"Don't Get Too Skinny"
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I've gotten it before and was not prepared, but now I am:
"I'm currently at about 22% body fat, which means if I weighed 250 pounds, I'd be carrying around like 50 pounds of pure lard! So, don't worry about me!!"
That might make them think twice about what constitutes looking "sick".0 -
I get it often. I got the "you are too skinny" when i started trying to loose weight at 140 (my usual weight is 120-130 but i packed it on when my hubby deployed). Now i have dropped to 126 and people seem to think i'm crazy or anorexic. I eat almost 1500 cals a day and am healthy. Do what you feel is right for your body, their words prob come from jealousy.
How'd you do this? 140 was my starting weight too. Any tips would be appreciated!0 -
Omg these are the most annoying-est comments in the world. I have heard it countless times. Just brush it off and ignore them cause we all know we are doing this the healthy way. I am the healthiest I have ever been!0
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I've gotten that comment a few times too. Usually I just smile and fake laugh. Don;t let it bother you, as long as you know you're eating enough and being healthy those comments mean nothing. I find most of the time it's said out of person's insecurities anyway.0
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I told someone I still had another 30 pounds or so to go to get to my healthy weight... I thought they were going to fall over in shock. Now seriously - I don't want to put a number on it, but when I get there I will know where I want to be and I still have a way to go. But because I sitll have a long way to go I get so sick and tired of hearing people call me skinny minnie... what was I before... Fat Cat!0
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My mother in law insists on feeding me even though I say 'no thank you' to her offers. She'll put on a spread and then give me the 'I'm so put out' look when I don't eat anything. I won't give in to her tricks!0
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Obesity has actually visually redefined skinny up a few pounds in most peoples eyes, people will always try to hold you back to their level of fitness. Otherwise they'll have to admit that they need to make a change.
Blow them off. My 'too skinny' comments stopped after a year.2 -
I think people are trying to be nice and make you feel good, but it is usually an awkward conversation. I was told by a lady at the gym to not lose any more weight or my face will be too thin. I think she was trying to give me a compliment but it was strange. Just laughed it off. Do what works for you, and laugh the rest off
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I really feel like people in today's world like to justify being over weight by saying that what is considered healthy weights are really too skinny, sickly looking, or doctors are crazy/stupid and don't know anything. I come into contact with people who turn their nose up at literally anything healthy....I just laugh it off and remember that I'm going to be to the one who probably won't suffer from a number of health problems.0
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I think people really hate it when other people change for the better. Especially if they want to make the same changes and don't have the desire to really stick to it.
I don't know why so many people are happy to drag others down.0 -
my mom says this often..0
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Yep, and it's very frustrating. I get that from relatives (often times from those much bigger than me). They'll say, "Don't go and get all scrawny on us." -__- ugh.
I still have 40lbs left to go to reach my goal. Can't wait to hear the remarks when I make it there. lol0 -
When I was at my thinnest 5'10" and 149....I got them all the time. My fav was "your not puking are you?"
Ya, like I would tell you! :noway:
It was hard because I had worked so hard and then felt like, yet again, I was a failure.
I never dilvudge info now. I repond with the same vague statements "I just want to be healthy" :huh:0 -
I'm lucky in that if people HAVE commented on my weight loss, they've practically all been very complimentary. My mum occasionally says 'Anymore and you'll disappear!', but it's in a very light-hearted way. I've never had people nag me incessantly or tell me I look sick. I think that's plain rude. If you walked up to someone and said 'Wow, you've piled it on!', you'd probably (and rightly) be lampooned for it, so why is it okay to say 'Wow, you've lost so much weight! You look ill!'?
I think that can happen for a number of reasons. One, I think, is that people get used to you looking a certain way, so when that suddenly changes, it can be quite a shock to the system. I also think sometimes people think they're being complimentary, or joking around, without realising how hurtful comments like that can be.
In parts of the world where obesity is very prevalent, I think people's perceptions of what a healthy body looks like can become very warped. I've even seen that on here, a weight loss forum. Reactions to slender, but not alarmingly thin, women that tend to read as 'She's way too skinny! She must be anorexic!' When people say things like 'You're getting so skinny! Don't lose anymore!' and you know full well that's not the case, it could be that the person making that remark is either unaware of what a healthy body looks like or is in denial about their own health. Saying something in response like 'I am/am not yet a medically healthy weight for my height and body frame' might be a good way to shut them up and make them confront whether they're actually unhealthy.
Another reason (although I hate throwing the 'jealousy' card around so often) could well be that people become insecure and/or envious. By saying things like 'Don't get too skinny' what they could mean is 'You're making me feel bad' even if you're not acting remotely superior. This says more about their issues with their self-image than it does about your actual image.1 -
With about 70% of Americans being overweight and about 36% being obese, I think most people forgot what healthy looks like. I do get those comments too, but despite the fact that people forget what we should look like, I get offended. Getting to where I am took a lot of hard work. I don't have an eating disorder and I base my goals on BMI, which a lot of you seem to do too.
Oh well, at least we have each other for positive support!1 -
It's not exactly a "don't get too skinny" comment, but a conversation I had with my sister (she's my roommate) yesterday left me pretty flabbergasted. It was her turn to do the dishes, and she was mad that I'd used a few more bowls and pans than usual that night. She told me that no matter how far I had come, I was still fat and I was always going to be fat, and to just give up and stop making life hard for my roommates for something I was never going to accomplish.
:noway: This is a family member saying this to me!
Misery loves company, I guess. I was just shocked that she'd go that far over having to do a few extra dishes. Guess it's time to move! :laugh:1 -
I"ve been getting a few of these comments already, and I'm not even halfway to my goal!
But seriously I think "don't get too skinny" really means "don't get skinnier than me!"
Everyone who says it to me, is not at their goal weight. They're all trying to "diet" their way thin, or couldn't be bothered to even get outside for a walk (we all have shoes, therefore, we can all walk)
I just roll with it (while not rolling my eyes LOL) and say thanks, but I have a long way to go yet, no worries
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Although I agree that some of these people are jealous, I don't think that is always the case. They are used to seeing you fat. You ARE skinny compared to what you once were. I think they are just a bit shell shocked. They'll adjust eventually, in the mean time just keep reiterating that you are doing it to be healthy and happy.0
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With about 70% of Americans being overweight and about 36% being obese, I think most people forgot what healthy looks like. I do get those comments too, but despite the fact that people forget what we should look like, I get offended. Getting to where I am took a lot of hard work. I don't have an eating disorder and I base my goals on BMI, which a lot of you seem to do too.
Oh well, at least we have each other for positive support!
You hit the nail on the head there. People have forgotten what a healthy body actually looks like, so, in comparison, somebody with a middle of the healthy-range BMI would look "skinny" for sure!
At the end of the day, we are here to get healthy and to achieve OUR personal goals---nobody else's. So let them whine about how skinny you are, because you know that you're doing this for YOU.
I'm really fortunate that I haven't had a single person say "don't get too skinny" or "you look skinny" in a negative way. Last time my mom saw me she said "Look at you, skinny minny!" and she meant it in a totally positive way. However, she is very health-fitness oriented too (she's a part time personal trainer), so she knows where I'm coming from. Get others on the health and fitness bandwagon, and surround yourself with positive people, don't sweat the negativity!0 -
I get that all the time - i've lost 42 lbs so far with 15 to go, and am by no stretch of the imagination 'skinny'. i even had a guy friend tell me 'you've lost all your cute'. what? ugh. i know he meant well, but still....0
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I notice this more often with people that knew me at a heavier weight and are heavier than I am now. Sometimes I would like to ask how these people would feel if I said to them "you're getting to fat" or "Don't get too fat, okay?" I don't think they would appreciate it...do you? :noway:
I say try to ignore it, but I understand how frustrating it can be. Mt mother in law asked me one time if I thought I was getting "a bit obsessive" My reply was yes! I am obsessed with living to see my great grandchildren...aren't you?:laugh:0 -
Ewww...someone said that to me yesterday and I know she wish she hadn't....I gave her the business....She said you about my size I said..Really? With a confused face....She quickly changed that statement....I'm Just saying you look good...Then why didn't you say that from the beginning.....Sorry Rant over ....0
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I've gotten this from family mostly.
Along with several other remarks, including my Grandmother making the comment, "it's been so long since I've seen you, you'll probably be fat again!"
So not only am I getting too thin or I'm looking weird, mind you at 5'6" and 140lbs(ish), I won't be able to maintain my weight.
My weight loss and change of life style (I also quit smoking) has driven a wedge between myself and some family members.
I don't see them much now and don't have a huge desire to.
Most of the women in my family are obese & miserable0 -
I know I've been guilty of saying something along these lines to a friend of mine. To be fair I was worried about her general well being and I wasn't entire convinced she was eating healthy (or really much at all). I was trying to convey that she was plenty small and she should stop obsessing over getting smaller.
Now that I've gotten these types of comments I realize that I approached that friend in the totally wrong way. I swear my heart was in the right place - I just didn't have the life experiences I have now to approach her more tactfully.
When I get these comments I make sure to point out that I'm eating around 2,000 calories per day of healthy food and I'm not on a crazy or extreme diet/exercise plan. I'm hoping they're just trying to make sure I'm being healthy.1 -
I've had that comment given to me. Def don't give them numbers of what your goal is.. I agree just tell them your goal is to be healthy and happy. My mom used to ask me.." How much more weight are you going to lose???" When asked the first few times I gave her a number.. then i learned not to do this. I started telling her I'd let her know when i was finished lol.
My mom would also say she was worried about me.. and my reply was "Mom, I am healthier than I have ever been, there is no need to be worried about my health"... It is a concern people have. Choke it up to a compliment and say "I don't want to be skinny, I want to be healthy" That should shut em up for a little while. :P0 -
Just smile and wave...just smile and wave.
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THIS......SMILE AND WAVE!!! TALLY-HO!
When I tell people how much I want to lose and get to they gasp and say there will be nothing left of me...
I'm 5' 3" and my goal is 150 lbs......that's still overweight I believe.....
Just goes to show you that our perception of what's skinny and what's fat as a society has changed HUGELY ...
When I was in High School 150 lbs on my frame was considered "bigger" and now that's too skinny ???? Come on people....Smile and Wave!
I also love the other comment that says "Remember this is about getting healthy, not skinny!" So true0 -
I'm happy I'm not the only one! I didn't think this day would ever come to where someone would say "Too skinny" and my name in the same sentence! LOL... My ex-father in law said the same thing to me last weekend. I currently weigh 168 and I told him about 15-20 more lbs to lose and he was floored. Thinking Im going to get nasty skinny! I'm far from it, I think anyway. I think your idea is great when people ask how much more you want to lose. Just tell them your goal is to be Healthy! you look amazing, you go girl!!!! Keep up the great work.0
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I started getting the "you'll look sick" or don't start getting too skinny comment when I hit about 45lbs lost. I made the mistake of mention my first goal weight and what I'd ultimately like to end up at and that's when it started.
now I'm getting, "wow - you're disappearing!" 215 is hardly disappearing.. but I guess being at 276, it would be.
People are weird.0 -
Cant wait till I get those comments lol.. Only u will know what weight will feel right for you so, forget what every one thinks. Im currently a similar weight to urs and my goal is also 150 to 140's at 5'7.
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All the time....so much so I checked with my doctor ....and as she is a professional I have taken her advice to lose another stone.....only 7 pounds to go now.They are just nervous that you will outshine them thats all.WELL DONE YOU:drinker:0
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