want to help someone you know???

I know what you mean...I too have a friend that keeps getting larger and larger and blames it on everything and everyone....BUT..it is up to her.
I will say that the only thing you can do and I am doing it myself is lead by example. If she sees you dropping the weight then maybe she will start asking questions. Or ask her to be your partner on a walk ( say at night) you are going to do since it is best to walk with someone? Make it as she would be helping you....not you helping or trying to help her.
Good Luck, sometimes they don't want help.....and until she does there is nothing really you can do to help her.

Mary

can i just say, its because people were saying 'ooh are u pregnant again' and 'you have put on weight recently' and the point blank 'chroist ur fat!' thats what made me want to lose weight. Im not saying AT ALL that you should say these things to her - but like other people have said, suggest to her about this site. Bring up in conversation that u really think u can start to notioce that you have lost weight, then say that u r glad u r tracking it on this site so that u can physically see the weight drop..... u know things like this, subtle but planting the seed that will make her think that she might wanna give it a go. You say she is not happy with herself but keeps eating alot and not doing any excersice etc? maybe she is eating so much cos she thinks 'whats the point, im big anyway so i might as well carry on eating like this' the whole comfort thing.... I dont know ur situation with her but it sounds like u both eat together quite a lot, maybe if u make an effort not to order too much food or to only eat half a plate ONLY when u r both together, it has a phsycological impact on the people eating around u and makes them suddenly aware of what they are eating too. I had to do this with a friend of mine, it took 3 months but she lost quite a bit of weight through it! (and i did it cos tbh i was fed up with her constantly *****ing and moaning at me that she was 'fat' but not doing anything about it, then bringing me down with her cos she would be in the most horrible moods - it was either this way or we would lose our friendship)
I hope some of what i have said helps, or gives u some ideas of how to approach things. at the end of the day u will be doing her health and heart a favour in the long run good luck x

I think if she actually is a friend then you should be able to have that chat with her. It might not be easy but as long as you aren't a **** about it then she should hopefully see you are trying to help.

However - if she is happy as she is and doesn't express in interest already in losing fat, then why bother to mention it?

Keep your mouth shut. Do you think she doesn't know she's fat?

Ditto.

Both of you-
You dont need to be rude. He is obviously a caring friend that is worth having around. If you were overweight which you probably are if your're here, (dont take offense-you are here, its not a jab) then would you want to be around the type of people that would sit back and watch as you shove years of your life down your throat, or someone who woyuld pull you beside yourself and point out there is another type of healthier lifestyle. ManDown- Tell her emphathetic, dont come out and directly say she is overweight. Just volunteer for her to come excercise with you, or walk with you -whatever it si that she may be comfortable doing. Then tell her you care and you want her to be even healthier. Tell her about portion sizes and when how often to eat. In the end though, you can not make her lose weight. It is just like anythihng else in my opinion, a person must be ready to overcome obstacles like smoking, weight loss, etc in order to really succeed.