Embarrassed to exercise
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Just start walking. When your ready, begin mixing running in. You can do the running in the neighborhood where no on is up or out! My daughter did this. She's thin, but even she was afraid what she would look like running. Now she runs all the time. She said no one really pays any attention to her!
I think I'll give running/walking a try, see how it goes
Everyone's comments are really helping actually.0 -
I feel your pain. I'm hopeless at running and was really embarassed to do my walking 1 min, running 1 min as I thought people would laugh at me. This was until my (very wise!) fiance pointed out 2 things:
If you're going slower than another runner then they'll be past you before you no it so no time to be embarassed
You're lapping everyone on the couch, no matter how slow you go - if they want to judge you then let me, it'll be them who are heading for early heart attacks and Type II diabeties not you
I heeded his advice, downloaded my C25k app and for the first time in my life went jogging outside. And you know what? I LOVED it. No-one looked at me funny like I thought they would, I didn't hear any 'proper' runners chortling to themselves as they sped past me. In fact, the only person who actually acknowledged my existance was a labrador puppy who quite enjoyed chasing along beside me for a couple of minutes before her owner called her back!
You'll be fine. JUST DO IT and in 6 months time I'm sure we'll both look back and laugh to ourselves that we were every worried about it.
GOOD LUCK0 -
I work out on the kinect and home dvds, I dont go near the gym as Ive convinced myself its full of skinny people trotting along quite happily while I'd be the fat person red in the face, huffing and puffing ! Plus its expensive ...0
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Unfortunately I'm in the UK - but I know my uni gym isn't too expensive for the students, so if I get fit enough over the summer that I feel comfortable joining a gym I'll probably do that.
Have you got "The Gym" near you? That's what I'm planning on signing up to...it's from £10.99 a month depending on where you live but it's a 24 hour one which is the main reason I'm considering it as I'm hoping it would be a lot quieter later on. Also noticed if you have an NUS extra card you don't have to pay the joining fee
You also don't have to take out a contract so you can cancel anytime
Oh I think there is one where I go to uni actually, and that's affordable (especially if I get a job). It would mean I wouldn't bump into people I go to uni with which is a bonus... Unfortunately the uni of southampton doesn't support the NUS system (which is really irritating) but perhaps they'll be nice and let me use my normal student card... unlikely I know!
No contract is a definite plus, I think I'll look into that once I'm back in soton. 0 -
I never even thought of youtube, good idea!! Thanksyoutube, hulu, and netflix all have free workout routines you can follow. no equipment needed. 0 -
I feel your pain. I'm hopeless at running and was really embarassed to do my walking 1 min, running 1 min as I thought people would laugh at me. This was until my (very wise!) fiance pointed out 2 things:
If you're going slower than another runner then they'll be past you before you no it so no time to be embarassed
You're lapping everyone on the couch, no matter how slow you go - if they want to judge you then let me, it'll be them who are heading for early heart attacks and Type II diabeties not you
I heeded his advice, downloaded my C25k app and for the first time in my life went jogging outside. And you know what? I LOVED it. No-one looked at me funny like I thought they would, I didn't hear any 'proper' runners chortling to themselves as they sped past me. In fact, the only person who actually acknowledged my existance was a labrador puppy who quite enjoyed chasing along beside me for a couple of minutes before her owner called her back!
You'll be fine. JUST DO IT and in 6 months time I'm sure we'll both look back and laugh to ourselves that we were every worried about it.
GOOD LUCK
That sounds great I will definitely give it a go (once I get a better sports bra, I wouldn't want to traumatise anyone) 0 -
I work out on the kinect and home dvds, I dont go near the gym as Ive convinced myself its full of skinny people trotting along quite happily while I'd be the fat person red in the face, huffing and puffing ! Plus its expensive ...
I'm gonna try youtube first to see what sort of thing suits me and then I'll probably invest in a DVD! But I don't want to be stuck indoors the whole time, I like getting out, so hopefully I'll work up the nerve to go jogging too.0 -
glad i'm not the only one. i'm going to use DVDs/my Wii/neftlix etc until i'm comfortable enough to go to a gym. if i do decide to join a gym it'll probably be curves
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Oooh I know what you mean now! Yeah that looks like it could be useful And I guess it must add variation too! 0 -
I felt the same but when I got the courage to finally go to the gym I realised that there were plenty of other people there that were a lot more unfit than I was. That in itself gave me a confidence boost and I know go 5 times a week.0
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Unfortunately I'm in the UK - but I know my uni gym isn't too expensive for the students, so if I get fit enough over the summer that I feel comfortable joining a gym I'll probably do that.
Have you got "The Gym" near you? That's what I'm planning on signing up to...it's from £10.99 a month depending on where you live but it's a 24 hour one which is the main reason I'm considering it as I'm hoping it would be a lot quieter later on. Also noticed if you have an NUS extra card you don't have to pay the joining fee
You also don't have to take out a contract so you can cancel anytime
Oh I think there is one where I go to uni actually, and that's affordable (especially if I get a job). It would mean I wouldn't bump into people I go to uni with which is a bonus... Unfortunately the uni of southampton doesn't support the NUS system (which is really irritating) but perhaps they'll be nice and let me use my normal student card... unlikely I know!
No contract is a definite plus, I think I'll look into that once I'm back in soton.
That's what I was hoping too! Hate bumping into people...plus it's a lot cheaper than my uni gym...which is £112 for for months
So rubbish that it doesn't support NUS! Hopefully they'll let you use your normal one!0 -
im the same as u... i feel like everyone looks at me and laughs,like they thinkin wtf?. a fat lass running?.
i went to my local gym and felt like a small fish in a sea of sharks... i was so out of place. they were all skinny minis and my face didnt fit!.
All im doin now is walking faster to school with the kids and when im off college and home i pull my blinds and do exercise vids off youtube...0 -
It's understandable. As a fat guy, I was an easy target for ridicule, and we know people do it.
Dance, buy a mini trampoline and do calisthenics at home if that bothers you.
Just get moving.
Good Luck :flowerforyou:0 -
Just go to a gym and start!!! Nobody else is paying any attention to what you are doing. In fact everyone else is so into what they are trying to accomplsih they are in their own zone. And who knows you might find a few new friends who will keep you motivated.
You are welcome to friend me for support if you like.0 -
Unfortunately I'm in the UK - but I know my uni gym isn't too expensive for the students, so if I get fit enough over the summer that I feel comfortable joining a gym I'll probably do that.
Have you got "The Gym" near you? That's what I'm planning on signing up to...it's from £10.99 a month depending on where you live but it's a 24 hour one which is the main reason I'm considering it as I'm hoping it would be a lot quieter later on. Also noticed if you have an NUS extra card you don't have to pay the joining fee
You also don't have to take out a contract so you can cancel anytime
Oh I think there is one where I go to uni actually, and that's affordable (especially if I get a job). It would mean I wouldn't bump into people I go to uni with which is a bonus... Unfortunately the uni of southampton doesn't support the NUS system (which is really irritating) but perhaps they'll be nice and let me use my normal student card... unlikely I know!
No contract is a definite plus, I think I'll look into that once I'm back in soton.
That's what I was hoping too! Hate bumping into people...plus it's a lot cheaper than my uni gym...which is £112 for for months
So rubbish that it doesn't support NUS! Hopefully they'll let you use your normal one!
Haha my uni gym is about £125 for 12 months I think... but it's a really crap gym, I got a membership last year and only used the pool. Also the 24hr one sounds good to me cos I'm an insomniac so when I can't sleep I could go and then hopefully it might help me sleep better. So thank you for the tip! 0 -
I felt so uncomfortable and out of place when I walked into the gym the first time. I kept my head down and never made eye contact with anyone. I didn't have much of a choice though, because I have to strengthen my core to alleviate my back pain (herniated disc). After a while I realised that while people do notice me, they are cheering me on! Everyone that goes to the gym is there because they want to improve their bodies. If I don't go I won't get stronger, and I'll lose weight slower. My personal trainer has even mentioned having me speak to new members to motivate them! Me!?!? I never imagined myself as inspirational, but it feels pretty awesome to know I may have the ability to help motivate someone else to keep going!
I belong to the YMCA, and they have programs for low/no income and students. Most chain/large gyms would I imagine? Even if you call a smaller gym, I bet the owner would work with you too!
I have friends that are professional athletes (one is even an ultrarunner), and they are some of my biggest cheerleaders! People respect and even admire motivation. You CAN do it!!0 -
I know what you mean. Even though I have lost 22lbs and weigh 166lbs now - I feel too embarrassed to run in public, or even be seen in a tracksuit on the way to and from the gym! It is totally irrational I know - to the extent that I put my normal clothes on to drop my son to school, then make a detour to come home and change into my gym clothes before going to the gym. :huh:
Plus I don't speak to ANYONE in the gym! I do in Body Pump though because it is a class - but in the weights room, I feel totally embarrassed, out of place, and in the way!0 -
I was nervous to start jogging, especially as i knew I wouldnt last more than a few seconds! BUT I just went when it got dark, just around the block and before i knew it, I could run for a few minutes, then a few more! then I started going at weekends and if I saw anyone, I would use that as a goal to push myself to keep running until I got past them, even if i thought my legs were going to fall off..
and how you have to think of it is that yes you may be all hot and sweaty and red but the people you see are not caring about that, its THEM who are feeling bad because they are thinking 'that should be meee' - think of that..
but yeah I cant face the gym.. now that is scary
I TOTALLY agree! I felt like an *kitten* at first running in public, but then I thought, who cares! If anyone has anything to say about it, they won't when I'm done! At least I am out there doing it, and actually, yes, having those people see me running, though I do keep to lower traffic areas, or walking paths where most people are at least working out, gave me motivation to go further! 0 -
I'm not a gym person either. I'm not embarrased per se but do not feel like I work as hard as I can with people around. I get bored on a stairmaster and find it hard to stay motivated. I do my workouts exclusively at home to videos and have weights for my arm routine.
I've found a few great videos at www.hulu.com, a free streaming site. They have lots of yoga and I'm diggin the 'Gaiam's Wake Up Workout The FIRM: Cardio' for a great routine without any props. Occasionally, I get tired of the same thing and do a search for something different.
It's nice to have a free alternative to keep in shape!0 -
My personal story with running didn't start out that good. When I first started, the neighborhood "mean kids" would shout things out to me that made me feel less than great. So you know what I did? I put in some headphones and kept running. Every other day. I'd wear baggy clothes to hide myself. And now, just a few months later, I'm almost done with C25K, and I'm out there running, wearing spandex.
Everytime I felt judged or heard something derogatory about "fat girl running", I used it to fuel me. I was doing more than everyone sitting on the couch. I was changing my life. And now, I'm stronger, I'm healthier, I've lost a lot of inches, and there's not a thing in the world anyone can say to bring me down.
Do this for you. When you've reached your goals, your feeling of pride will make it all worth it.0 -
im the same as u... i feel like everyone looks at me and laughs,like they thinkin wtf?. a fat lass running?.
i went to my local gym and felt like a small fish in a sea of sharks... i was so out of place. they were all skinny minis and my face didnt fit!.
All im doin now is walking faster to school with the kids and when im off college and home i pull my blinds and do exercise vids off youtube... I guess the way to do it is to do stuff alone at home at first til you feel happier with how fit you are and then get more public with it. Good luck! 0 -
It's understandable. As a fat guy, I was an easy target for ridicule, and we know people do it.
Dance, buy a mini trampoline and do calisthenics at home if that bothers you.
Just get moving.
Good Luck :flowerforyou:
Calisthenics..? Forgive my ignorance!
d'aww a flower, how kind :blushing:0 -
Just go to a gym and start!!! Nobody else is paying any attention to what you are doing. In fact everyone else is so into what they are trying to accomplsih they are in their own zone. And who knows you might find a few new friends who will keep you motivated.
You are welcome to friend me for support if you like.
Thanks I will! 0 -
If you feel really self conscious I would get a couple of workout dvds so that you can do them in the privacy of your own home, but make sure you get good ones! Jillian Michaels are good!
But to be honest I think if you started going for a run outside I think you'd be surprised at how quick you would be come comfortable to do it. Also, I really don't think people pay that much attention to runners, they might glance just to check where you are if they are driving but then they are past you in all of about 2 seconds so they don't get the opportunity to see you for long anyway! If you have to run past people you'd soon be out of there way in not time at all. I would say if you feel like going for a run then just be brave and do it, once you've done it once you'll realise there's nothing to worry about and won't hesitate in keep doing it.
Good luck in whatever you choose to do - but as long as you're doing something, that's better than nothing
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I never thought I would ever feel uncomfortable about anyone seeing me exercise, but then I got injured and put on 40 pounds. :huh:
I used to feel totally at home in the gym, at running races, in the pool etc and all of a sudden I hated the thought. :sad: So I used that as an excuse to do nothing for a lot longer than I should have. At the end of the day, I didn't want to stay this fat and if I wanted to see the benefits I would quite simply have to get over myself.
When I went back to spin I thought I looked like a hippo in lycra and felt such a fraud in my clippy shoes... like "all the gear - no idea"... But you know what...??? Nobody cares. Nobody looks. It's all in your head.
Suck it up buttercup. :drinker: 0 -
I was embarrassed at first, but after going to the gym and doing my thing once, I was totally fine with it. I realized that I'd rather people see my fat butt working out instead of stuffing my face at a restaurant!0
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I see why your personal trainer asked you to motivate others, you seem to be really positive about it all. Well done, it sounds like you're doing greatI felt so uncomfortable and out of place when I walked into the gym the first time. I kept my head down and never made eye contact with anyone. I didn't have much of a choice though, because I have to strengthen my core to alleviate my back pain (herniated disc). After a while I realised that while people do notice me, they are cheering me on! Everyone that goes to the gym is there because they want to improve their bodies. If I don't go I won't get stronger, and I'll lose weight slower. My personal trainer has even mentioned having me speak to new members to motivate them! Me!?!? I never imagined myself as inspirational, but it feels pretty awesome to know I may have the ability to help motivate someone else to keep going!
I belong to the YMCA, and they have programs for low/no income and students. Most chain/large gyms would I imagine? Even if you call a smaller gym, I bet the owner would work with you too!
I have friends that are professional athletes (one is even an ultrarunner), and they are some of my biggest cheerleaders! People respect and even admire motivation. You CAN do it!! 0 -
Oh no! Perhaps you could try getting to know people in the class better and become gym buddies with them? It might make you feel more comfortable. Well done for going despite how you feel though, I admire that.I know what you mean. Even though I have lost 22lbs and weigh 166lbs now - I feel too embarrassed to run in public, or even be seen in a tracksuit on the way to and from the gym! It is totally irrational I know - to the extent that I put my normal clothes on to drop my son to school, then make a detour to come home and change into my gym clothes before going to the gym. :huh:
Plus I don't speak to ANYONE in the gym! I do in Body Pump though because it is a class - but in the weights room, I feel totally embarrassed, out of place, and in the way!0 -
Completely understand, and I still won't set foot in a gym. However, I've started running every second day and I've realised how little anyone cares about what I do! It's liberating. I have a lovely place to run near where I live and people just smile and say 'hi'. Also, what do you think when you see a jogger? I know I always think 'good on them', I never look at them negatively:)0
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