Heartbroken and next day moved on. Why?

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  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
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    I agree with you I need time to heal, I believe in true love and also think that if you truly love someone that feeling never goes away no matter what happen or how hurt you. Moving on is not always the answer but sometimes helps you to accept that the other person is longer in your life. I have been hurt and missing someone for years, I loved them unconditionally but I love myself to and know that I deserve to be loved in the same fashion!

    This is how I feel. I believe in true love and if I lose a special person, I just dont have the desire to even think about other women. Idk. Id rather take time for myself to concentrate on me, heal, and enjoy being free. I may be the only one but if I have to, Id rather drink some milk and rub one off if I need to instead of chasing random tail. Im too old for that crap and a one woman kind of guy.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
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    I've never been in love or had anyone in love with me, so I doesn't know.

    I have cared about people who walked out of my life, and it was tough, but my world didn't end. If they don't want to be there, I certainly don't want them there.
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    I approve this message!
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

    Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

    Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

    HA! Except I can't get strange.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

    Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

    lol call it a work in progress :wink:
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

    Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

    lol call it a work in progress :wink:

    Fair enough! As long as your not saying never.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
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    After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

    lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

    Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

    lol call it a work in progress :wink:

    Fair enough! As long as your not saying never.

    good god no!!
  • RMuske
    RMuske Posts: 271 Member
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    I think that it is true that everyone deals with heartache in their own way at their own pace. And just because someone seems ok and is moving all with no issue by all accounts doesn't mean they aren't maybe struggling in private.

    Who wants the person who broke their heart to see them cry? To see them struggling?

    Sometimes the road to feeling better starts by pretending to be out in the world..
  • NYChick84
    NYChick84 Posts: 331 Member
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    I agree with you I need time to heal, I believe in true love and also think that if you truly love someone that feeling never goes away no matter what happen or how hurt you. Moving on is not always the answer but sometimes helps you to accept that the other person is longer in your life. I have been hurt and missing someone for years, I loved them unconditionally but I love myself to and know that I deserve to be loved in the same fashion!

    You said it beautifully!!! And I couldn't agree with you more!!
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
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    Agreed
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
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    I am married but if we divorced I wouldn't move on to anyone else. He was the first guy I have ever dated and ever been with.
  • tom1834
    tom1834 Posts: 34
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    Well, you can stick to the pain, and let it consume you or you can take a deep breath, swallow hard, and move on.
  • leanne2376
    leanne2376 Posts: 217
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    i agree with you - i got dumped last July and have only just gotten over it - and i have only just started
    dating in the last two weeks. I am over him now
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
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    Well those people you mentioned are either too weak that they can't live a day without having a date so they grabbed somebody who they can get their hands on OR they simply don't have a heart. I feel sorry for those people who were victims of love on the rebound. Which is why when you meet someone new, you have to know his/her history first & if you constantly hear him/her talking about their exes & how much they hate them & worse you discovered that they're only been single weeks or a month well it only means that they're only up for a rebound. Not to sound judgmental here but it happens all the time.
  • 7bel0
    7bel0 Posts: 192 Member
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    Well, you know the saying

    The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else......

    This kind of works as a distraction, fwb's but not dating. It has taken me a long time to move on after my last relationship, even now I'm not totally sure I'm ready to date again....
    I do know people though that are incapable of being single - for them being with someone is a priority.

    This! Everyone copes differently and some take longer to "move on" completely. FWB's are just simply a distraction. And a way of having needs met.. :wink:
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
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    Anyways, I have always never understood this and maybe someone can help me understand. It seems so many people will date someone for years, married for years, love one died, or are crazy about someone will move on the next day after the breakup or divorce. I dont understand how one can be so heartbroken and claiming how much they miss and love someone and then want to date the next day.

    I see it on here all the time, people post how broken they are and crying and then next day they found a new person and are crazy about them. When I love someone and it doesnt work out, I need time to heal, focus on me, and reflect. The last thing I want to do is get back out there that soon to deal with the games that come with dating. It just seems people are so replaceable these days like an iPhone. Im sure this scares people who do believe in true love.

    It also seems thats the answer people give when they have friends who just got their heart destroyed is to date someone else immediately. Maybe im old or just out of touch with how things work these days. IDK. Sorry for this, just always wanted to know.


    OHH Dude...If I weren't a Lesbian I'd be all over you! Truer stuff was never spoken. And that is in the "straight" world; come into My world where U-Haul relationships and games and the WORD Love are 2 for a Penny! Fo Real
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
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    I don't get that either. I was in a very unhealthy relationship for 3 1/2 years, and broke up with her the same day I started my weight loss journey. For a while, focusing on fitness & my diet seemed to take away from obsessing about her, but that seems to be lessening. Now I keep thinking about wanting her to see how much better I look.

    I do believe meeting someone else helps, but can't imagine how people do that right away. At the end of it all, it's time passing that gives us perspective and the ability to really move on. Someone jumping right into a rebound relationship and thinking that will help is just fooling himself/herself.


    I have often wondered if having a high Emotional Intelligence is a cause for more grief. In the end maybe no one is right or wrong because let's say that I am able to take being alone and thinking through the situation, but My ex-partner needs are different and s/he knows that they may become mentally or emotionally "unstable" if they don't get with someone soon, they may be doing what is best. They may know who they are and what they need and they get that need taken care of. Does that then make them also have a high EQ? This relationship thing is very difficult to figure out. Heck, I am just now getting that you may Love someone but NOT be able to Live with them or have a good relationship with them. Momma said there would be "days," but she did not explain all the "stuff." LOL

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