Annoyed by People Commenting??

the commenting is a bit of a pain, but i hate it the most when they are stood with a cake in their hand asking how did you do it !!!

someone even asked me if i was taking drugs to loose weight !!!! i was very offended, they have no idea how hard i have worked and how many of my evenings are spent in the gym.

so thank you for saying i look nice, but if you want to follow it up with, are you taking weight loss drugs or asking me how they can loose weight, then please dont bother.

when your ready to loose weight something clicks and you get off your butt and go for it, you dont stand around in the office kitchen eating your fifth cake of the day asking me how to do it


arghhhh and relax :-)

ohh why do you take it that way?

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wow...if you want to complain about getting a compliment...just wow

change that attitude before it changes you!

DOUBLE THIS!
Complaining about getting a compliment. that is..... :noway: Not what having friends on MFP is all about. Having FITNESS PALS is meant to incourage you. But, if you don't want to be encouraged and motivated, I'll remember to not send you a friend request...

ohh why do you take it that way?

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wow...if you want to complain about getting a compliment...just wow

change that attitude before it changes you!

I am with this guy....I love that people notice all my hard work, it is not easy to lose weight. And to be blunt about it if you are trying to lose a lot of weight then yea you probably did not look your "best" before you lost weight...It is the same thing as if you always wore sweats and t-shirts everyday then one day you dressed up in a cute dress, heals, makeup, the work...Everyone is going to complement you. You may still be a good looking person in sweats but in the dress you are an even better looking… same goes with weight loss. From my experience when you look better you feel better when you feel better you tend to have more confidence…Confidence is very attractive in all people (as long as it does not go over into arrogance) … People are not trying to be mean; they are just telling it like they see it.
It is harsh but healthy=skinny and the world we live in skinny=beauty and there is nothing we are going to do to change that. But if I am Skinny to be healthy, I am not going to complain that people think I look good. When you are overweight you are more likely to get diseases and die from heart issues. So take it as a compliment that people notice that you are a healthy more confident individual.

That's an interesting take. I have lost over 50lbs before and never got tired of people celebrating that accomplishment with me. In fact, it gave me even more motivation to maintain and continue on.
I'm sorry you would be annoyed by that. Instead of worrying about how bad you may or may not have looked in the past, it might be better for you to keep your focus on the present. Enjoy where you are now and leave your history where it is...

Really? This is what bothers you the most? People cant even give compliments anymore without offending someone.

Seriously! People need to stop being so damned offended over every stupid thing.

When you've lost some serious weight, let me know and I'll be sure to talk on and on about how fat you were to begin with. The OP isn't talking about being offended by compliments, but the ongoing discussion of his/her weight loss under the guise of compliments. I can relate to this, and have discussed with others in the same position before how it seems that SOME people look at you and take large-scale weight loss as a license to discuss just how fat you were to begin with. It's incredibly offensive, and yes annoying.

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Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

Don't be annoyed when they compliment you, Remember not everyone is there yet. So each individual is looking at it for his own reason. I can't wait until it happens to me! and Yes absolutely I must have looked that bad before, I will not forget were I came from, because it is just sooooooo easy to go back. Get off that and start to appreciate every single comment, cause that is how people lose sight, and end up right back to day 1

The 90/10 Principle by Author Stephen Covey

What is the Principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react

What does this mean?

We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.

You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction.

Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.

You have no control over what just happened. So what happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing a $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. Your day started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.

You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what should have happened…

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.

You gently say, “It’s okay honey, you just need to be more careful next time.”

Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you reacted.

You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches. We must all apply the 90/10 Principle. It can change your life!

NEVER!

SMH at some of the post that reprimanded the OP for how she felt. I guess all the ups and downs of weight loss have a rule...hmm

OP I understand what you mean. The fact that it was a struggle for you, and you most likely didn't share it with them. So inquiries/comments could ge geniune. But I've been around long enough to know the difference of authentic and spiteful comments. Only you know the environment of people you are around, so Im sure your discernment of it is justified.

Just know that no matter what you looked like before YOU are still the same person in heart mind and spirit. Don't allow your feelings to get in the way, and definitely don't allow some negative comments from posters on here to get you down for speaking out on what you feel. Hope it gets better for you.

Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

Stop losing. Problem solved.

Get an attitude adjustment. Problem solved.

No, no, no!
People are excited for you, and your success encourages us all.
KEEP PUNCHING!

Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

NOPE....it never gets old to me!! I love and appreciate their kind words of support and encouragement. It keeps me motivated. I them for noticing.

Is it just me...or do you start to get slightly annoyed when people CONTINUOUSLY comment on the weight you've lost?? At first it was great...but now I can't help thinking...DID I LOOK THAT BAD BEFORE??? lol....just a little Friday venting...

I know what you mean, it can be a bit of a double-edge sword to hear, "Oh your bottom looks so curvy now", and you hear the unspoken after-words of, "It looked like a sack of potatoes before...". :embarassed:

I always feel like this when somebody says, "You look so beautiful today, that top/dress/whatever really suits you"... it makes me wonder, whether I looked like a bag lady before... :sad: