Am I Crazy for Crying Myself to Sleep Over This?

Photos can be very deceiving. A 4-dimensional person digitally reworked to 2D, it squishes and flattens everything, it removes curves and adds bumps. It catches you out in the stupidest of poses. The camera is the woman's worst enemy. Don't sweat it.

Pictures happen! We are the MOST critical of ourselves! It's the camera angle, being closer to the camera than someone else in the picture, the lighting, that split second in time. I agree, take the tag off, ask your friend to remove the picture and KNOW you are doing the work! I've saved my pictures of me at 205 pounds and show them to people periodically. It is proof to me that I am doing the work. I never want to be that person again. However after my 70 pound loss, I do have some loose skin. Well, so what? More proof that I did do the work, I guess. It's my arms. Yes it bothers me, but I am what I am. My body bears the battle scars of being fat. The other choice is gaining back the 70 pounds or getting surgery. I don't wear shorts or a swimsuit in public and I am now 55 so I just accept it as best as I can and move forward knowing that I've done the best that I can do for my body TODAY with what I have to work with TODAY.

Your bad picture is a split second in time. Focus on the "oh you look great!" comments you get now and will continue to get in the future, because you do look great! Everyone has a bad picture. We just did a car event and we make our own local TV show. My husband said he would interview me. Fine. Of course it was outside. I thought I should put on extra make up so I wouldn't look washed out. WRONG! The wind was blowing so hard, my hairspray didnt' hold, my hair was either straight up or straight back and my make up looked like Cruella Deville! I was horrified. Many people bought this DVD and will see it. I'd love to do a retake but that isn't possible. My husband says he loves me and I was fine. He doesn't want me to say one more thing about how I look. We just move forward and you will too!

I know exactly how you feel - I hate a lot of the photos that get posted of me on FB. Also, last year was my Mum's 50th birthday and my Dad made a photo board for her, which included a picture of me from 6 or 7 years ago at my highest weight. I told him I hated pictures of me from that era but he left it on there and told me I was being selfish :ohwell: To make things even worse, my boyfriend's parents came to the party and would have seen it :embarassed:
I think a lot of us on here have wicked bad self-perception problems though, and tend to think we look a lot worse than we really do.

I don't know if anyone has already said this, if so I apologize.

I'd post right under the picture in the comment section ... "OMG ... this is a horrible picture" and then attach a picture of yourself that you like. That way, everyone who was tagged or commented to the picture can see a better picture of you from that night, and at least you know they saw you for who you are ... and not some horrid picture that this 'friend' posted.

Personally, I think she may just be a bit jealous, and sometimes people do rotten things without even thinking about it. Or it simply could be she just wasn't thinking about it at all. Honestly, sometimes I just throw up pictures on FB b/c I'm too lazy to go through them all ... but I don't tag anyone. If they want, they tag themselves.

Try not to worry to much over it ... what's done is done. And truthfully, you know its a bad picture. So do your friends. I think you've had your allowance time to pout and be upset. Now it's time to keep working hard at your goals!! Don't let this rock in the road be the one to stop you ... you've already climbed a small mountain - this should just be a pebble.

(((BIG HUGS)))