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I'm not a guy but I may have some insight, because you sound like me.

I am shy too. I've had tons of guys get to know me and then tell me that at first, they thought I was stuck up. I am pretty attractive (like you, not trying to be arrogant here), so I think that makes us less approachable because good looks can sometimes be intimidating to a man. So pair attractiveness with shyness, and a guy may automatically think you are stuck up. Even if that's not the case, they at least may not view you as approachable.

My advice to you is to ALWAYS smile. I think a lot of times girls don't even realize what face they are making and that the look on their face comes across as negative, so always be cognizant of your facial expressions. This will help guys feel like you are more approachable. Even if you're shy and get nervous about talking, the least you can do is always make eye contact and smile at people. Practice doing this to every woman you see everywhere you go (work, the store, etc.) and it will eventually feel more comfortable to do it to the men.

this^^^^ has my name written all over it. in the college gym i was going to in the weee early mornings, there was a older than me but still considered young man who was part of the police force, rode a harley and had the build of a big harley man. HE said once we were friends, that I SCARED him due to the expressions on my face. and at that time i was 10-15lbs less than what i am now. its how we carry ourselves and i am too, shy. another example of how our expressions are looked at alot more is a man, randomly in walmart came up to me and said "smile, it aint that bad"...and here again i was just deep in thought about what i was loooking for! i had my fall outs with men who wanted only one thing in college as well as mind screwed. those types are drawn to shyness, unfortunatly for my case. where or what i find difficult, is to make the first move or the first, "here is my number" due to old fashionedness or making a fool of myself not knowing they have a girl friend two feet away and not realize it..can def say TODAY is different than it was years ago when facebook didnt exist, texting "other girls while he is with you on a date and accidently seeing the words he texts"etc.. possibly once i can carry myself a bit higher physcially from what i know i can be, things might work out..but then again, im living in the middle of austin and san antonio texas, being from oklahoma and having Sooners and okc thunder on your shirts/car...this may turn more heads away than what i ever expected! lol. much luck to all of us and good day!

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You may be smiling but are you actually making eye contact? You don't have to be pushy or overly outgoing but work on making eye contact. This lets a guy know you are open to being approached. Guys are terrified of rejection. After my sister divorced (she is very pretty and outgoing by the way) she told me guys didn't seem interested in her. I gave her this advice. She tried it and had more attention than she could handle.

MFP should have some sort of "like" function.

All of the above.

What's worse, is for some of us it's not the fear of rejection...it's not wanting to put a girl through the trouble of dealing with someone she has no interest in dealing with. If you see someone you like, follow the above advice. I know it would reel me in.

I agree whole-heartedly (although I think I'm the not-cute-girl who has managed to snag a couple of good looking guys in the past)...anyway...point being, be approachable (are you reading, on your phone or laptop, arms crossed or are you more laid-back so it won't seem like someone is interrupting you?), be comfortable with yourself, and give that smile with a look that lingers for a few moments (don't want to be all stalker like). The smile and look is hard...too quick and they (men) won't know if that's interest or if you just had an amusing thought. The men will approach, and the right man will approach.

Sometimes attractive women are single because they intimidate. If you radiate a look of "unapproachable", most guys won't try for fear of being rejected. A smile and eye contact erases this perception easily.

I will say it goes both ways though. I've seen a lot of guys with drop dead gorgeous women and I ask myself wtf did he blackmail her with? My theory relates to my first line, the people who overachieved looks wise, probably had the stones to ask the more attractive partner out.

So I think it's really weird when I see attractive men and they're with girls that are not attractive whatsoever and trashy at that. Then you have girls like me who are shy and conservative. Ya and I can't seem to find a guy or relationship.

Your nasty attitude may be a problem. What a mean thing to say about women you don't even know.