I am an "unfit" Mom for working out??????

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xoalyssaox
xoalyssaox Posts: 320
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I am going through a divorce. My ex and I have been trying to work things out the past two weeks and see if it can work. Well I told him I joined a gym yesterday and now he is saying I am an unfit mom for letting my son be in the childcare center at the gym while I work out. I also work in a daycare and my son comes with me, but I get off work at 1 pm. He has always been verbally and mentally abusive, but this is just ridocolous. He CONSTANTLY calls me fat, and then I FINALLY join a gym and he gets mad!!!! I can NEVER win. I am doing sooooooo good. I stuck to MFP for 2 days now, and worked out at the gym both days. Why is it, that every time I am happy, he brings me down??????

Sorry if this isn't "weightloss" related...But I am so frustrated!!
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  • kryssy77
    kryssy77 Posts: 219
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    Hunny dont you worry about him! Worry about getting healthy for you and your son. You are not an unfit mother at all!

    You keep at it and forget about him
  • April0815
    April0815 Posts: 780 Member
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    Sounds like someone is very jealous!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to do what is best for you. Your son is fine. Your husband is trying to control you, don't let him.
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
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    tell, him "Yes, I'm unfit-- that's why I joined a gym."

    Badump bump
  • neenaleigh
    neenaleigh Posts: 584 Member
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    he's jealous cause he screwed up and now the best thing he ever had is goin to be better! thats all, he's just a sore looser....dont let him bring you down!:flowerforyou:
  • butterfly25
    butterfly25 Posts: 186 Member
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    soooooo that mean so i am i:blushing: cause there are days i need to put my son in the daycare at the gym and i do have to say he loves to go!!!
  • calvarado
    calvarado Posts: 72
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    You are the illustration of a perfectly "fit" Mom for setting the great example to your son that your health and well being are important enough to take ownership of! Good for you for getting away from such a monster! Keep up the hard work, and it will pay off in more ways than you ever intentionally thought of! We are here to support each other- that's what MFP is for. :flowerforyou:
  • rob_in_wisc
    rob_in_wisc Posts: 72
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    1. You are being a good example for your child.

    2. You will be healthier and happier because you work out, which means more paitence to deal with the stress of life.

    3. It is important for kids to have some interaction, such as daycare, before starting school full time. They tend to adjust to school much better.

    4. Tell him to get a life of his own. When the only thing he can do to make himself feel better is tear you down, then does not say much for him.

    Just my 2 cents....
  • xoalyssaox
    xoalyssaox Posts: 320
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    tell, him "Yes, I'm unfit-- that's why I joined a gym."

    Badump bump



    hahahahahahahahha thats soooooo funny!
  • RHarter0710
    RHarter0710 Posts: 97
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    Guy seems to have some issues with himself. I'd blow him off. If he doesn't seem to be able to come to the conclusion that you're doing this for you and your childs life. I'd give anything for my ex to do something like that. Good luck to you... you deserve better obviously.
  • nicolee516
    nicolee516 Posts: 1,862 Member
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    I have a friend that has the same abuse issues with her ex-husband. IT'S NOT YOU!!!! He was just mad because he can't control you, so he will try to take verbal stabs at every thing he can think of to try to get you to crack. Don't budge girl! You are doing great! Just keep the stability like you are for your son. Him seeing you be a healthy person will cause him to follow in your footsteps. It may be a tough climb, but it will happen! Keep your chin up and put a "protective bubble" around you. Everything he says bounces off of it and goes right back to him! I know it sounds childish, BUT, you do have to protect yourself from the verbal abuse!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • iplayoutside19
    iplayoutside19 Posts: 2,304 Member
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    I am going through a divorce. My ex and I have been trying to work things out the past two weeks and see if it can work. Well I told him I joined a gym yesterday and now he is saying I am an unfit mom for letting my son be in the childcare center at the gym while I work out. I also work in a daycare and my son comes with me, but I get off work at 1 pm. He has always been verbally and mentally abusive, but this is just ridocolous. He CONSTANTLY calls me fat, and then I FINALLY join a gym and he gets mad!!!! I can NEVER win. I am doing sooooooo good. I stuck to MFP for 2 days now, and worked out at the gym both days. Why is it, that every time I am happy, he brings me down??????

    Sorry if this isn't "weightloss" related...But I am so frustrated!!

    Since I assume your son is his son; If he has a problem with him being in the childcare at the gym, maybe he should watch him while you work out..
  • ivykivy
    ivykivy Posts: 2,970 Member
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    No an unfit mom would give the child nyquil and leave him at home while she goes to the gym.
    He is reality challenged.
  • FireMonkey
    FireMonkey Posts: 500 Member
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    Sounds like a total control issue to me. Ignore the negativity and do what's right for you and your son.
  • mrsbice
    mrsbice Posts: 31
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    unfit? wow.

    you are making yourself a "fit" mom so you can be a mother much longer!

    he is just angry and is trying to put you down. It is a mental game, if he can make you feel less then, then you are under his thumb.

    Ignore him and keep working out, for you and your son! :bigsmile:
  • silvertears
    silvertears Posts: 106 Member
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    I wouldn't listen to him. He's trying to freak you out - if he can make you feel guilty for it, you'll stop and he probably thinks no other man would want you unless you lose weight. It's insecurity on his part and if you just ignore him it gives you the upper hand.
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
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    i didn't read all the posts cause i feel mentally lazy right now

    but what a ****. that is control, i hope you see that.
  • stef_e_b
    stef_e_b Posts: 593
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    He's an unfit father for being abusive.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
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    He's soon to be your ex, and no longer gets to have an opinion about you- not one that counts anyway. He likes to drag you down- that's just how some people are. Plan to have as little to do with him as you possibly can, and get on about your business. On to bigger and better things. :smile:
  • weaklink109
    weaklink109 Posts: 2,831 Member
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    Tell him to bite the wall, then take up kick boxing and kick him to the curb!!!:laugh: :laugh:

    As for working things out, I can understand why you would make the attempt because of your son, but if this is an example of how he reacts to something positive you are doing for YOU, you gotta ask yourself, what is it you are trying to salvage? Your son doesn't need a male role model who teaches him to put other people down and control them.

    I wish you the best :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: no matter how things play out. Take care of yourself, and remember "time wounds all heels" :bigsmile:
  • stormieweather
    stormieweather Posts: 2,549 Member
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    If it wasn't this complaint, it would be another (typical abuser). Tune him out and listen to your own instincts.

    I take my 4yr old to the gym daycare and she LOVES it. I do too :)

    So, good for you!

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