Need advice on getting my wife on MFP

I'd say just keep doing what you're doing and talk about the good parts of your experience, but stop trying to convince her. If she sees your success and doesn't feel like you're hounding her, she might come over to the "lite" side.

Don't know how she feels, obviously, but if my SO tried to convince me to join a site like this, I'd probably think he was telling me I'm fat. Even if I was grossly overweight, it wouldn't be something I'd want to hear from my SO, even if his heart were in the right place.

Good luck to you! Hopefully your wife will follow your lead on her own accord!

Jen

You should do what work for you period. She will do it if and when she is ready.

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Tell her there are lots of really friendly women here who post pictures in bikinis and are really supportive of your weight loss... She'll be on in no time to claw their eyes out ;-)

Alternatively just keep mentioning it but not pressurising and curiosity will get to her in the end. She can't be busy all the time.

Show her it WORKS. If you can lead by example and show her how logging your calories every day has helped you to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle, she might be more inclined to try it.

This is a tough one...but I bet when your weight loss increases and really starts to show, she will definitely notice and not want to continue looking like a fat frump beside you. My husband is tall, fit, and athletic and that was a big motivator for me.

you can't force people to do something, sadly.

my friends called me fat, and it pretty much did it for me though!

not sure you want to call your wife fat, but it might kick her in the butt to get going.

it seriously takes 5 minutes a day to log! have her mom/sister/friend tell her to do it?

I feel you. i seriously want to get my husband on this site too, but it is not his cup of tea.

Help! My wife is also weight challenged and really needs to lose weight, if for no other reason, to live longer and not make me a widow. I have been gently trying to get her to join MFP and log her caloric intake, as well as be more careful about what she eats. So far, she always has an excuse: e.g. "I'm so busy, I just don't have the time", or "It's such a hassle to log everything, I don't think I can do it".

I could use and and all suggestions on how to get her on here and on the path to better health. Thoughts?

When she's tired of being fat, your wife will decide for herself.
It's an internal motivation. Maybe seeing your success will stir something within her.
Just focus on you for now, and in time maybe she will come around.
Good luck, and welcome!

I wanted my husband to join. He didn't want too .... when he did he didn't log in or log on or anything.

So I showed him it worked.
I talked about it all the time.
He saw how much I was loosing & wanted to better himself.

She will come around if its what she wants - she has to want to do it though.
If she has weight issues she probably feels bad enough don't put her down.

Now I have friends, relatives & even my husband's boss joined

You don't HAVE to be on MFP and count calories to lose weight. If that's the way you want to do it, good for you. It's the way I like too, but my husband could never do it, and it does just fine trying to eat less and move more. Just try and do things to be more healthy as a couple (or a family). Get some healthy cook books, go to healthy cooking classes. Go to the farmer's market together and stock up on fresh fruits and veggies. Do active things together like hiking, walking, biking, etc, or even yard work.

The excuses that she used really aren't legitimate, so it really does sound like she just doesn't want to. Since you are eating less and healthier, has she joined you in this, or stuck to her old ways?

I think it's best to drop it. It's her choice And you still use your knowledge that you have learnt on MFP to help. If you don't already, I would suggest making healthy dinners and asking to her go on walks or exercise with you.

you can't force people to do something, sadly.

my friends called me fat, and it pretty much did it for me though!

not sure you want to call your wife fat, but it might kick her in the butt to get going.

it seriously takes 5 minutes a day to log! have her mom/sister/friend tell her to do it?

Call your wife fat???? Really? Better find some other place to sleep tonight, buddy! LOL

Help! My wife is also weight challenged and really needs to lose weight, if for no other reason, to live longer and not make me a widow. I have been gently trying to get her to join MFP and log her caloric intake, as well as be more careful about what she eats. So far, she always has an excuse: e.g. "I'm so busy, I just don't have the time", or "It's such a hassle to log everything, I don't think I can do it".

I could use and and all suggestions on how to get her on here and on the path to better health. Thoughts?

Be the cook in your house and that way you can cook healthy for both of you. Making your lunch?? ... make one for her also ... There is to ways she could take it ... either awwww your so sweet(lets hope for that one)... or WTF you trying to do. Make it something you do as a couple with out forcing it on her that is of course.

You could argue the fact that the time she invests now could will save time and money in the future by avoiding medications and going to the doctor. When I first got my doctor scare my medication came to just under $300 (Canadian)...

I treat dieting and trying to lose weight like any other addiction, when you chose to do something about it, its because you have reached your point where you want things to change for one reason or another. I would never diet to make someone else happy and at the same time if I was not mentally ready to change my life for the better, no matter what diet I would chose im sure I would fail with it.
I chose to finally change my life for the better because I could not stand to look at myself anymore, I hate every inch of my body. Also I recognised that I was having a problem with food and that it was really having a bad effect on my health. I chose to face reality and it was not nice. I love food, it has been a comfort (not friend) for many years and has been a coping mechanism for many stressful situations. My advice is, if your wife really isnt ready to start addressing her eating issues then don't push her. She has to be mentally ready because as all of us know its not easy by far.

This place is great, but it really isn't for everyone. As I've lost my husband has lost as well, and while he has a MFP account, he never uses it. He's doing OK on his own.