not that you'd actually be too skinny, they're just comparing. I bet people who've never seen me before wouldn't say I was too skinny!
    • Posts: 1,851 Member
      Honestly, I cant wait to get those comments. Means you're doing something right. I say take it as a compiment and keep it moving. What he or anybody else thinks really doesn't even matter. Congrats on your loss!!! :drinker:
    • Posts: 448 Member
      Oh god, I get this all the time. I said I wanted to lose about thirty more pounds once, and I got looked at like I was going to die if I did, when I know that's a perfectly healthy weight.

      Body policing for the lose.
    • Posts: 1,459 Member
      I heard stuff like that far too often, to the point that it not only began to irritate me but actually distracted me from my goals for a while. Nothing worst than having to defend getting and being healthy when you are constantly being asked "Are you still trying to lose weight?"
      Stay focused, let your skin thicken up a bit and stay true to you and your goals!
    • Posts: 3,346 Member
      Yep get comments like this from a few people. They just dont understand what a healthy weight is. The massive change is a shock to some people also.

      Part of me thinks it is just the smaller I get the bigger they feel so they have to try to sabotage your efforts.
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