Did dating standards go up when you lose weight?

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directorj
directorj Posts: 537 Member
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So you lost, XXX amount of weight and now you look and feel more confident. Did your perception change in who you want to date? Maybe the new you, is attracting the opposite sex a bit better?
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  • JulieH3art
    JulieH3art Posts: 293 Member
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    Not consciously. I've always been super attracted to guys I connect well with, and that's always been on the nerdier side of the scale... There have been some exes in my past that aren't exactly face models.

    The guy I'm with now is by far the best looking of all the boyfriends I've had. I didn't plan it that way, he went after me. I didn't choose him because of his looks.

    Frankly, guys who are good looking can be intimidating to me. They used to make me feel like crap. If they try to hit on me, I always feel like it's a joke or a dare or whatever. Does that make sense? I'm much more confident, much more at ease around less attractive guys. It's not their fault, it's entirely me.

    It's weird, this whole choosing someone thing, isn't it?
  • afigueroa_pr
    afigueroa_pr Posts: 344
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    My taste for women are the same no matter what weight I am. The difference is in my approach toward them. Of course you'e going to feel super confident when you look better and most important feel better about yourself.
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
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    No, I like what I like.
  • Princess_Sameen
    Princess_Sameen Posts: 290 Member
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    no my taste in guys has never changed....consistency :)
  • akaporn
    akaporn Posts: 231 Member
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    If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
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    XXX=030 lbs

    No, it didn't change anything. I think I got more attention from guys when I was heavier, ironically.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    my standards didn't go up but they were pretty high to begin with.

    What did happen is that it got easier
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
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    If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.


    you should have signed off like this:


    """Take it from a nerdy (PAID) guy who's dating a supermodel."""
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
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    Mine have always stayed the same, from 115, to 135, and I'm sure it'll all be the same as I lose the next 15lbs or so. I tend to go for geeky guys...glasses, video games, things like that. I like intelligence and fun personality more than 'model looks'.
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
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    The pool of available partners goes up considerably the more fat a person loses.
    That's reality.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
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    Nope. My wife still won't let me date.
  • AlicynH
    AlicynH Posts: 201 Member
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    I heard once that you date and marry on your confidence level. I married my husband when I was extremely over weight. At the time, I was 30 years old and didn't feel like any other opportunity would happen. There are more days than not that I wish I would have waited. He doesn't like my weight loss because I'm more confident and want to dress in more stylish clothing. Sadly, I can honestly say that if I hadn't been so over weight when I got married, I never would have married him.
  • directorj
    directorj Posts: 537 Member
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    If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.

    True but it wouldn't be the same if you were extremely fat. 300lbs dating a supermodel? Probably will not happen unless you're banking it.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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    Still single...exercise can't work off this face
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 2,073 Member
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    What are these "standards" you speak of?
  • ahjenny
    ahjenny Posts: 293 Member
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    My ideal man hasn't changed, but I have noticed that I'm getting a lot more attention from a lot more different types of guys.
  • noirnatural
    noirnatural Posts: 310 Member
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    The pool of available partners goes up considerably the more fat a person loses.
    That's reality.
    :huh:
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
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    From being 18 years old and skinny (low confidence), 20 years old and 50 pounds over weight (no confidence at all) , and now 22 years (a little confidence starting to show) and almost at a healthy weight, my standards did change in the sense where as I am getting older and my confidence is increasing so I am making better (mature) choices in terms of dating standards
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
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    For me, losing weight has been a process of self-discovery and realization. I've made many steps to improve myself along with my health including going back to school and addressing my inner demons. I would say that I have raised my dating standards not necessarily because I have lost weight, but because I believe in myself now so will not settle on someone who is not as self-aware and stable as I am. I used to go for the controlling and abusive types because I didn't think I was good enough for something better. I now know that I am deserving of someone who will give as much into the relationship as I do.
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
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    I was dating the same person steadily through my weight loss. I think your question could be taken a couple of different ways - Do I think I could date more attractive men now than I could before I lost weight? Yes absolutely.

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