Question for the men in relationships

emmab0902
emmab0902 Posts: 2,338 Member
edited December 22 in Chit-Chat
For those of you in happy relationships and who would never contemplate cheating, would you consider watching porn to be a sign you are not satisfied with your partner? (Yes I know women watch it too but this is a question to the males out there)
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  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    disregard..read it wrong
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    not always, men just like boobs :smile:
  • vade43113
    vade43113 Posts: 836 Member
    not in a relationship...never have been... but will answer

    It depends, if he is watching it to ignore your advances yes... if he is watching it to get better ideas to please you, when he feels you are ignoring him, or for boredom sake, no...
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    Guys like what they cannot have.
    In our DNA we really werent meant to be with 1 person our whole lives.
    I blame the church!
    Anywho....
    Most guys even if they say they dont watch it....lies!
    =D
  • IronSmasher
    IronSmasher Posts: 3,908 Member
    No
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,903 Member
    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    Guys like what they cannot have.
    In our DNA we really werent meant to be with 1 person our whole lives.
    I blame the church!
    Anywho....
    Most guys even if they say they dont watch it....lies!
    =D

    I don't agree with this, I blame the liberal media and porn, for making men believe they weren't meant to have just one partner........ :devil: opinions are easy to throw around on the internet, where is the proof :ohwell:
  • jplord
    jplord Posts: 510 Member
    After 25 years of marriage, I can tell you in my experience that having exciting rambunctious sex gets harder and harder to generate, because you HAVE to work at it. Porn is the lazy way out, and it can be dangerous to some couples for a variety of reasons, but is also benign for other couples. Is porn cheating? If the one partner thinks it is, and the other doesn't then you have something serious to talk about - probably with a therapist.

    Porn has nothing to offer that is better than an enthusiastic skin-to-skin romp in the sheets with your sweetie. Nothing.
  • emmab0902
    emmab0902 Posts: 2,338 Member
    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    board, awake, breathing, did I mention men are.. i mean like boobs :)
  • nikinyx6
    nikinyx6 Posts: 772 Member
    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    Nice.
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
    i'm not a guy, but i have had girlfriends, and if they watched porn, i would not be offended. i would actually be watching with them.
    i would be worried if my partner didn't watch it!
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    very well said!
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,903 Member
    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    Variety? He has a voyeuristic streak? I think need is a strong word. He can be satisfied with his physical relationship with his partner and just like seeing something different. This notion that our spouses must necessarily be everything to other seems a little unrealistic, at least to me.

    If porn is being seen as a problem, the couple should probably examine why and what they plan to do about it.
  • Raska
    Raska Posts: 7 Member
    Definitely not. I feel that anyone who has an issue with it has deeper insecurities and a lack of trust exists.
  • NoAdditives
    NoAdditives Posts: 4,251 Member
    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    board, awake, breathing, did I mention men are.. i mean like boobs :)

    My husband watches porn. I do not mind. He needs to handle his business every day and because of kids, breastfeeding, exhaustion, etc. I cannot always assist him.
  • cmthorsness
    cmthorsness Posts: 83 Member
    Who cares... Its just fantasy, not cheating. I agree MEN LIKE BOOBS...
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Having been in aforementioned relationship...purely animalistic behavior.

    There is no one single person that will ever truly 100% satisfy another. Cheating isn't about sex.
  • mfp_junkie
    mfp_junkie Posts: 359
    After 25 years of marriage, I can tell you in my experience that having exciting rambunctious sex gets harder and harder to generate, because you HAVE to work at it. Porn is the lazy way out, and it can be dangerous to some couples for a variety of reasons, but is also benign for other couples. Is porn cheating? If the one partner thinks it is, and the other doesn't then you have something serious to talk about - probably with a therapist.

    Porn has nothing to offer that is better than an enthusiastic skin-to-skin romp in the sheets with your sweetie. Nothing.

    21 years married, and I agree 100% with you.
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
    Who cares... Its just fantasy, not cheating. I agree MEN LIKE BOOBS...

    yes...says the girl with the awesome boob profile picture!
  • Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    This. hahahah
  • Chipmaniac
    Chipmaniac Posts: 642 Member
    It depends on the frequency and context. Guys are going to take care of their own business once in awhile. Being visual creatures, seeing images and video helps the process along. That raises an interesting question. Is thinking about someone beside your partner while self-pleasuring cheating? If not, then how can looking at images and video rather than just relying on mental imagery be worse? If so, then almost all guys are cheating.
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    I think that if someone "need"s porn, then there is something wrong, and they need to go to some counseling about porn addiction.
    But if they simply enjoy it every once in a while, I don't think that means they "need" it.
  • stratusofkiser
    stratusofkiser Posts: 54 Member
    I know you wanted the mans point of view but.. Ive had this same issue for about 5 years. My husband is like a freakin porn addict!!! I HATE it, he doesnt see it as a problem. A woman will not win the battle of getting rid of the porn, Ive tried no matter how much effort a man that is already into it will not stop. Ive learned to ignore it and not let it bother me. Still does every now and again but So NOT worth the argument. Ive taken to it as yay a break from being harassed by my husband. lol. We have done therapy, all that jazz it all boils down to what the woman can handle and if she can put up with the mans constant need for sexual stimulation.
  • emmab0902
    emmab0902 Posts: 2,338 Member
    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.

    don't, you are very pretty :)
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    Sorry, not a man, but married, IMO a man watches porn for something different to tug to, doesn't mean he's not happy with what he's got. I'm an insecure soul too, but I know I mean more to my hubby that pictures/videos :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
    ETA: I bet you have fantasies too, maybe not visual, but in your mind x
  • Chipmaniac
    Chipmaniac Posts: 642 Member
    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.
    Well, from where I'm sitting you look great. You remind me of Sarah Chalke from Scrubs and before that Rosanne; one of my celeb crushes.

    Chalke_sd8_288x288.jpg

    Edit: Switched to a smaller picture.
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
    :)
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