Am I Crazy for Crying Myself to Sleep Over This?

Some people put up unflattering photos of others to make themselves look better. She should have known better. Your weight loss is awesome so don't get upset over one photo. It is amazing the horrible picture that a camera can capture in a millisecond....even of skinny super models. That's why they take 3000 pics only to use one for a magazine!!!

I totally agree with being upset by the picture, it sucks when someone tags and its not a nice pic. Un tag yourself and kindly ask your friend to remove it. They probably are not looking at it as critically as you are, perhaps were even proud of all you have accomplished. You should be proud as well.

i maybe in the minority here but i have seen pictures of my self now(after losing 45 pounds, and 13 away from where i want to be) and want to cry. but i think it's because i know how hard i have worked, the struggles i have gone through and still see how much further i need to go.......i cry because i just want to be there already....happy with my body! i do recognize the change in myself but it just not good enough yet! stop cryin and throw that frustration into the workout!:flowerforyou:

No you are not crazy. You are sensitive and need encouragement. I am sending some your way. It is amazing how critical we or others can be about pictures. My sister put pictures of me on facebook that I hate. Three comments were made by family of how beautiful I look. All I see is arm fat and fat belly. All they saw was my beauty. Today I will be mindful of the beauty that others see in me until I see it in myself. Stop crying. A picture is worth a thousand words. A thousand calories not eaten. A thousand minutes exercising. A thousand centimeters gone off your body. No need for a thousand tears unless they are tears of joy. Not tears of sadness. Hope this reminds you of how far you have come and what a good job you are doing.

As others have said.....make sure to do a comparison of how far you've come.

One thing that I have found interesting (pathetic?) about myself in the past few weeks is that my self-image is actually worse right now than it has ever been. When I was bouncing around 175 lbs, I felt pretty good about myself even though I knew that I needed to lose weight. I'm down about 20 lbs since I started MFP on February 2nd, but when I look in the mirror, I feel fatter and more out of shape than I did then.

Logically, I know that I've made tremendous progress, but when I look in the mirror, my gut "feels" bigger than it did when it was actually 5 inches larger. I feel like I've got a good grasp on the situation, but I now understand how people get anorexia and struggle with losing too much. BTW, I'm quite far from being anorexic at this point! Personally, my biggest issue is that by working hard and losing weight, I now understand how much more work that I need to put in still and it can be frustrating. I'm still plugging away and every once in a while, I take a look at my progress pictures to remind myself that it has been worth the effort.

Hey Elle, maybe this will make you feel a little better: my dad and stepmother printed a photo BOOK last year with the most horrid picture of me and distributed it to all the relatives. No "untagging" that!
I did ask them NOT to post it to FB. (BTW they did have lots of photos that were much more flattering!)

Seeing pictures from the angle of another person is never as flattering. Yesterday, I wore a dress to a big event and everyone was telling me how I looked so good and looked like I had lost a lot of weight -- and then I saw a couple of pictures of me where my upper body looked small, but my hips looked big, and worst of all, my chin looked big and made my face look yucky.

I'm used to looking in the mirror straight on, but these pictures were taken by someone a couple of inches shorter than me -- and it made all the difference.

I can't blame you for being upset over the photos taken of you -- but you're only going to look better in the next pictures if you keep working at it! Use your emotions to drive you to work out harder and eat healthier. Another year from now, you'll be glad you did

Try not to obsess. I do the exact same thing! I honestly don't know what my issue is but I take horrible pictures. Everyone I know in real life say they never look like me....I bet that's what happened to you this one time. Bad angles, bad lighting, etc etc anything can do it. I am sure the people who see those pictures love you very much and know that's not what you look like on a daily basis.

Take some nice pictures today and tag them to make yourself feel better.

I hope that helps

Don't be upset! This happens all the time! I know lots of amazing, stunning girls who are super thin, but sometimes they just get caught at the wrong angle or mid-laugh or with a scrunched up face. Everyone is capable of a bad photo!

I think it was rude of her to put it up, but people do that to me all the time! I just untag myself and try to get over it. Sometimes uploading a great picture of me the same day or true following day makes up for it hahaha

Some people put up unflattering photos of others to make themselves look better. She should have known better. Your weight loss is awesome so don't get upset over one photo. It is amazing the horrible picture that a camera can capture in a millisecond....even of skinny super models. That's why they take 3000 pics only to use one for a magazine!!!

Don't worry.....an alternate strategy is to use the photo for your profile pic and make a complete joke out of it. Start a contest among your friends and dare them to post the absolute worst pic they can find of themselves and use it for their profile for a week. If they do it, donate 5 bucks in their name to your favorite charity.

I LOVE the way you think

As for Facebook, you can change your settings so that you must approve a photo or video that someone tries to tag with you in it. Or, you can simply change your setting not to allow anyone to tag you in a picture.

You can also remove a tag if it's already posted.

Instead of focusing on one bad picture, focus on a ll the positive accomplishments you have made!

I've had the exact same experience. Put on a pair of shorts that barely fit last year, and now they're a little loose. Was very excited and thought I looked great. My 3 year old got a hold of my camera and took a pic of me...it was AWFUL! Then My 8 year old took a pic of me with my 3 year old in a back carrier and it was AWFUL, too. Then I realized that the angle my sons took the pics was partly to blame, they were too low to the ground to be flattering. I say go ahead and take more pics of yourself that make you look and feel good, and show yourself how far you've come. You've worked too hard at this to feel bad!

I wouldn't put much more thought to it. You've had great success thus far. We always see ourselves worse than what others see us. I really don't think your friend was intentionally trying to make you look bad. She may have seen it as a good picture.

I'm sorry you feel this way. I've done the same thing after losing almost 40lbs myself. I saw a pic of me and even though I KNOW I've lost a lot of weight, I AM smaller and I'm healthier, I STILL looked fat in some pics of me posted on FB, just like you had. I felt my face looked fat and the same as you, my arms. I felt so depressed and down that the first thing I did was reset my FB so that I have to approve any pics of me before they are posted, if I'm tagged in them.
Then, although I was still upset, I decided to keep my chin up, keep working out, logging my food, eating well, etc. etc., you know the routine. I still have 15-20lbs to lose and a lot of muscle to build but I know I don't look bad. I also know that before I lost the 40lbs, I didn't allow ANYONE to take pictures of me, so maybe the 'thinner' person I saw in the pics was actually the earlier fat me? I'm not sure but I'm in this for me, I'm still a work in progress, towards being healthier. It takes years to get to our 'unhealthy' state and it will take time to be healthy AND to have a good self-image and mental state also.
You will get past this. Don't let it get you down, move on and keep working towards good health and know that YOU are so much better looking and thinner than what you saw in that picture. Pictures can be and are deceiving! Also, the person you ARE is more important than how you see yourself in any photo, flattering or not!
Good luck and <hugs> Please don't let this bother you anymore. Just chalk it up to being a bad photo and move on. You're a strong person, I know you are because you've worked so hard to get where you are!

Can you untag yourself and ask your friend to remove it? When I put pics of friends up, I make sure everyone in the pic looks good, or it isn't posted. That was thoughtless and insensitive to put a pic of you like that up. I have had the same thing done to me too and the person pretended that they didn't know it was a bad pic, when it obviously was. It definitely isn't worth crying yourself to sleep over, but I would definitely have the pic removed.