after loosing weight anyone scared to become pregnant?

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  • Madelinew22
    Madelinew22 Posts: 289
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    this has been on my mind a lot lately. my husband and i have been married just over a year and would like to have a baby in the next year or two. depending on my mood, my feelings about this swing back and forth between:

    *thinking that pregnancy will be better/easier since i'll be in shape and i'll be able to bounce back faster after delivery AND
    *being terrified that i won't have the time to dedicate to getting back into shape after a baby and thus keeping all the dreaded baby weight.

    most days, i lean towards the first mentality, but i do feel like i'll feel guilty leaving my newborn at home to go workout after having him/her. i'll cross that bridge when i get there, but yeah, this topic has definitely been on my mind.

    surprisingly, a lot of friends/acquaintances at the gym have been asking "what's the point of working so hard now when you're gonna get preggo and fat soon anyway?!" i just roll my eyes and shake my head at these people. :grumble:

    Hey u don't have to leave to workout. I lost my weight all at home. I bought a cheaper treadmill, dvds, and a bunch if weights. Since jan I lost 22lbs all from being home ( been maintaining for 2 months too) my youngest is 8 months old.
  • missattitude57
    missattitude57 Posts: 77
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    No, because I'm losing weight in order to try to get pregnant to begin with.

    Same here!!
  • nicoleandlosing
    nicoleandlosing Posts: 33 Member
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    One of the main reasons I am losing weight is to be able to get pregnant! I have a long way to my goal, but the one thing I want more in this world is a baby.
  • Tarale1
    Tarale1 Posts: 23 Member
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    Hi,

    well i lost weight before my daughter and went back to my regular size through diet and walking a lot, but i didn't maintain and gained weight after i had her. My sister (who is pregnant with twins) made sure to eat properly, get lot's of walking in. She doesn't even look like she is pregnant from behind. She lost 60 lbs before she was pregnant and refused to have worked so hard to gain it all back. I think it's all mind over matter and just remember even walking daily helps.
  • bhajrizi11
    bhajrizi11 Posts: 101
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    loosing it so that if it happens again i wont be a hippo again after. it may be easier to get up and move around if i get prego again, might lose the weight quicker since ill be in shape. terrifying me to think about the weight gain again though. i started MFP to get healthy and to get back to pre-baby weight but I DONT WANNA HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN
  • eriemer
    eriemer Posts: 197
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    I only gained 26 lbs with each one of my 4 pregnancies. No matter what my starting weight was (sometimes I was heavier, sometimes lighter). No matter how I ate or exercised with my pregnancies, it was always 26 lbs. Each pregnancy I carried differently some one low, high, flat. Some I was tired, some sick, some I worked out everyday. Some I wore maternity clothes at 12 wks some I was wearing my regular button jeans at 32 wks. Some I lost the baby weight fast, one I lost over 50 lbs in 6 wks after the baby was born!

    To me there is no rhyme or reason, when it comes to pregnancy. All I can tell you is BREASTFEED! You use burn of calories, lose weight super quick, and get to have pornstar boobs! Oh yeah, it's good for the baby too.
  • ooBombshellBeautyoo
    ooBombshellBeautyoo Posts: 234 Member
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    Talk to your doctor about it! However everything I read says being in shape pre-pregnancy makes post-pregnancy weight loss easier- your body bounces back that much easier! Don't know if you breask-feed, but that is how I lost all my weight plus 10 lbs after I had my son.
  • GemmaRowlands
    GemmaRowlands Posts: 360 Member
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    It's ironic really, because having a baby is one of the reasons that I lost all of this weight, but there is still a part of me that worries about not being able to cope with gaining again.

    But, one of the things that I've learned about food is that you only need as much as your body needs in order to survive. I will ask for advice from the doctor and hopefully they will be able to give me a diet which means that I shouldn't put too much weight on. Even if I put a full two stone on, having lost six and a half already, two stone will be nothing to shift!
  • ooBombshellBeautyoo
    ooBombshellBeautyoo Posts: 234 Member
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    Talk to your doctor about it! However everything I read says being in shape pre-pregnancy makes post-pregnancy weight loss easier- your body bounces back that much easier! Don't know if you breask-feed, but that is how I lost all my weight plus 10 lbs after I had my son.
  • Jbbaby111
    Jbbaby111 Posts: 55 Member
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    ijust had my 3rd child in January and have lost 47lbs.....BUT in January we will be having our final baby and im dreading the weight gain but hey i lost all this baby weight faster than i ever expected! Pregnancy is a beautiful experience and not a time to worry about a scale, calories, or straining your self working out =)
  • shirin8
    shirin8 Posts: 51 Member
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    I completely understand what you're saying--my children are 3, 22 mos and 8 mos and I am finally below my starting weight with the last 2 pregnancies. I have lost 42 lbs so far after the last baby (still have 20 lbs to get back to where I was prior to the first child) and am nervous about getting pregnant again. I have been pregnant or breastfeeding for nearly 4 years straight at this point. We hope to have two more but are being more cautious this time.

    Regardless, I think that your commitment to losing after your last child (down 60 lbs is an amazing achievement) will help you gain less if you were to become pregnant again. Even if you were to gain the 60 again, you know that you could lose it.
  • Nikkei24
    Nikkei24 Posts: 282 Member
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    Nope! Losing the weight to be the perfect BMI to get pregnant with my surrogate baby! I won't have the actual baby to take care of when I'm done so I'll have plenty of time to tighten back up! =) I don't think I'd have too much of a problem with my own baby either. Gotta have something to do for that first 2 months when all the baby does is sleep lol.


    This is an amazing thing you are doing. You are giving someone the greatest gift in the world. God Bless people with hearts like yours
  • JediMaster_intraining
    JediMaster_intraining Posts: 903 Member
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    I am more terrified to have a baby after losing weight than when I was overweight. I have been chubby and self-conscious all my life and I'd hate to be that way when something beautiful is happening. Now that I'm going to graduate from college, am getting a place with my SO for the first time, and my grandparents keep nagging me to get married- the thought keeps coming up in my mind!

    Since you've had kids before and know what to expect I'm sure it's a different feeling. And now we have MFP so maybe that should ease you a little bit. I know there is workouts for pregnant women. I guess you can't plan everything but yes, I am worried about gaining weight (and definitely the pain!)

    Good luck to you!! :flowerforyou:
  • steveinct
    steveinct Posts: 140 Member
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    I am not worried about it.. But that is just me. =)
  • skb12573
    skb12573 Posts: 202 Member
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    I think you have learned what it means to eat properly for you and the baby. Your lifestyle is healthier overall. I would not worry about it. If your heart is telling you it is time for another child, listen to it. Then continute living healthy and active throughout pregnancy. The weight you gain will be much less and much easier to shed than the weight you gained the first time. Your body is amazing and can do marvelous things. Give yourself more credit and enjoy!!
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
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    I've never been pregnant, but I've talked to other women about this issue since I would like to have children someday, God willing. There are a couple of ladies at my gym who continued to workout all the way to full term. Of course, they had to tone down the intensity quite a bit, but they were still getting exercise every day. Also, they followed a very healthy diet while allowing themselves a "treat" when they had a strong craving for something specific. They also said that watching their sodium intake, drinking lots of water, and exercising every day helped ease the water retention and pain in their feet and legs.

    I'm just hoping I don't have the same problems during pregnancy that my mom had with my sister and brother (I have three brothers and one sister). She was soooo sick during her last two pregnancies. It wasn't just morning sickness. She was sick all day, every day, for the entire pregnancy. It's amazing that she was able to carry to full term with no major complications. It's kind of funny that my sister turned out to be a picky eater as a young child. Mama ended up having to breast feed until she was over a year and a half old because the only solid food she would eat was grape tomatoes.
  • jennt_22
    jennt_22 Posts: 155 Member
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    Wow I was just thinking about this topic the other day. I don't have kids... but one day down the road I will (I think). Anyways, I am like SUPER scared to become pregnant after losing weight. I am not at my goal or anything yet but I plan on getting there before I am ready for kids. I am just SO scared to gain the weight and become fat again. I feel like I will be depressed and hate myself and have the worse body image ever (during pregnancy and then right after having the baby). I know I lost the weight once... so I can do it again... but I am struggling to get a flat stomach now... and I can't even imagine how hard it will be after having your stomach expand like that. I know a lot of women gain more weight then they need to due to over-eating and giving into cravings (or so I have heard). I will 100% talk to my Dr. about what the minimum amount is I need to gain for the baby to be healthy and also ask about exercise's I could do while pregnant. I know women have babies and then in time they look great again. I also know women who look great, have kids, and then let it all go downhill.... and this is what I don't want to happen. I don't want to be miserable and hate myself when I am supposed to be enjoying my new baby and family. Hopefully as I get older and want to have a baby this HUGE fear of mine will go away.... but I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way. I know some may think it is crazy to be so paranoid about gaining weight when having a baby but it's just how I feel :( I wish I didn't.
  • IHeartNewMe
    IHeartNewMe Posts: 150 Member
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    Nope! Losing the weight to be the perfect BMI to get pregnant with my surrogate baby! I won't have the actual baby to take care of when I'm done so I'll have plenty of time to tighten back up! =) I don't think I'd have too much of a problem with my own baby either. Gotta have something to do for that first 2 months when all the baby does is sleep lol.

    You my dear, bring meaning to the word SELFLESS... kudos.

    I whole heartedly agree, "selfless". That's wonderful thing you are doing. I'm 46 and have never been able to get pregnant. Now, being in the best shape I've ever been in and working on getting off another 30 lbs. or so to get to goal, still have not been able to "close" the mommy door to life. It burns down deep inside more so than ever now. We'll see. But, I feel so in control of my eating and being physically fit (or getting there) right now, that I truly believe that I now know what to do if I got pregnant to continue to exercise and stay in control of my eating to stay in shape. I just hope I haven't learned these lessons too late!
  • AbbsyBabbsy
    AbbsyBabbsy Posts: 184 Member
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    I've more or less decided to forgo having children for this reason. I've been obese since I was 23 and over 200 lbs for 5 years. I'm 31 now, and won't be done losing the weight until I'm 32. I'm not sure it's safe to become pregnant and regain immediately after losing the weight, and waiting a while just gets me into trouble with my age. I think it's healthier for me in my situation to forget about pregnancy and focus on the other amazing things life has in store for me.
  • mindidily
    mindidily Posts: 196 Member
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    For me, it's kind of a nagging voice in the back of my head that gets drowned by my overwhelming desire to have baby #3 someday. With my first, I was already overweight when I got pregnant (planned). I was about 165 and was around 200 when he was born. I was scared to tell myself I was going to lose weight in case I failed. I finally started working on it over the summer of 2010 (he was born in 2009) and finally got almost back to my prepregnancy weight and got a surprise pregnancy (by surprise I mean not planned but more than welcome, as we knew we'd have at least two!).

    The second pregnany I kept working out, rather than just walking and sitting like the first time. I had to switch to low impact cardio around 4 months and had to cut out weights around 7 months, when it got uncomfortable. I lost some weight pretty easy after; fluids lost and breastfeeding being the biggest contributor. I was 200-205 when I left the hospital. I got the clear to exercise at 6 weeks post partum, but a repeat csection made it slow and demotivating. In January I heard about MFP and had to start running again; I am military and needed to be in shape for my fitness test by March. Staying active during pregnancy helped tremendously and now here I am at 150lbs, which is lower than my first prepregnancy weight!

    It's normal to be worried, but regardless if you keep the mindset of staying healthy while pregnant, it makes a world of difference on how easy you can lose it after. And for me, having some stubborn baby flab and stretch marks sucks but I wouldn't trade it for the world and I will have a third (and last) some time soon.

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