Did dating standards go up when you lose weight?
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Not consciously. I've always been super attracted to guys I connect well with, and that's always been on the nerdier side of the scale... There have been some exes in my past that aren't exactly face models.
The guy I'm with now is by far the best looking of all the boyfriends I've had. I didn't plan it that way, he went after me. I didn't choose him because of his looks.
Frankly, guys who are good looking can be intimidating to me. They used to make me feel like crap. If they try to hit on me, I always feel like it's a joke or a dare or whatever. Does that make sense? I'm much more confident, much more at ease around less attractive guys. It's not their fault, it's entirely me.
It's weird, this whole choosing someone thing, isn't it?0 -
My taste for women are the same no matter what weight I am. The difference is in my approach toward them. Of course you'e going to feel super confident when you look better and most important feel better about yourself.0
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No, I like what I like.0
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no my taste in guys has never changed....consistency
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If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.0
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XXX=030 lbs
No, it didn't change anything. I think I got more attention from guys when I was heavier, ironically.0 -
my standards didn't go up but they were pretty high to begin with.
What did happen is that it got easier0 -
If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.
you should have signed off like this:
"""Take it from a nerdy (PAID) guy who's dating a supermodel."""0 -
Mine have always stayed the same, from 115, to 135, and I'm sure it'll all be the same as I lose the next 15lbs or so. I tend to go for geeky guys...glasses, video games, things like that. I like intelligence and fun personality more than 'model looks'.0
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The pool of available partners goes up considerably the more fat a person loses.
That's reality.0 -
Nope. My wife still won't let me date.0
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I heard once that you date and marry on your confidence level. I married my husband when I was extremely over weight. At the time, I was 30 years old and didn't feel like any other opportunity would happen. There are more days than not that I wish I would have waited. He doesn't like my weight loss because I'm more confident and want to dress in more stylish clothing. Sadly, I can honestly say that if I hadn't been so over weight when I got married, I never would have married him.0
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If you need rock hard abs to be able to feel confidence about yourself, there's something wrong there. You shouldn't settle for anything less than what you really want. Take it from a nerdy guy who's dating a supermodel.
True but it wouldn't be the same if you were extremely fat. 300lbs dating a supermodel? Probably will not happen unless you're banking it.0 -
Still single...exercise can't work off this face0
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What are these "standards" you speak of?0
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My ideal man hasn't changed, but I have noticed that I'm getting a lot more attention from a lot more different types of guys.0
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:huh:The pool of available partners goes up considerably the more fat a person loses.
That's reality.0 -
From being 18 years old and skinny (low confidence), 20 years old and 50 pounds over weight (no confidence at all) , and now 22 years (a little confidence starting to show) and almost at a healthy weight, my standards did change in the sense where as I am getting older and my confidence is increasing so I am making better (mature) choices in terms of dating standards0
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For me, losing weight has been a process of self-discovery and realization. I've made many steps to improve myself along with my health including going back to school and addressing my inner demons. I would say that I have raised my dating standards not necessarily because I have lost weight, but because I believe in myself now so will not settle on someone who is not as self-aware and stable as I am. I used to go for the controlling and abusive types because I didn't think I was good enough for something better. I now know that I am deserving of someone who will give as much into the relationship as I do.0
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I was dating the same person steadily through my weight loss. I think your question could be taken a couple of different ways - Do I think I could date more attractive men now than I could before I lost weight? Yes absolutely.0
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From being 18 years old and skinny (low confidence), 20 years old and 50 pounds over weight (no confidence at all) , and now 22 years (a little confidence starting to show) and almost at a healthy weight, my standards did change in the sense where as I am getting older and my confidence is increasing so I am making better (mature) choices in terms of dating standards
THIS... Your standards should increase as you mature!! 0 -
I'll let you know when I get there. oh wait, i'm married. shucks!0
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If they change, you're head was only in the right place half the time0
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Nope. My wife still won't let me date.
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It depends on the standards.
As my confidence grew I chose not to be with "Bad boys". My Bad Boy standards were:
1) Employed, made more than I did
2) Owned a car
3) Nice wardrobe
4) Outgoing, flirty
My new standards are:
1) Gentleman
2) Employed or self-employed but can make less than I do
3) Sweet, romantic
4) Pro-environment
5) Eats healthily0 -
\For me, losing weight has been a process of self-discovery and realization. I've made many steps to improve myself along with my health including going back to school and addressing my inner demons. I would say that I have raised my dating standards not necessarily because I have lost weight, but because I believe in myself now so will not settle on someone who is not as self-aware and stable as I am. I used to go for the controlling and abusive types because I didn't think I was good enough for something better. I now know that I am deserving of someone who will give as much into the relationship as I do.
Very well stated. I stayed with a man way too long (10 years) just because I didn't think I deserved better. I dumped him with no intention of ever dating again and met my husband 2 months later who is the best man in the whole wide world (for me!).
My standards didn't change per say I just realized I didn't have to hang on to the worthless piece of trash I had. I started thinking on a a different level. I can't really explain it.0 -
Nope...I still go after the lonely, drunk girl sitting at the bar at closing time....0
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My standards? What standards? If I get a feeling that she's into me, I'll ask her out. Unfortunately, I haven't gotten that feeling in 7 years...:laugh: :noway:0
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It depends on the standards.
As my confidence grew I chose not to be with "Bad boys". My Bad Boy standards were:
1) Employed, made more than I did
2) Owned a car
3) Nice wardrobe
4) Outgoing, flirty
My new standards are:
1) Gentleman
2) Employed or self-employed but can make less than I do
3) Sweet, romantic
4) Pro-environment
5) Eats healthily
Wow well said0 -
Physically, my husband is not my type at all. He kind of tricked me into dating him, but after two months I got to know him and knew I'd be with him for the rest of my life. I was 145 when we met and I was just as attracted to him at 195 and I have no doubt it will remain the same when I'm back at 145!
His intelligence and personality is just so much higher than the other guys I dated, even though he is only the second most attractive guy I've been with. (The most attractive was the most emotionally immature...19 and had never held a girls hand or anything...we had a good run, but looking back we never could have lasted).0
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