Do you still see your old self?

seanson4774
seanson4774 Posts: 56
in Motivation and Support
After losing so much weight and people seeing the new you and comment on how good you look, I still see my old self in the mirror, is there something wrong with me, does anybody else have this problem?
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  • terri0527
    terri0527 Posts: 678 Member
    No, I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I understand what you mean. It also works the same when I was at my heaviest, I'd look in the mirror and not see all the weight on me, but a thinner version of how I used to be. Looking at a pic of me heavy and I was like :noway: that CANNOT be how I actually look. Hopefully in time you will see what everyone else sees...a person who has accomplished a lot and is now a much healthier person :flowerforyou:
  • redwan2001
    redwan2001 Posts: 286 Member
    I can completely understand I truly can relate. Even with all the success of my weight loss. I still see my old self you do not see yourself as other people see you. It is like a scared mentality of your weight you still see yourself fat.
  • Sassy922
    Sassy922 Posts: 399 Member
    I saw the old me, every single time I looked in the mirror the first time I lost weight. This time around, I was determined to make my head right. Although there are days where I still see the old me in the mirror, I work hard with my head on those days and try to focus on the good that I have done.
  • FiercelyBeautiful
    FiercelyBeautiful Posts: 590 Member
    If you read my blog you will find that I have the same problem. The thing about weight loss is that it takes care of the body but not the mind. The mental aspects of being overweight in our society must be dealt with separately. I am currently on a journey to not only transform my body but also my mind. Hang in there! You have come so far and are such an inspiration!!!

    xoxo
  • weisegirl1119
    weisegirl1119 Posts: 122 Member
    I do the same thing, dont understand why but i do!
  • toysbigkid
    toysbigkid Posts: 545 Member
    I do this too but I keep saying to myself, I am getting smaller and you are able to wear smaller clothes so get real, I'm thinner already!!!! It's important that we work on this also not just the weight so we don't yo-yo later on.
  • BackTatJIM
    BackTatJIM Posts: 1,140 Member
    everybody does this, but i am told it will pass with time
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    I did for awhile, a long while. I would shop and reach for my old size.

    Sometimes now I walk by a mirror or window and I am actually startled to see the smallish person in the reflection.
  • seanson4774
    seanson4774 Posts: 56
    yeah it makes me feel better to know I am not alone in this mind set.
  • chantaljl
    chantaljl Posts: 21
    I feel like that every day! sucks :(
  • FrugalMomsRock75
    FrugalMomsRock75 Posts: 698 Member
    I still see a big rolly blob of fat in the mirror...

    but that's because I'm fat... lol
  • WILSONBA
    WILSONBA Posts: 197
    unfortunately you are joining the club. i think most people suffer from this no matter how much weight they have lost. just keep telling yourself that you look good, your mind will eventually catch up to the truth.
  • MLgarcia3
    MLgarcia3 Posts: 503
    I definitely felt like that for a while
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    After losing so much weight and people seeing the new you and comment on how good you look, I still see my old self in the mirror, is there something wrong with me, does anybody else have this problem?

    all the time.
  • rbrannock
    rbrannock Posts: 169
    You are not alone. I feel the exact same way. I am just now starting to like how my legs look...but otherwise, I still see the "old" me...even tho I'm 27.8 lbs lighter. :(
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
    Frequently. Some days I look and see "DAMN, YOU'RE A SKINNY BISH." And others, I look and think, "Did you even lose a pound?"
  • salxtai
    salxtai Posts: 341 Member
    More-so than looking skinnier, I don't feel attractive at all, and see myself as the wallflower that guys never noticed in their quest to hit on my skinnier/prettier friends - despite being told by other that I'm definitely not average-looking (really?)

    - a big part of me immediately thinks its still the "sympathy compliment" that I would get when I'd make a comment about my looks when I was 10kg heavier.
  • acstansell
    acstansell Posts: 567 Member
    I still see my old self too, mostly because I've gotten smaller, but not changed shape much. Take heart - I found more confidence in the fact that I've lost the weight and I'm back to a size I'm okay with rather than what I look like in the mirror. I know that will change eventually.
  • moniquelessard
    moniquelessard Posts: 418
    I don't see any change when I look at myself. I have 'moments' where I do, but 95% of the time I see miss fatty.

    I get comments daily, but it doesn't really sink in.
  • SPNLuver83
    SPNLuver83 Posts: 2,050 Member
    I have the same problem. I still see the old me in the mirror. I'm told my brain just hasn't caught up with my body yet and it eventually will. I'm still waiting. :/
  • heatherAnnXOX
    heatherAnnXOX Posts: 56 Member
    i totally feel this way. there are a couple pictures of myself from 'before' where i can see a difference kinda..but when i look in the mirror, i look like the same old me. it's kind of depressing. and the only people who comment on my weight loss are my family and that doesn't count haha! maybe when i lose 20something more i will notice a difference.
  • NYChick84
    NYChick84 Posts: 331 Member
    I always see my old self in the mirror....it's unfortunate, because I have come a long way...however, I feel the exact opposite when I'm out buying clothes.....Maybe it's the mirrors that the stores use. lol
  • ash190489
    ash190489 Posts: 587 Member
    Yup! I sometimes see myself slightly smaller, but still most of the time, I feel the same. It took me a long time to realise that I was no longer a size 12 in jeans. I remember going into a shop and asking for size 12 jeans and both the saleswoman and my mother looked at me like I was crazy. I was a small size 10 then and now I am a size 8. But still, my perception of who I have become is different when I look in the mirror. However, there are those times when I look in the mirror when I am all done up in my size 8 clothes & I think "man I feel great & look good!".

    Does anyone also think that the world (people) are out to get them sometimes too? Particular people in my life say "OK, that's enough now, you look great so you can stop calorie counting and exercising so hard" or I might say "man I have had a terrible eating fortnight with high stress etc. and need to get back on track" and they respond with "oh it's okay, you can afford to eat something". It upsets me cuz I think sometimes they don't care about my success and are trying to sabotage me. I feel like you can't just get to a particular point when you're happy and then start eating rubbish again and stop exercising or the weight is all going to fly back on again - why don't people understand that? GRRR.

    Sorry I am venting on your forum! I have been wanting to get that off my chest for a while!
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Once in a while, but have maintained almost a year now and I see the old me less and less.
  • TwtyMami35
    TwtyMami35 Posts: 99
    I was saying the exact same thing yesterday while walking with a friend. I still go to the plus size area to try on clothes and I still see myself as the size 20+ chick.
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
    Totally. People compliment me all the time, but I can't see it. I still feel 30 lbs heavier......
  • TamaraGraceS
    TamaraGraceS Posts: 273 Member
    I do! My trainer says that this take a while of seeing yourself at the smaller size for your mind to catch up. Everytime I buy new clothes size 6 I get a lilttle freaked out and put them in the closet... My mind saying " you couldn't possibly be that size! You are still a size 20!!!!"
  • clariangel
    clariangel Posts: 156 Member
    I'm the same way. I think i have to wear a XL tshirt because I still see myself as that big sometimes. I still can't believe that I actuallty wear a medium now! So that's why I'm grateful for the people around me. They make sure I am aware of how much work I've done to get this far. It takes a village!
  • rukcus
    rukcus Posts: 58
    I have to say I'm in the same group. At one point I had lost 45 pounds and couldn't get the confidence and understanding to go with it. I ended up falling back into old habits and gaining it all back. This time I have to figure out how to fix the mental aspect.
  • 30poundsofbeauty
    30poundsofbeauty Posts: 41
    yep, I felt thinner when I was fatter.. and fatter when i was thinner.

    So strange. I gained back a lot because of that. (binging when I blew my day etc etc) I'm back to make it right again!

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