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  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
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    Who cares... Its just fantasy, not cheating. I agree MEN LIKE BOOBS...

    yes...says the girl with the awesome boob profile picture!
  • gmarriottfccla
    gmarriottfccla Posts: 64
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    This. hahahah
  • Chipmaniac
    Chipmaniac Posts: 642 Member
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    It depends on the frequency and context. Guys are going to take care of their own business once in awhile. Being visual creatures, seeing images and video helps the process along. That raises an interesting question. Is thinking about someone beside your partner while self-pleasuring cheating? If not, then how can looking at images and video rather than just relying on mental imagery be worse? If so, then almost all guys are cheating.
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
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    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    I think that if someone "need"s porn, then there is something wrong, and they need to go to some counseling about porn addiction.
    But if they simply enjoy it every once in a while, I don't think that means they "need" it.
  • stratusofkiser
    stratusofkiser Posts: 54 Member
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    I know you wanted the mans point of view but.. Ive had this same issue for about 5 years. My husband is like a freakin porn addict!!! I HATE it, he doesnt see it as a problem. A woman will not win the battle of getting rid of the porn, Ive tried no matter how much effort a man that is already into it will not stop. Ive learned to ignore it and not let it bother me. Still does every now and again but So NOT worth the argument. Ive taken to it as yay a break from being harassed by my husband. lol. We have done therapy, all that jazz it all boils down to what the woman can handle and if she can put up with the mans constant need for sexual stimulation.
  • emmab0902
    emmab0902 Posts: 2,337 Member
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    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.
  • LiftBigtoGetFit
    LiftBigtoGetFit Posts: 3,399 Member
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    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.

    don't, you are very pretty :)
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
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    Sorry, not a man, but married, IMO a man watches porn for something different to tug to, doesn't mean he's not happy with what he's got. I'm an insecure soul too, but I know I mean more to my hubby that pictures/videos :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
    ETA: I bet you have fantasies too, maybe not visual, but in your mind x
  • Chipmaniac
    Chipmaniac Posts: 642 Member
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    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.
    Well, from where I'm sitting you look great. You remind me of Sarah Chalke from Scrubs and before that Rosanne; one of my celeb crushes.

    Chalke_sd8_288x288.jpg

    Edit: Switched to a smaller picture.
  • Mercenary1914
    Mercenary1914 Posts: 1,087 Member
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    :)
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,904 Member
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    And let's be honest, sometimes you just have a limited amount of time and maintenance is maintenance. A visual aid is just a highly efficient way of communicating information :)
  • jammet80
    jammet80 Posts: 96 Member
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    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.
    Agreed!
  • rmartin72
    rmartin72 Posts: 1,094 Member
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    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.

    I honestly agree.
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
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    No way!
    Don't go into orbit over nothing. Most guys look at porn no matter what. That's just reality.
  • ster81
    ster81 Posts: 249
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    Sorry, not a man, but married, IMO a man watches porn for something different to tug to, doesn't mean he's not happy with what he's got. I'm an insecure soul too, but I know I mean more to my hubby that pictures/videos :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
    ETA: I bet you have fantasies too, maybe not visual, but in your mind x
    right on point!
  • mbajrami
    mbajrami Posts: 636 Member
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    Hahaha! Love it.
  • Rocbola
    Rocbola Posts: 1,998 Member
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    not always, men just like boobs :smile:
    Pretty much. I love my girl, yet, i, uh, have heard of this porn stuff that you speak of.....
  • CoffeeAndBarbells
    CoffeeAndBarbells Posts: 12 Member
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    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.

    So much this!

    Im not a man, but Im a sex-positive woman who doesnt mind if her man watches porn (alone, or with me!). I feel like so many women have irrational feelings about porn, it drives me crazy.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.

    Amen preach on Nas!!

    As for me I'm a visual person...plain and simple!
  • shellebelle87
    shellebelle87 Posts: 291 Member
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    The answer is no!!!! Porn has nothing to do with cheating or an unhappy marriage. PERIOD!

    That's the excuse that women that are insecure with themselves and their marriage make up.

    This. ^^

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