Why can't i do this?

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  • jetabear10
    jetabear10 Posts: 375 Member
    Stop thinking about it and over analyzing yourself and JUST DO IT.

    Pack your lunch/meals ahead of time and only allow yourself to eat what you planned for the day.

    Do not accept excuses like I'll just have one, or one bite won't kill me. Stick to the food you have planned ~ no excuses.

    Keep moving. The more you move, the better you will feel and then the more you will want to keep moving. It will feed itself.

    Stop saying I can't do this and talking yourself out of it before you try. Remove negative thinking.

    Many people were where you are and they did it. So can you. (and your friends at MFP are here to help)

    So...no more mad at yourself...chin up, get up and get 'er done!

    ;)
  • Christine1110
    Christine1110 Posts: 1,786 Member
    You really can do this....You just have to want it enough to get through the first couple of days.....it gets easier everyday you go along!! Find somethings that inspire you...a song pictures, or what ever!

    I love to eat junk, fast food & carb ....oh and soda! These are all the things I had to give up!! I have been clean eating since March. I really don't miss the junk now. I find something I like to eat that is healthy now. I can tell you that all the foods I do eat have so much flavor now!! I guess because it's not hidding with all the sodium.

    I very rarely eat out now, and make good choices when I do.

    Good Luck : )
  • Sunlight2011
    Sunlight2011 Posts: 75 Member
    Could it be that this is something you are doing for yourself? Does it make you feel guilty maybe as you seem so committed to the needs of others. Do you value yourself enough to be the best you can be for yourself? Just asking cos this is a lot of what I struggle with and it can make you sabotage yourself. You will reach your goal if you want it enough. If the kids say "I can't" what do you say in response? Very best of luck hun.
  • Lisascherer1
    Lisascherer1 Posts: 24 Member
    I am in the same boat also. I will say, reading through all these amazing responses was an awesome thing! Wow, the support on MFP is incredible. If your having a bad day...jump on and post and I bet you will have 1/2 a dozen people telling you that you can do it. Take it one day at a time.....like many other said, one small goal at a time.
    I know personally I can do anything I put my mind to, except loose weight. Sometimes I feel like it will never happen.....I work really hard and I gain 3 pounds. But I just keep pushing, when I have a bad eating day I start all over the next day. Just keep your head up and take it one day at a time.
  • thescrumisfun
    thescrumisfun Posts: 355
    If you can train your mind, you can train your body. Will power is half the battle! You can do it! Right now, you're eating enough to maintain your current weight. To lose weight, you need to create a calorie deficit.

    I also struggle with extra calories sometimes, but I've found that if I really think about what food I'm craving before I eat it, I make healthier choices. So say if I'm craving chocolate (one of my favorite things in the world), but I know it will negatively affect my net calories for the day, I stop and ask myself: "Is their a better choice I can make? Will I regret this later? Will eating this help me reach my short term goals?" The answers, always - yes, yes, no. I also think about what is motivating me behind my weight loss and strength training. I play rugby, and my team has collectively decided to attempt a playoff bid this fall. When I'm really craving extra food, I ask: "Will this help me contribute to my team the way I want to?"

    I know this question stuff seems ridiculous. However, as an example, when you think about it, if you allow yourself to eat 200 extra calories a day, that is 1,400 EXTRA calories a week. A pound is equal to 3,500 calories; to lose that, you need to burn 3,500 calories a week. Think about how your extra calories are impacting this pound of weight that you want to be rid of. Sure, you might look silly staring down that extra portion you want, but when you are staring down at the scale a week later, wouldn't it be better to smile than frown? :) When your desire for results overrides your desire for extra food, it will become easier. The key is discipline and will power, which everyone struggles with. Try not to be hard on yourself to the point where you already feel defeated, but don't be lenient enough to let yourself think these extra calories won't make a difference. And always remember: you CAN do it!
  • Cambrendle
    Cambrendle Posts: 104 Member
    A tip I heard way back when... cold foods/drinks burn more calories on intake as your body has to warm it up before it digests it. Warm foods/drinks make you feel fuller faster because the warmth brings a rush of blood to the digestive system.

    A good question to consider is, are you mindlessly eating? like watching t.v. or on the computer... where you're not paying attention of what goes from your hand to your mouth or the size of the portion (and then suddenly the whole chip bag is empty)? If so, you don't have to take away completely eating in front of the whatever... but measure a true portion and put it on a plate or a bowl, and leave the package in the kitchen.

    If you're not hungry and you just want to knosh... chewing gum? keeps your mouth busy. Munch on some raw carrorts? Also, sometimes we think we are hungry when we're really just thirsty. try a glass of water before you give in to eating? and if it's strictly a night time i'm watching t.v. sorta habit thing ... try a warm/ hot cup of your favorite tea or warm apple cider etc. The warm makes you feel full, you're probably consuming less cals than what you'd eat... and you satisfy the hand to mouth habit.

    just something to consider... it's all stuff I"m putting into practice the past few weeks, and it's working for me, but maybe it won't for you. (btw these all worked really great when I quit smoking too :flowerforyou: ) -- the trick is... I've heard it takes 90 days (minimum) to break a habit and create a new one.... give yourself time... start with 1 thing at a time so you don't overwhelm yourself and give up!
  • Vodkha
    Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
    bump to read this later :)
  • hungergames324
    hungergames324 Posts: 240 Member
    For a while I was kinda doing the same thing. I would eat healthy during the day and then when i got home or on the weekends, it was like I wasn't trying to lose weight and I would eat horrible. One day it just clicked and now I am doing much better. Weekends can still be hard for me sometimes, but i am working on that!! You can do it, don't give up!!
  • mlewon
    mlewon Posts: 343 Member
    Mental block.

    You have to really want it, something in your brain is holding you back.
  • sister_bear
    sister_bear Posts: 529 Member
    You can do this. *big hugs*

    Perhaps keep a food diary, no, not an online one, what are you doing when you eat? How do you feel? What's happening?

    I'm an emotional eater. When I'm upset, I eat. I know this now, so when I'm upset, I have to do something else. I prefer to go for a walk, but it's not always possible.

    Are certain tasks, places, people causing you to eat when you're not hungry? Are they avoidable? Is there something you can do to anticipate the reaction?

    Could there be a physiological reason you're eating? My husband is bad about skipping breakfast, eating a freakishly light 200 calorie lunch, and then wonders why he chows down 2,000 calories of junk when he gets home. He's starving! I think months of nagging have finally worked. He's eating breakfast now (a real breakfast) and doing better.

    I've learned that I also eat because of nutrition. If there's something missing from my diet, I'll start craving something to supplement it. Not always the best choice food to fill the gap... but it's a sign I have a gap. I still catch myself not drinking enough water and mistaking thirst for hunger.

    I can't see your settings/diary (mine is locked too!), but I didn't really start losing weight until I raised my calories and reduced how much I was trying to lose weekly. 1200 calories sucks and I'm just not doing it. lol I was so hungry all the time. :(

    Are you depriving yourself? If you want pizza or whatever your treat food is, have some, but find a way to control yourself. I get the single serving pizzas now and again as a treat. I must have pizza.

    You... can... do... this. You are worth it. And I know you want it because you're on here posting instead of somewhere else... eating something you'll regret.

    Everything is one day at a time, one meal at a time... Step by step.

    You can do this. :wink:
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