Exes..
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I'm a ping-ponger. i go back and forth with all my exes at one point or another. It's just how I roll.
What I've learned is that there is a reason why you broke up, and whatever that is, remains forever. It never ever changes. It's the same thing that will occur again. And, when you're sitting next to that person, you are brutally reminded of why you broke up with them in the first place and that it was the right decision. LOL. Serious.
Having said that, ex sex is phenomenal. Better than make up sex. :bigsmile: Just don't tell anyone. it's best to keep those things to yourself. LOL.0 -
Will there be any kind of explosive device or weaponized bioagent attached?
:laugh: eheheh!
On a more serious note: don't do it. :indifferent:
You'll just be putting yourself out there for the kill. Leave it be, friend.0 -
He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
We stopped talking because he didn't like that I was having contact with my dad again and another reason we broke up was because I didn't agree with his plan to have an operation because I felt it was unneccessary(he has facial disfigurements and has now had more plastic surgery) and I did tell him I didn't think I could support him through it. Not because I'm selfish, well maybe I am I dont know, I just found it hard because I wanted him to see the person I see in him but he hated how he looked so yeah.0 -
He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
We stopped talking because he didn't like that I was having contact with my dad again and another reason we broke up was because I didn't agree with his plan to have an operation because I felt it was unneccessary(he has facial disfigurements and has now had more plastic surgery) and I did tell him I didn't think I could support him through it. Not because I'm selfish, well maybe I am I dont know, I just found it hard because I wanted him to see the person I see in him but he hated how he looked so yeah.
It sounds like you both need to work on yourselves right now. If it's meant to be, then it will be. But if you do finally come back together, you want it to be right and wonderful. That isn't going to happen if you aren't both ready for it emotionally.0 -
Getting back with an ex is like trying to put spoiled milk back in the refrigerator...it's not going to get any better.
Don't send the letter.0 -
I think your friends are right. You'll always be wondering 'what if?' The worst that can happen is that he completely ignores you or tells you he doesn't feel the same way. Then at least you'll know.0
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He's your Ex for a reason...Don't get yourself in it again...0
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Doubtful that he's changed much. I got back together w/ one of my exes after 3 years apart.......turns out he was still the same jack@ss he always was. Truth was he was my first "love" and part of me will always love him, but I am far better off without him and happy as ever. Years from now you'll be happy for the good memories, but you'll be even happier that they are just that, Memories! Move on and find your happiness girl!0
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I never click on .exes.
Lol
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I wouldn't send it. But that's me and we're all different people that handle situations differently. You could send it and get a response you're not emotionally ready for or the complete opposite. Remember though, that he is an ex for a number of reasons. If you both were still in a happy relationship, or at least thought it worthy enough of fixing, then you guys wouldn't be ex's.
When a boyfriend becomes an Ex, in my case, it's almost like they no longer exist. It's my way of moving on. I cut them out completely. But again, that's me.0 -
Let it go. Move on.
The reasons you broke up are still there.
You can sit around and remember the good times...whatever they were....easy to do when you are alone.
Get out there, meet some new people, and move on.
You can't go backwards.0 -
Write the letter to get your feelings out ~ BUT DO NOT SEND IT. :brokenheart:0
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I would trash it. i haven't had a relationship come to an end that I just couldn't stand the person anyways. I hate when my exes try to contact me especially with old feelings or talking about the past. I would say just move on. For whatever reasons you broke up, more than likely nothing has changed.0
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I would never open it if it was an email I would delete without reading, text the same thing, I block exes phone numbers. Exes in my life are exes for a reason I never look back or give second chances to exes.0
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burn it. it's ok and even theraputic to WRITE IT but NEVER, EVER send it. NEVER. EVER. done is done. burn the letter, turn the page, move forward.
it is difficult and dangerous to move forward while LOOKING BACKWARD- stop it. you are only hurting yourself.
you can take my advice or be miserable for another 6 months/year - your call0 -
It depends on how long you two were together and why you broke up in the first place.
If it is something you know you to can solve and your break up wasn´t ugly then why not send it.
I would freak out and escape the country.
There is no way I will ever tolerate physical and verbal violence.
It is bad enough that he is still threatening, trying to dominate me and so on 9 years after we split up0 -
I don't know you or your entire situation, but now might be a better time to get out and meet new people.
I would not suggest you send that letter.
let that guy go, buck up and move on.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.0 -
it is good to write your emotions out in this e-mail....but he is your ex for a reason. Honestly, write your e-mail but don't click send. I'm not sure you will gain anything more from it than what you already did by writing it.
Focus on moving forward from your breakup in positive ways. Slowly your heart will heal itself:)0 -
He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
This make me think that you don't really want him, you just want him to want you. Evaluate your true motivations for doing this.
And if it were me, if I had tried to contact my ex, sent him love letters and flowers and was ignored....if I finally moved on then heard from him. I'd probably be partly annoyed, and partly gratified that it ultimately ended with me having the upper hand. Selfish and probably evil, but true.0 -
There is a reason why they're an ex, which others have already stated. Things won't be any different if you try again unfortunately, the same issues will resurface. But I think writing your thoughts down is always good, not sure I would give it to him.0
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He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
This make me think that you don't really want him, you just want him to want you. Evaluate your true motivations for doing this.
And if it were me, if I had tried to contact my ex, sent him love letters and flowers and was ignored....if I finally moved on then heard from him. I'd probably be partly annoyed, and partly gratified that it ultimately ended with me having the upper hand. Selfish and probably evil, but true.
Totally agreed.0 -
Even if you still want him and even if he still wants you back, don't do it.
I come from the frame of mind that once it's broke, it's broke.
Every try to fix a chair leg with some tape? It's never the same.
That's why once things break, I move on. I never look back.
I take my emotion switch and put it in off. That's how to do it.
Broken = garbage. Recycling is for chumps.0 -
Time will heal all wounds, but make sure it heals them properly otherwise you'll get your heart broken again.0 -
Don't send it and move on. you're exes for a reason. There is someone better out there.0
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I know it sounds like that and I think at the time, that's just what it was. It sounds so cruel but I wanted him to want me just so I could say no and have the control, but I've changed. I love him, I guess going on my date made me realise just how much I loved him, I feel sick when I think of a life without him, I want mark to be a big part of my future. As lame as it sounds, I want us to take on the world together haha.He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
This make me think that you don't really want him, you just want him to want you. Evaluate your true motivations for doing this.
And if it were me, if I had tried to contact my ex, sent him love letters and flowers and was ignored....if I finally moved on then heard from him. I'd probably be partly annoyed, and partly gratified that it ultimately ended with me having the upper hand. Selfish and probably evil, but true.0 -
He's an ex for a reason.0
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I wrote one and did wind up giving it to my ex (husband). It didn't change things at that time, but I did feel that it was something I needed to do, for me, because of the "what if" factor. Had I ever done it before or have I done it since, no. It was a specific situation, we did eventually wind up back together, stayed together for a while and then split up again, this time for good. I wouldn't say that getting back with him was a mistake, but I also know it's not something I'd've likely done if he were any person than who he was. Regardless, even though I've done it and don't regret it... I think it's something that you should think LONG and hard about before you do it. I promise you I did... I made peace with it before the letter ever passed from my hand to his... And I did deliver it in person and basically told him how I felt out loud as well... And then I walked away. Best wishes. It's not easy, whichever path you choose. Weigh it very carefully in your mind ahead of time.0
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He did try asking me back for a few months after we broke up, sent me flowers and love letters but I'm stubborn so I just kept turning him down. I guess I didn't actually ever think he'd forget about me, I always thought he'd keep trying.
We stopped talking because he didn't like that I was having contact with my dad again and another reason we broke up was because I didn't agree with his plan to have an operation because I felt it was unneccessary(he has facial disfigurements and has now had more plastic surgery) and I did tell him I didn't think I could support him through it. Not because I'm selfish, well maybe I am I dont know, I just found it hard because I wanted him to see the person I see in him but he hated how he looked so yeah.
Not trying to make you feel bad at all but maybe that disfigurement caused him alot of anxiety and self esteem issues. If he wouldn't have done that he would have been denying himself happiness all because you didnt want him too. Does that make any sense? And yes that is selfish because what if you want to loose weight because you weren't happy and he didn't want you too.. Being in a marriage or a commited relationship means being supportive of someone, and you can't make someone happy if you yourself aren't. Just food for thought. but I still think you should at least write a letter and put it out there if he still feels the same then cool, however realize and make sure the things that ya'll broke up over are things you can over look or he can before you get back together. 0 -
I might not open it. I would be worried that it was just nasty. Draw a little flower or smiley face on the outside or something.
It would not trouble me at all to get a love letter from my ex. It would not happen because there are no feelings either way... we remain friends.
Feelings usually go both ways. If you still have feelings, he probably does too. Pride is a terrible destroyer of good things.
You have nothing to lose except a stamp and a lot to gain if you love the guy.0 -
Time will heal all wounds, but make sure it heals them properly otherwise you'll get your heart broken again.
I adore you.0
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