Would you tell?

One of my besties has been having affairs quite a bit. Although I do not agree with it and feel bad for her spouse, I do not feel it is my place to judge or say anything. It is her life and whatever happens...happens. Karma can be nasty and those who choose to do things will have to face the consequences. She is my friend regardless and I will not rat her out or judge her for her decisions.

In the meantime, she puts her husband at risk for STDs, embarrassment, and heart-ache.

^^Exactly.

This again!!

And there is never a "legit" reason to cheat. Someone is in an abusive relationship? Walk away. Someone is already being cheated on? Walk away. Don't cheat.

Also- if you don't tell, and some how the cheated on finds out- how do you think that will bode for your relationship?

I'm not suggesting you tell. I'm suggesting you quit referring to a perpetual cheater as your bestie and get some new friends that, perhaps... deserve some respect and a loyal friendship. Because she doesn't.

She isn't cheating on ME so yes, she is still a good friend to me. It's best not to get involved in other people's business.... it will always come back to bite you in the @ss!

So on a side note to the whole "side chick" topic. If you knew a couple and you knew one of them was cheating (had been for a significant amount of time, one night fling, whichever).
Would you tell the other person in the committed relationship?
Would you talk to the one cheating to try to get them to stop?
Or would you do nothing?

*kitten*. I hate this. Per the bro manual, I'd have to keep quiet. But, i might try to drop very subtle hints. Like, "Hey, have you looked at your cell phone bills lately. Mine was unusually high". Wink, wink. IDK, it's a tough road. When you're friends with both, it's hard to be in the middle of it, and then if she finds out you knew, ugh! Sucks.

I'd probably speak to the cheater, and ask him/her to please be responsible for his/her actions. Like someone above mentioned: STD's are a big deal.

I'd never tell the person being cheated on, because it's not my place.

I would never put myself into somebody's affairs- marital or extracurricular.

SHHHHHHHHH

Playa rule # 4: deny DENY deny deny and DENY that you are denying :devil:

Knew with two friends and told because they said they wanted to know.

Guess what? Both couples decided to stay together.

Guess what else? I am now the bad guy, even though I wasn't a participant and only felt like I was doing the right thing to let the friend know.

So answer: Never again. They can find out in due time.

I would offer the person who was cheating the opportunity to tell them first......After that it depends.....Is it the guy cheating or the girl........ bros before hos

personally i would give the cheater
the opportunity to tell their partner themselves, and warn them that if they didnt, i would !

I would offer the person who was cheating the opportunity to tell them first......After that it depends.....Is it the guy cheating or the girl........ bros before hos

Did that too...again...the person being cheated on, doesn't want to know even when they say they want to know....

there was a situation where the couple were both friends of mine. they both worked with me and so did the girl he was cheating with. i told her and she was mad at me for telling her. she continued the relationship and gave me the dirtiest looks......two years later the same scenario occured, i stayed out of it.....

They should totally make a movie about a situation like this. They could call it "The Predicament"

Not my business or right to get involved.

That's Right!

snitches get stitches!! HAHAHAHA

Snitches get ditches.

I'm not suggesting you tell. I'm suggesting you quit referring to a perpetual cheater as your bestie and get some new friends that, perhaps... deserve some respect and a loyal friendship. Because she doesn't.

She isn't cheating on ME so yes, she is still a good friend to me. It's best not to get involved in other people's business.... it will always come back to bite you in the @ss!

It's your prerogative. It's just my opinion that standing by her side while she knowingly hurts her family, whom she should be the most dedicated to, is the equivalent of condoning it. This isn't a one time mistake you've kept quiet about... it's an on-going behavior.

Not that it matters here nor there, but she doesn't deserve your "loyalty" in my opinion.

I understand what you are saying... she knows I do not like it or agree with it and that I feel she is making a huge mistake. Mostly we do not talk about it because she knows how I feel. I would not end my relationship with her because of something that doesn't involve me though.

My name is Bennett & I ain't in IT!!
Last time I attempted to warn a friend about "her man" it came back to slap me in the face. She believed the things he said. It put distance in between our friendship. So I just sat back and let nature take it's course. The truth always reveals itself at some point. In this situation it did about 6-8 months after I warned her. SMH!! However, she and I are right back like we always have been. She learned a huge lesson from it all. On another note she now has a great guy in her corner.

If I was going to say something to either of them, it would be the cheater, not the cheatee - unless the cheatee asked me.

I have a friend who cheats on his wife - but is always careful, so STDs aren't a concern. He really can't stand his wife, but is afraid to leave her because, for one, she's effing nuts, and two, he doesn't want to not see his kids every day. I don't tell her about it, because if he's being responsible about it, it's not an issue to me.