after loosing weight anyone scared to become pregnant?

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  • MonkeyFlower
    MonkeyFlower Posts: 92 Member
    I’m feeling pretty nervous, we are talking a bit about having another baby. With my first son I was back in my jeans after 6 weeks without really trying but its taken me 2 years to get back with my last little boy so am dreading a bit how long it will take if we do go back….saying that its so worth it and if I could just remember not to eat pancakes and maple syrup every day for the entire 9 months am sure I would make life much easier on myself! :laugh:
  • HMVOL7409
    HMVOL7409 Posts: 1,588 Member
    Not sure if this will make sense.

    It does scare me a little but in other ways. We tried for 2 years to get pregnant and was told by a IF specialist I have about a 5% chance of actually being able to conceive. After taking a year off and before looking into adoption we have considered trying again with a second opinion. However; with the progress I've made the last 6 mths by losing the weight I've gained partially from dealing with the infertility, loving myself more and finding goals I want to conquer like a 1/2 marathon; I will say I am scared and a little selfish to want to go down that path again right now. It's not really the weight for me, but a lifestyle I've built now that I want to enjoy and do more things with in the time being.

    I personally think that makes total sense. I don't think it's wrong to be selfish. I also don't think it should be assumed that everyone wants children. There are other things in life that I can imagine myself doing... like continuing to travel and see the world, retire early, meet my goals. I think I'd be a great mom, but I just don't know if that's the lifestyle I want right now. I also am scared ****less about what it would do to my body. I know I gain weight easily and I also know my mom had horrendous stretch marks and I heard that is hereditary. :-{

    Thank you bc sometimes I feel totally guilty thinking that way now especially after everything we went through. Who knows, I change my mind everyday. :)
  • Smores18
    Smores18 Posts: 119 Member
    What better reason to lose weight than to pass that health onto such a special little being! Who cares if I gain every single pound back, at least I know that I was as healthy as could be. Sure I dislike that I may have to go through all this again but it will not have any affect on my urge to have another child. I gained 60lbs with DD, I was only down 10 a year later, and even though I don't like the weight gain I still don't regret a single ounce of it!
  • Smores18
    Smores18 Posts: 119 Member
    BTW, I just wanted to add that I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad for their feelings on the matter. I'm sure most of you who feel that way have not been through over a year of trying to conceive and multiple losses as I have and I definitely understand what a baby does to the body and how discouraging it can make you feel.
    My main point is just to move your mind to a different light. Try not to see it as losing weight just to gain it all back, or getting a good figure just to lose it again. Try to think of it as becoming more healthy to give your children the best shot you can in this world. What better reason is there!?
  • MzMandi1025
    MzMandi1025 Posts: 78 Member
    I'm actually losing weight so that I can get pregnant again. I'm not scared about gaining weight back. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I did really well & only gained 15 lbs. I was overweight to start, so I was very careful not to gain anymore weight than I needed to. After I had her, I dropped a lot of weight in a short amount of time. But I went back to work & bad habits came back & so did the weight. I think I stand a better chance of keeping any weight off now than I did back then.
  • HokeyPokey2
    HokeyPokey2 Posts: 91 Member
    If you want more kids, I would not let it hold you back. Think of it this way... if you are gaining muscle and losing weight, and you exercised (lightly) and ate right during your pregnancy... the added baby weight should come off easier.
  • M_lifts
    M_lifts Posts: 2,218 Member
    of course its scary. but you have done it before so can do it again. i got pregnant in feb again but found out in april it wasnt meant to be. gained 9lbs which im trying to lose again. However, im not letting the weight gain take away the fact i want to get pg again. It will come off as im eating better and exercising. As long as you continue to eat well and exercise you will be fine.
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