Are your skinny friends less supportive as you drop lbs?

Yep me too! I decided to stop expecting their support after being heartbroken many times. I just didn't get it & couldn't wrap my head around what was happening for awhile. I just knew I felt badly & unmotivated when I got home from visiting w/ my friends. At first I was being cheered on to set & try to reach fitness goals & feel good about myself. Why not be the best me I can be while I have a chance to do it? I decided I'm doing this for me & if I don't have support from my family & friends (they all know I've been miserable for the last five years & refuse to buy more than a few items of clothing that fit me at my higher weight). I think this is the best place for you, and you may find, like I did, that support doesn't always come from where you expect it to (as sad as that can be), but you can find it for yourself if you're determined to get to your goals for yourself, no matter what. I think you can do it! Keep going girl. Noone has to live in your body but you, & you deserve to live in your dream body & be comfortable, healthy & happy. Our happiness & fitness is our responsibility & only we can make it happen for ourselves, with or w/o support.

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They are jealous and insecure with themselves. They are nervous of your success, about what to come when you finish your journey. I think you need to be on the look out for new friends and snakes.

Yes, it's really unfortunate isn't it? I've been private about my efforts to lose weight because of the negative reaction I got from the few people who knew. Kind of a shame that someone wouldn't support the fact that you're taking care of yourself and working to be healthy.

It's also possible that they are having difficulty trying to figure out how to be supportive without suggesting that you don't already look good. I find that I don't ever want to give a friend the impression that she doesn't look great just as she is i.e. I don't want to encourage her to have a poor body image if she is perfectly happy with herself. So, to be sensitive I try not to comment on that. I've noticed that friends and family members who have had extensive discussions with me about my body image become more sensitive and begin to avoid commenting to me about anything weight related. It's an attempt to not encouage a negative body image. But, this is just my own experience.
I wouldn't take it personally. However, if it is a more negative scenario then I would say that your friends/family are having to grapple with their own body image as your body changes. It's not about you, but probably about how they feel about themselves.

Om man do I ever relate to this story! I was 279lbs and now I am 165. I can't tell you the crap I had to hear from the get go! When I got married and announced my marriage at a previous job my closets friends told me I was too fat for my husband! I should start thinking about losing weight because he will defiantly leave me! What a mean thing to say after I just got married! Moving forward and losing weight the jokes shifted toward my husband who happens to be 10 years older than me. She is going to leave you, she is starting to look good giving him a complex. His mother told me when I lost over 100lbs..don't you think you've done enough? Then I had a breast reduction because my boobs decided not to jump on the losing weight wagon so I was smaller with huge boobs. I didn't hear the end of that one. Today my closets friends are happy for my weight loss but tell me I still dressed like I am fat (I love loose clothes) and that I look like a farmer! So what! I am happy farmer! I recently bought some sun dresses really cute ones because my boobs look so nice in them and not hanging past the part of the dress where the boobs are suppose to sit. Proudly I am able to wear these dresses with no bra. Well to shut the haters up I started wearing these dresses and now I am showing too much boob! And I should think about wearing a bra! These are nice dresses that give your top part enough coverage, not low cut or anything but I swear I never win. Since losing weight I have been so happy and feeling so good inside that I have just ignored the comments and stupid things everyone says to me every now and then. Its gotta be jealously or something. My husband on the other hand loves my new body and tells me I am beautiful and so do my two little boys and thats all that matters to me.

Mine is the opposite, the skinny ppl who were never really friendly to me (tho not "unfriendly") have become super supportive and happy for me but people who were my good friends and close to as fat if not fatter than I was, have all but stopped talking to me at all:( I don't go on and on either but I am HAPPY and if they don't like that then tough! I have posted some photos as I have lost but don't talk about it unless someone asks (my skinny friends). It's so strange and I miss my heavier friends too. I try to reach out but most just kinda ignore me. I guess that I'm in the list which Joy Bauer calls skinny women aka "Skinny Witches" (sub another letter for the W in witches lol):( Maybe I am a constant reminder that they aren't losing? I had to have help myself to lose or NEVER could have kept it off! Oh well, life goes on, wish everyone could be happy with our successes but not everyone will be and that is more about their wars with themselves than their wars with us (so to speak)!

The truth is that it's hard to hear a friend talk about their successful weight loss when you're struggling with yours or not happy with how you look. It might be good to steer clear of those topics around certain people.

The truth is that it's hard to hear a friend talk about their successful weight loss when you're struggling with yours or not happy with how you look. It might be good to steer clear of those topics around certain people.

yep. Sometimes I've been like a reformed smoker driving friends nuts with my blah blah. So I've toned it down costly more to go anyway and I do better if I shoosh. But I have slim supporters and ones who aren't but those who aren't have never been (SIL). Once a b*tch always a b... So are u sure they truely friends?

Has anyone else had their spouse try to sabotage their success?

Om man do I ever relate to this story! I was 279lbs and now I am 165. I can't tell you the crap I had to hear from the get go! When I got married and announced my marriage at a previous job my closets friends told me I was too fat for my husband! I should start thinking about losing weight because he will defiantly leave me! What a mean thing to say after I just got married! Moving forward and losing weight the jokes shifted toward my husband who happens to be 10 years older than me. She is going to leave you, she is starting to look good giving him a complex. His mother told me when I lost over 100lbs..don't you think you've done enough?

First off, congrats on your accomplishments! You look fantastic, and really... easily 10-15 years younger. Was this a big issue for friends/family with your husband being 10 years older than you? I'm getting married soon with a little bit larger age gap. I worry that dropping weight will make me look young enough to cause a few eyebrows to raise when we're seen together. How about you, did you embrace your inner trophy-wife and not worry about it? Yeesh, it's sooo not me! Haha

Oh and congrats on your weight loss, that's awesome!

I hate on my "friends" and close relatives all of the time. The minute that I act like I am satisfied with their accomplishments, is the minute that they think they finally made it. You aren't done yet. keep going. I'll give props when props are due.

There's a difference between telling them to keep going, they're not done yet, and acting like their effort is pointless. One makes you want to work harder. The other makes you want to quit.

I am sure chubby people hang out with me cause im fatter and make them look better, they act supportive but hey they act like its a massive struggle for them and I should be able to lose it easier cos im bigger, it gets annoying!

I find this happens to me too. I was given some clothes from a larger friend, and now that they dont fit they seem disappointed that i am not needing them anymore. because i have almost dropped 2 dress sizes. Its very hurtful. Sometimes is easier to find new friends with a similar "lifestyle change" attitude. xx

Yes. Sometimes a change is too much for certain people. It may go as far as a group of people not even liking the same things anymore. Losing weight is about changing lifestyle.