Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

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  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    I work out in my basement . . . the only perv there is me.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper

    I find this comment super insensitive and shallow :ohwell:

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    LMAO
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    I think when a 40 year old looking guy asks me if I need help and then every time I see him at the pool he gives me the googly eye and is all smiley, then he seems kind of creepy to me. If a guy asks me if I'm using such and such piece of equipment or something like that, then he is not creepy. You can usually tell by the way they talk and kind of hang around by you. Leave me aloonneee I just want to work out!!
  • Princess_Sameen
    Princess_Sameen Posts: 284 Member
    I talk to several guys at the gym.... don't think they are pervs. They usually spot me when I do my lifting they are really nice.....some awful guys in there that make their opinion know that women have no place to lift! but I don't care about their numpty ideas!
  • MeMyCatsandI
    MeMyCatsandI Posts: 704 Member
    Be honest? OK. It depends how cute he is.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    This is why I always choose machines next to guys. Then its not so creepy. I also tend to chat the same guys up in the shower afterwards.
    I'm not sure women have this, but a few of the guys at the place do this locker room cooldown, it really helps.
    Its like a massage on the changing bench. Its a little weird at first.
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    No one ever talks to me, except the trainers. However, it would really just depend on the nature of the conversation as to whether I would think I was being hit on or not.
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    just idle chit chat
  • iamkarent
    iamkarent Posts: 144 Member
    I had a funny experience...

    Was a regular at the gym for months...similar time...and always did some cardio...so when I had my gall bladder out...I had to take a couple weeks off...

    Well..I went back in and was doing a walk on a treadmill...and this guy walked over...and says..

    OMG..how have you been? Welcome back..I wondered where you had been....

    The look on my face had to be extremely puzzled...and I was thinking...Ummm..I'm sorry ...do I know you?LOL


    He immediately turned RED! And talking a mile a minute...saying OMG I am an idiot...you must think I am some looney stalker...

    I promise...I am not...it is just I am always here doing cardio when you were...and it gets boring and I look around..and always saw you and admired your progress(about 40 lbs lost at that time) and had noticed you hadn't been in...geez I opened my mouth without thinking...I am so sorry...

    From that moment on we always said hello...and I teased him calling him "creeper"...but honestly he was just a nice guy...bored while working out..

    But there are certainly some who are creepy...or who are obviously there more scoping the place than for a workout...
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    I try to block every body out at the gym all together. I don't see it as a social environment. Although I have known many people that treat it as a business environment, sharing ideas, getting new clients etc I have no intention of speaking to any body.

    I have never had a woman talk to me other than to ask a few pointers about boxing and one time there was this uncomfortable cold air blowing in from the yoga studio onto the machines and the woman running next to me, we both shared a "that is uncomfortably cold" statement.

    I hate the locker room hoverers though. Don't talk to me in the locker room or the steam room or any where near the showers. Yes I am completely comfortable with my sexuality and no I have nothing against homosexuality it is just not my style to talk to a naked dude. It is an awkward enough social interaction for me without adding the fact that you are standing their naked.

    My general advice, treat every one at the gym as if they are trying to rape you. Makes your cardio go quicker when someone walks behind you on a machine !
  • Iamkim73
    Iamkim73 Posts: 924 Member
    The object of the gym for me is to get in and get out. I don't want to lose focus so I will wear my headphones the whole time.

    Exactly this
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    If you think you're possibly being creepy, you're probably being creepy.
  • BazAbroad
    BazAbroad Posts: 248
    I would think you can tell if the guy is trying to pick you up versus just being friendly. For me, I'm there to workout and normally just say "Hi", "Good Bye", "Have a Great Day", "Good Morning", etc... and don't spend a lot of time chit chatting. I sometimes feel like I'm rude because I don't know many people's names but see them outside the gym and wave, smile and then get the look from my wife and "who was that?" She now realizes I may know the nice lady, gentlmen or couple but never really know them more than from the gym and maybe if they do more weights or cardio.

    So I'm guessing I'm wierd, but I try not to get all up in people's faces, especially young ladies as I never want to be though of as a creeper! Just MHO.

    Am much the same...
  • arcticfox04
    arcticfox04 Posts: 1,011 Member
    Talking to someone to the gym is like talking to someone on the MFP. Its just a tool to get you in better shape and you can opt into being social. A Perv is someone that wants to turn something social into something personal.
  • BazAbroad
    BazAbroad Posts: 248
    The object of the gym for me is to get in and get out. I don't want to lose focus so I will wear my headphones the whole time.

    Exactly this
    thats me too, have to take them out when someone speaks 2 me,,,,
  • MelissR75
    MelissR75 Posts: 735 Member
    I workout at home. I cant get away from the pervs that live here!
  • SaintsK
    SaintsK Posts: 18 Member
    I will talk to pretty much anyone that talks to me, but for the most part I haven't been faced with anything more than a "hi".
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    It depends on timing.. if someone starts to chat me up when I'm obviously in the middle of and trying to concentrate on sets... then No, go away.
  • BazAbroad
    BazAbroad Posts: 248
    I make it a rule not to even try to chat up gals in the gym, last thing I want is a bad atmosphere in there, that's my safe place.
  • StarkLark
    StarkLark Posts: 476 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper
    Hahaha, totally made me think of this:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    I'm OK with friendly, and wouldn't automatically consider someone a creeper unless they gave me a reason to. I have had experiences with 70+ year old creepers at walmart that told me, in great detail, that my dress had lifted slightly in the back while I was selecting veggies from a bin and that my panties were very pretty and made them think 'wonderful thoughts' about me. To me, thats major creeper alert. If someone just says 'Hi, what weights are you using? Are you trying to lose weight, tone up? Whats your age?" I wouldn't condemn them right away.
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    At my age there isn't much possibility of someone trying to pick me up at the gym. BUT, there was that very young and hot guy a couple of years ago. He now lifts with my husband.:laugh:
  • willy0524
    willy0524 Posts: 1,897
    At my age there isn't much possibility of someone trying to pick me up at the gym. BUT, there was that very young and hot guy a couple of years ago. He now lifts with my husband.:laugh:


    I have a hard time believing that!!
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    Rule #456

    Headphones/Earbuds in means no approach and no conversation.

    Rule #457

    If you approach and he/she removes headphones/Earbuds then conversation is requested.

    Rule #458

    Don't stare you look like a retard.

    For the rest of the 2,367 rules please request from my web page www.pervsatgym.com (Not really a page just wanted to save you the time)

    Marcello
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    At my age there isn't much possibility of someone trying to pick me up at the gym. BUT, there was that very young and hot guy a couple of years ago. He now lifts with my husband.:laugh:


    I have a hard time believing that!!

    Which part? The part about him lifting with my husband or the fact that he even tried to pick me up?:bigsmile:
  • willy0524
    willy0524 Posts: 1,897
    At my age there isn't much possibility of someone trying to pick me up at the gym. BUT, there was that very young and hot guy a couple of years ago. He now lifts with my husband.:laugh:


    I have a hard time believing that!!

    Which part? The part about him lifting with my husband or the fact that he even tried to pick me up?:bigsmile:

    I can believe him lifting with your hubby, now the other part makes me wonder. :flowerforyou:
  • GurvD
    GurvD Posts: 32 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper
    Hahaha, totally made me think of this:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY

    LMAO. I have found this to be completely true.

    I try not to talk to women in the gym because then they will realise I am a creeper. In the gym when I see someone in great shape I want to look at them. Women and men. I don't mind anyone talking to me in the gym for any reason though.
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    At my age there isn't much possibility of someone trying to pick me up at the gym. BUT, there was that very young and hot guy a couple of years ago. He now lifts with my husband.:laugh:


    I have a hard time believing that!!











    Which part? The part about him lifting with my husband or the fact that he even tried to pick me up?:bigsmile:

    I can believe him lifting with your hubby, now the other part makes me wonder. :flowerforyou:


    Just wondering...is this sarcasm? If so, then disregard my friends request.
  • frillypantz
    frillypantz Posts: 134
    My gym instructor had the balls to chat me up during my workout, he offered me a lift home... i politely declined... went in the next day... he tried again :) for his sheer determination i thought i'd give him a chance, we have now been together a month now and i couldn't be happier with how things turned out! If someone puts them self on the line for you you should at least have the decency to give them a chance :)
  • Lesley2901
    Lesley2901 Posts: 372 Member
    I would assume that any guy talking to me at the gym was just making conversation. A guy did speak to me recently about my program to do pull ups. I mentioned that the weight I was using at the time was half my body weight and he looked at me and said “Surely not, you look as though you weight a lot more than that" . If that was a chat up line it wasn’t good!
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