Need support after miscarriage

I am so very sorry for your loss. I had a baby die two hours after birth, and have put on over 100 pounds after his death. I eat my feels, so I totally understand what you are going through. All I can say is with time that you will have more good days and fewer bad days, but the pain of the loss will never go away. My son would be turning 21 this July and it still hurts. I will keep you in my prayers.

I'm so sorry sweetheart. Feel free to add me.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks back in 2010, so I can relate all too well. Please feel free to add me if you'd like- I'm on every day.

Hang in there.... I struggled with Infertility for two years and suffered miscarriages and chemical pregnancies. I am now the mother of a healthy 4-month old. Let yourself hurt, but don't give up. Fight back against the m/c, get healthy, and get yourself pregnant again! I know it's hard, but you can do it. The healthier you are, the easier conceiving and pregnancy will be.

Oh I'm sorry for your loss. That is very sad:( I can empathize. My son was born at 24 weeks and passed away 68 days after his birth. He passed away on my birthday this past January. Ugggg.

It'll take time for you to gather yourself. Grieving looks different for everyone. Just remember to be kind to yourself...and patient. Trying to be healthy in both eating and exercising will benefit you in the long run but I know it's hard to focus on anything other than your loss.

I can give you tips and advice on what helped for me but frankly....they'll do no good because nothing I say will ease the pain. Wishing you all the best.

My wife and I went through this after going to great lengths to conceive.
It was devastating.
As hard as it may seem now, life goes on and you shall get past the grief.
We went on to have 5 kids and a great family.
But you never forget....

I am so sorry to read of this tragedy. My sympathies go out to you.. I had 4 miscarriages before I found I could not carry a child past 9 weeks, all were traumatizing. As hard and as devastated as you are you must take care of your health. As you get healthy again and your body, mind and spirit heal you will feel whole again and you can continue with healthy habits that you will benefit from as well as any children you have currently or choose to have in the future. Give your body time to heal, feed it well with nutritional options, find solice in knowing you are not alone. Food although comforting will not fill the void... find something healthy that will, like walking or a support group.... or both... Good Luck and Feel better

I can feel your pain. I lost one at 8 weeks. May I suggest that you start living healthy for your next pregnancy?

I'm so sorry for your loss, I have been in your shoes and know what your going through. Feel free to add me if you need someone to talk to. I know it doesn't seem like it now but the pain does ease up a bit, but your correct that you have to grieve and everyone does it differently. Take care of yourself.

Hugs sweetie. I had two mid-term losses myself and gained a lot of weight during and after both....I'm on a mission now to get healhtier and lose the weight you can do it, women are the strongest creatures on earth! feel free to add me

I am so very sorry for your loss. I too have had four miscarriages and two still births. If you need to talk to someone I'm here. Exercise for me was a way that helped me just feel okay. I know overall it helps my feel better.

These losses and trying to comfort myself added to a lot of weight gain. I understand. You are stronger than you know.

I am also very sorry for your loss. I echo those that say talk about it. I didn't, I closed myself off and pretending I was ok. That became the beginning of the end for my husband and I. I think I wanted to talk about but he seemed like everything was ok so I guess I felt I should be ok too. But your not ok and things won't be quite the same again.

So take time, get healthy and when you get pregnant try not to worry- I know that sounds impossible. I feel like I wasn't able to enjoy my pregnancy with my daughter because I was so afraid.

Good luck on your journey!!

Having worked in the medical community, dealt with similar issues in my own life, and learned the hard lessons of losing loved ones I understand where you are coming from. I am sorry for your loss. I also know everything happens for a reason and many times we punish ourselves for things we could never have controlled, you certainly do not need to do that.

From the medical standpoint, miscarriages are more common than many think and only signifies the body is not yet ready. I have seen many work through multiple miscarriages and finally have the family they wanted. Still, it is difficult to deal with and can bring depression into your world...a very natural process, as well.

Comfort eating is not entirely a bad thing, but I would suggest getting outside and getting sunlight and the affects of nature. A good walk every day will help you not only increase happy chemistry within your body, but also give you time to work through your issues bringing you mental clarity and lifting the affects of depression.

If you cannot shake it, I would find someone you can talk to outside of your circl of family and friends, someone removed from your life but that also can help. A pastor, councelor, or maybe a co-worker that has been through something similar and successfully overcame the depression would be an example of someone to confide in.

Remember, you are not alone in this, so taking your mate with you once you are at that point also helps heal him. Too many times men bury their feelings and own depression to help and "fix" the situation, when they should be processing the same feelings and working through their issues. Helping your mate as you help yourself reduces the amount of time required to overcome depression, in fact, any time you help others it takes you out of your own world and helps the healing process.

Take heart in knowing there is a time and a season for everything, this does not define your life or future, it is just a snapshot in time. You will find happiness as long as you never give up on what you want, life will get in line with your wishes when everything is right. Live happy and healthy, set the example for your future children on how to deal with difficulty in life, although difficult...you have what it takes to make them proud you made good of disappointment in life.

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. I've had 12 miscarriages. The first one was absolutely devastating, and after 13 years, I still mourn that lost angel, but the hurt is not so acute. Like the death of anyone close to you, the pain eases with time. That baby was as real to you as any wriggling, breathing, kicking, screaming toddler is to any parent out there, and don't let anyone tell you any different. One thing that helped me cope was to give my angels names, and to create some type of memorial. Plant a bush or a tree. I had a pin with little cherub charms, engraved with the names and would-be due dates of the angels on the back. I kept it up for the first five miscarriages, but it made the goldsmith so sad that I eventually stopped. Then after a while my husband and I just stopped telling anyone when I became pregnant.

Everyone must walk a different path through grief, but it's a path that is best walked with company. Find a good online support group for miscarriage. If you are trying again, then find one geared specifically for trying to conceive after miscarriage. That, for me, was also a Godsend.

As we say in Alabama, Bless your Heart.

Im so sorry for everyone's losses. I went through 6 miscarriages and infertility treatments before having my daughter. It helps to talk to others. Dont feel pressured into being silent. There are a lot of support groups out there, both in real life and online. If that isnt your thing, try talking to a therapist. A lot of reproductive endocrinologists can reccommend great infertility/pregnancy loss therapists. Above all, dont give up.