Any ideas or ol wives tales about becoming pregnant?

Aside from the hubby .... are you having a regular cycle? if so tracking your days should be fairly easy. If not Id see a Dr since youve been trying for over a year. My husband and I tried on our own for a year with no luck (i have irregular cycles) and was diagnosed with PCOS, tried for another year on drugs still no baby. I doubt this is the issue for you but You could go and then be able to say to your husband "I went, got checked out and now its your turn." Dont guilt trip him of course just show him youre willing to do your part and hope he is as well.

a very good wesbite/forum I loved during my pregnancy and attempt to concieve after our only child was born is babycenter.com SOOOOOO much good info on trying to concieve, very support group of women and then even more info and support when you DO get pregnant Best of luck!!

I second (or third) the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It's amazing how well you will get to know your body and cycles through reading it.
I've got a handful of friends with fertility issues (in the female part of the couple) who had great success with acupuncture if you're open to alternative ideas. good luck!

Try natural family planning. We have used the temperature/symptom method for 16 years and have been able to have 5 kids and also avoid pregnancy now that we are no longer planning any more children. Good luck!!

I thought the test consisted in having happy alone time into a cup and handing it to the doc ...

Anyway, my advice if he just won't go is to stop trying. Just have sex and don't think about getting pregnant.

Do you have a regular cycle? If so, read Taking Charge of Your Fertility, follow the system, and see how it works for you. If it doesn't work, probably time to see a doctor.

I second this. Also, less stress. It seems like the minute you stop stressing about it, it will happen.

Get a book about natural family planning. While most people use that for avoiding pregnancy, but it helps for the reverse as well.

Remember in the big lebowski when julienne moore holds her knees up to her chest and lays on her back after sex? Yeah, that works. Hence my son.

OMG YESSSS!! I'm going to do that when we start trying. My bf will love it! :laugh:

That's one of our favorite movies, in fact I am going as Maude as the 'bowling, viking lady" for halloween.

oh and they do sell kits for testing sperm count at drug stores...not sure how accurate they are but its worth a try. He might just be worried to go to the doctor because for a lot of men, finding out they have a low sperm count is very emasculating. best of luck.

Stand on your head after sex.
to avoid pregnancy: Do naked jumping jacks right after...
After telling my 16 year old neighbor that I could hear him in his room with his girlfriend, please tone it down, it's creepy. I was told during the discussion that there was no real reason to "wrap it up" when ^^^ was all you had to do.
I see a reality show in that kids future.

Ha. No real reason except, one of the bazillion infections/diseases out there! Pregnancy is the least of the worries for kids today! But, then again, in most schools and households none of that is ever discussed. Hopefully your neighbor wises up!

:blushing: what worked for us was a 9 month deployment and VODKA, for #2 it was a 4 month deployment and RUM.

haha, this is what I'm hoping for us..... only about 5 months to go! :-)


but for the OP - as someone who has been 'trying' for about 2 years - if you're not charting/temping ect. START! If you havent seen your OB-GYN, make an appt.. and then keep talking to hubby about getting tested.

Good luck to you - it's a hard & stressful journey

Not sure if these apply, but my bestie is trying, so we've researched all this:

No drinking. No tobacco. Oatmeal is supposed to help? Keep the testicles cool (boxers instead of briefs). Take your temperature each morning when you wake and before you get out of bed - chart it and it should spike a degree or so when you are ovulating. Have sex then. Have sex a lot. Try not to think of sex as making a baby, but, as well...sex.

How long have you been trying? How overweight are you? (1 year before it's considered infertility and extra pounds can affect regular ovulation).

What personally worked for me? I bought a convertible . Not to make light of your situation at all, I know it's very tough....but seriously, just try to relax and let it happen.

I've got one:

"If you stop trying to get pregnant, you'll get pregnant"

Kind of like dating. If you stop looking, you'll find the right one.

I know right...what a bunch of BS.

Urgh!

As an infertile woman let me give you all some free advice: if a friend confides in you that she is unable to get pregnant never, NEVER, ever tell her "relax, it will happen when you stop trying"

I don't care how many friends, sisters, aunts-cousins-dogs this worked for, every time I hear it I want to punch the helpful person in the throat!

I've got one:

"If you stop trying to get pregnant, you'll get pregnant"

Kind of like dating. If you stop looking, you'll find the right one.

I know right...what a bunch of BS.

These tips come from Experience L!fe Magazine- a publication of Lifetime Fitness...the July/August issue had an article titled "Increase Fertility Naturally". I hope this summary is useful to you...

1) Eat a Clean Diet (Sugar, and other foods that create inflammation, can have a negative effect on fertility. Eating a starchy diet or a diet high in trans-fats or highly processed foods also affects ovulation. Article also recommends cutting back on caffeine and alcohol.)

2) Avoid skim and non-fat dairy products (Skimming the fat from milk removes the milk's female hormones which bind to the milkfat, leaving behind only male & sex-neutral hormones. This imbalance may interfere with the very delicate machinery of ovulation. Also- removing the fat from milk increases the ratio of lactose, or milk sugar, which triggers a higher glycemic response. They recommend organic whole milk products- and to limit your daily intake to the equivalent of one 8-oz glass per day.)

3) Build a Healthy Gut (The GI system plays a role in fertility. Eliminate food allergens and boost friendly bacteria through diet and supplements. The immune system is completely interactive with your gut and you have to calm that system down to get pregnant. Some docs recommend getting tested for food intolerances like gluten, dairy and soy so that the body can harness the full power of it's detoxification systems.)

4)Try Yoga (Studies suggest a correlation between women with good exercise habits and healthy fertility.Some physicians recommend that their Type A female patients who exercise strenuously to settle their bodies down with yoga. There is a yoga DVD called Restoring Fertility that demonstrates poses that will activate ovulation and enhance implantation.)

5) Address Stress (Chronic stress can create fertility issues. Doctors recommend taking deliberate measures to understand and eliminate sources of stress. They also encourage meditation, journaling and deep breathing. Anything you can do to reduce stress will send your body a message that it is safe to get pregnant.)

6) Understand your Monthly Cycle (Tracking two daily indicators- basal body temperature and the quality of cervical fluid- can help.)

7) Look Beyond The Numbers (Don't let high FSH numbers discourage you. Many women with high FSH levels get pregnant without medical intervention-usually the problem lies elsewhere.)

8) Try Acupuncture (Acupuncture has been shown to increase the rate of conception)

9) Know Your Supplements (Experts recommend a B-vitamin complex which improves ovulation & fertility, Omega-3 Fatty Acids which controls endometriosis and other hormonal conditions and Coenzyme Q10 which improves egg quality and fertilization rates in older women.)

Please read the whole article and decide if any of the recommendations speak to you- I tried to summarize as best I could! Wishing you all the best...