Slap me please!

Personally, I think the sales person should have let you try one on and let you figure out on your own whether or not it would have worked.

But, like the others have said, you're on the right track. You're here now, trying to get healthy and lose weight. Maybe you can buy the swimsuit and keep it for a goal of yours! Never give up, dear. :flowerforyou:

ETA: And, I don't think the sales person was really trying to be rude either. Just from the description that you gave, it seemed like she was trying to be helpful, but maybe not in the most tactful manner.

That woman was out of line!!!!!!
You are a beautiful person and I hope for your sake you lose the weight you want so that you can be a better you.
I know sometimes I'm not motivated to work out, so it really helps finding something you enjoy doing that does not feel like a "workout"
I like belly dancing (there are great instructional tapes out there) or playing the dance games on wii.
I hope you reach a point where you are inspired to get healthy.
I'm on everyday so if you want feel free to fr me

What a ****ty saleswoman.

-poor technique

-RUDE!!@!!!!!

-UNhelpful

Please don't shop there again and please don't go into a downward spiral because of one stupid woman. 10 lbs in one month is GREAT. You are doing just fine and don't let that ***** de-rail you. Wipe the slate clean and start over tomorrow. You CAN do this. You CAN.:flowerforyou:

I could tell you hundreds of cliches in response to your post but I will rely on only one. Rome wasn't built in a day. You need to remember that each day that comes is another step towards your goal. In time you will learn to eat more healthy foods and what exercises work best for you. Find a cardio exercise that you really enjoy doing whether it's running, cycling, jump rope. Jumping rope burns about 10 calories a minute. Doing exercises you enjoy helps keep you going. There are a lot of exercises you can do without equipment and little time.

We live in the same town so please friend me. I will gladly offer tips and advice if you ask. In return you can sign a softball for me when you go pro! Best of luck and don't worry about the sales cluck (not a typo) at the swim shop!

I am so sorry. I have been there, hell, I am there. I used to be proud of my athletic ability and strength. Now I feel like a fraction of myself and look like I ate the girl I used to be! I have battled my own demons, things that have crept in to my head, that resounding negative voice, the fear that even if I get it all off AGAIN, I am scared out of my mind I will just gain it back. I have hid in my house not wanting to go out and let people see me, especially not my family and friends; because at least strangers don't know how far I have fallen. Honey, it is a terrible feeling. It is a terrifying . So here is what I have done.... I have recognized, (since I am a social worker) I NEED the people around me who love me. I NEED accountability. I NEED support. I feel like my problem is bigger than what I can handle on my own. I know i must commit to a lifetime of health. So, just like any recovering addict (ugh, I hate using that to describe myself), I need an action plan. Just like an alcoholic needs a plan. An alcoholic may meditate and call their sponsor to stay on their road to recovery. I have created my own action plan. I wrote my action plan in a journal. It is my go to when the *kitten* hits the fan or I have a case of the"I don't wanna's" or the "What is the point anyway?". My personal action plan is #1-When I begin to struggle I will check out before and after stories, I find them inspiring. Before and afters light some sort of intrinsic motivation for me. #2- I will be accountable to people I love and feel safe with. My best friend and my long term boyfriend are on duty. If they see me beginning to slip, they can come to me in a loving manner to speak to me about it in a kind considerate manner. We even have a "safe word". When they come to me with the "safe word", I know it means they are concerned and they know I want to be fit for life and they are committed to helping me, by holding me accountable. #3- If i can not manage the motivation to eat healthy or work out, I will log on to MFP and do exactly what you just did. I will get on a forum and i will ask for help from a community of people I feel have walked 4,000 miles in my shoes and know my struggles. I know if I am slipping I will log on. No matter how sh*tty I feel, I can pick up the computer.

I know some of that sounds cheesy, but it is my lifeline. I truly hope it is helpful. The road is long and it can be a difficult journey, but stay the course. You can do this. You are a beautiful girl with a bright future, I can see it in your eyes. Being destined for greatness is a big responsibility and not for the faint of heart. You have got this, move through the fear.

Courage is feeling the fear, and doing it anyway.

Sorry to say, but this is my issue: WHY DOES TORRID HAVE SWIMSUITS FOR PLUS SIZE WOMEN THAT PLUS SIZE WOMEN CANT FIT INTO.....just saying, thats a little horrible to do to people.

Because the fashion industry has treated plus size women like the proverbial redheaded step child for years. Despite the fact that over half of the female population is size 14 or larger the industry is focused on smaller sizes. As if larger women need to crawl under a rock and die!! I have shopped at large size stores and im 5'2". It is virtually impossible to find something that fits me correctly and is also attractive. The shirts are too long, the pants are too big in the leg and the dresses are tents that drag the floor. I have yet to see a bathing suit that was flattering. Hey lets have the fat ladies wear polka dots or better yet how about some paisley print across your butt. Throw some tummy reducing panels inside so she can feel like she is being strangled to death and then when she goes up two or three sizes the *kitten* of the suit can hang down to the back of her knees. Put a big bow on it and a skirt that looks like a two year old would wear it so she can feel like a complete moron... just shoot me please!!

This is why im on MFP.... i refuse for my only clothing options to be something my grandmother would have worn and probably looked better in... :noway:

:P you have such vivid and colorful writing skills, so funny...you made me smile :P ^-^

Sorry to say, but this is my issue: WHY DOES TORRID HAVE SWIMSUITS FOR PLUS SIZE WOMEN THAT PLUS SIZE WOMEN CANT FIT INTO.....just saying, thats a little horrible to do to people.

Because the fashion industry has treated plus size women like the proverbial redheaded step child for years. Despite the fact that over half of the female population is size 14 or larger the industry is focused on smaller sizes. As if larger women need to crawl under a rock and die!! I have shopped at large size stores and im 5'2". It is virtually impossible to find something that fits me correctly and is also attractive. The shirts are too long, the pants are too big in the leg and the dresses are tents that drag the floor. I have yet to see a bathing suit that was flattering. Hey lets have the fat ladies wear polka dots or better yet how about some paisley print across your butt. Throw some tummy reducing panels inside so she can feel like she is being strangled to death and then when she goes up two or three sizes the *kitten* of the suit can hang down to the back of her knees. Put a big bow on it and a skirt that looks like a two year old would wear it so she can feel like a complete moron... just shoot me please!!

This is why im on MFP.... i refuse for my only clothing options to be something my grandmother would have worn and probably looked better in... :noway:

:P you have such vivid and colorful writing skills, so funny...you made me smile :P ^-^

And you just made me smile because i'm a struggling writer... I've got the 450 page manuscript that will soon be a door stop to prove it! Lol.. Thank you! :flowerforyou:

Sorry to say, but this is my issue: WHY DOES TORRID HAVE SWIMSUITS FOR PLUS SIZE WOMEN THAT PLUS SIZE WOMEN CANT FIT INTO.....just saying, thats a little horrible to do to people.

Because the fashion industry has treated plus size women like the proverbial redheaded step child for years. Despite the fact that over half of the female population is size 14 or larger the industry is focused on smaller sizes. As if larger women need to crawl under a rock and die!! I have shopped at large size stores and im 5'2". It is virtually impossible to find something that fits me correctly and is also attractive. The shirts are too long, the pants are too big in the leg and the dresses are tents that drag the floor. I have yet to see a bathing suit that was flattering. Hey lets have the fat ladies wear polka dots or better yet how about some paisley print across your butt. Throw some tummy reducing panels inside so she can feel like she is being strangled to death and then when she goes up two or three sizes the *kitten* of the suit can hang down to the back of her knees. Put a big bow on it and a skirt that looks like a two year old would wear it so she can feel like a complete moron... just shoot me please!!

This is why im on MFP.... i refuse for my only clothing options to be something my grandmother would have worn and probably looked better in... :noway:

You actually made me laugh out loud. Hilarious! :laugh:

First of all stop. Just stop. Take three deep breaths. Mikki you have to take control and you can do this. Step-by-step. Day-by-day. I would suggest making small goals at first. For example -- I want to lose 5 lbs by and list a reasonable date (5 weeks out at 1 lb per week). I want to exercise at least 20 minutes a day 3x's a week, etc. I want you to envision the beautiful woman inside of you, the one that your boyfriend already sees and loves. It's okay to cry. Crying is the natural way to cleanse ourselves. Take another deep breath. Your schedule sounds hectic and demanding; do whatever you can to drop anything on your schedule that you can. If you cannot, then I suggest taking 10 minute or 5 minute breaks throughout the day. Stretch, take deep breaths, and if at all possible, take a therapeutic yoga class. Also take long hot bubble baths at night, with soft jazz music playing in the background and lit scented candles. Pamper yourself. Your body is your temple. Respect it. Love it --- Just as it is. Be thankful that you have two eyes to see nature, two sturdy legs to leg you walk, two arms to swing when you dance, etc. Also, you might want to see a psychologist because you might be an emotional eater. I went to see a therapist because I used to binge and it was very helpful for me. One of the books my therapist recommended was The Food & Feelings Workbook (A Full Course Meal on Emotional Health) by Karen R. Koenig, LCSW, M.Ed. You can purchase it on amazon and I found it to be very helpful. Mikki you must try to relax and remain positive. As for the ignorant salesclerk, forget about her, she is simply rude and has no real customer service skills. Do know that you could always place a complaint on the BBB website about your experience at the store and I assure you that the store would extend not only an apology, but probably a gift card to you as well. No one can ever make you feel bad -- only you can do that. Don't give someone else the power to make you feel bad about yourself. Only you can give your power away. Now, pick up the pieces because tomorrow is a new day, a new beginning, and another opportunity for you to be successful in reaching your goals. Good-luck!