I'm scared of the 4th of July!!!

I am just starting this journey (again, sadly) and I'm SUPER nervous about the 4th. I am fortunate that my family will not be celebrating until Sunday the 8th, but it's still all food surrounding me. No alcohol served because we all live a long ways away from each other, thank goodness, but ohhhh!!! My auntie's brownies.... ahh.... I can hear them calling my name!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DANG IT! Any suggestions or fears you want to put out there?!??!?!

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  • EPICUREASIAN
    EPICUREASIAN Posts: 147 Member
    Oh yeah...I'm dreading it. I was looking forward to smoking a brisket and gorging it all down, along with corn, pie, and lotsa unhealthy stuff. Not to mention staying home, watching movies, playing video games, napping between meals...I can feel my arteries clogging just thinking about it.

    Luckily, I've already signed up for my morning workout that day, so I plan to work my butt off before the festivities begin.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    Eat what you want, just eat it in small portions. One day is not going to wreck your progress. :)
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    Eat what you want, just eat it in small portions. One day is not going to wreck your progress. :)

    This.

    Food is going to be around. There are going to be holidays and birthdays and other celebrations. You need to learn how to navigate these events. So you can either bring your own food and not partake in the goodies (which I personally don't recommend, but some people do it), or look over what's available and make good choices. Go for fruits and veggies if they're available, go ahead and have a burger (but not three), have one dessert in a reasonable portion, or two in small portions. Drink water instead of soda or sweet tea or whatever they're having. And don't stress about it. It's one day.
  • lottieloves85
    lottieloves85 Posts: 73 Member
    Worrying about it won't help, just enjoy it! I'm off to a friend's bbq on Saturday, I know I'll want cake and meat and alcohol so I'm just going to be extra good Friday and Sunday and get a workout in Saturday morning before going, alternate booze with water and I'm gonna take some healthy turkey and veg kebabs so that I eat them instead of sticky glazed ribs! Haha xx
  • yeah i've been thinking about not losing track on the 4th as well.
    i can already smell the scent of barbeques and all the goodies and smores later. but temptation must wait
  • stfuriada
    stfuriada Posts: 445 Member
    One day wont ruin you.

    But pick lower calorie options, move a lot, and most importantly, DON"T HANG AROUND NEAR THE FOOD :laugh: . That's my personal downfall. I stand near the spread and I keep taking bits and it adds up.
  • Smudar
    Smudar Posts: 14 Member
    One thing I have found that helps is telling myself I'll have whatever it is I have my eye on later (usually a brownie in my case). If I can keep telling myself this long enough all the huge delicious pieces will be gone and maybe the need to have one will pass or if I still want one I'll just have a small one.... or they may be all gone and problem solved ;)
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    The bottom line is this: don't let food have so much power over you. It's just food. It's not evil, it's not torturous, it's just food. You can choose to eat it or not, it's entirely within your power. It's ok to indulge in a treat sometimes, and it doesn't have to wreck your goals. You can log everything and make sure to leave room for your favorites (exercising to earn more calories if necessary), or you can log everything and not worry about your calorie goal, or you can skip logging for the day and try to make mindful choices. It's entirely up to you. The food is not in control here. YOU are. And since you're in control, you don't have anything to fear. Just go, enjoy, and be comforted by the knowledge that it's only one day and it cannot possibly destroy the work you've put in so far.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,972 Member
    Eat what you want, just eat it in small portions. One day is not going to wreck your progress. :)
    THIS. Control of portions is the MAIN reason people are overweight and obese.


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  • douglasmobbs
    douglasmobbs Posts: 563 Member
    It's one 4th July.

    If you can let your hair down, enjoy the day, and get straight back onto the weight loss/health improvement have the day.

    If you cannot let your hair down, and get back straight back onto it be strict and enjoy the many more 4th of July's you are likely to have by improving your health.
  • Captain_Tightpants
    Captain_Tightpants Posts: 2,215 Member
    There are only a few big foodie parties each year. You could absolutely fill your face at all of them and still remain in a downward weight loss trend so long as the time inbetween is spent well. Find some of the more experienced folks on here - the ones who have 1000's of posts and have lost a LOT of weight I mean - and you'll often find that they have a built in cheat day once a month or even once a week. There's nothing unhealthy about going to a party and enjoying yourself for a day, it only becomes unhealthy if it becomes habit. Eat a brownie, watch the fireworks and have a blast!
  • NKF92879
    NKF92879 Posts: 601 Member
    IT'S ONE DAY, PEOPLE!!! It's OK to splurge now and again. It's OK to eat that brownie, just don't eat 6 of them. It's OK to have a few drinks, just don't do it every day. I just celebrated this past weekend (Rhythm & Booms in Madison, WI), and I was over Saturday and Sunday. I'll wait a few cays to step on the scale, but if I go up so be it. If not, yippy! Either way, I refuse to spend the rest of my life hiding from food.
  • jenkidney
    jenkidney Posts: 149 Member
    I've already decided that I'm getting up and hitting the gym first thing in the morning, then I'm allowing myself to have what I want. I plan to keep the portions under control, but I'm not denying myself anything and if I go over - I go over. One day won't ruin me, especially since I won't be thousands of calories over.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,972 Member
    Just to add: Every major "food" holiday I attend, I make sure that I go out and BUST MY *kitten* at the gym before attending. Helps to balance out the splurge.


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  • Biggipooh
    Biggipooh Posts: 350
    Not only just 4th of July, also my birthday. So I simply must not care about, what I eat that day. "Bad food" everywhere, but like someone said before. There a not many of these day in a year, so I enjoy it, and get back on track the next day.
  • legnarevocrednu
    legnarevocrednu Posts: 467 Member
    I'm scared because it's my birthday week...they brought in bagels and muffins to work this morning to celebrate. And then tomorrow night, going to a club (and you KNOW what that means!). I can only hope I burn some serious calories dancing!!
  • rpantusa
    rpantusa Posts: 267 Member
    Free day!!!! and start again the next day, just drink plenty of water! :wink:
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    One day isn't going to ruin your new eating style. I always give myself one day a week where I cheat and eat what ever I want to. Just make sure that you use portion control.
  • geordiegirl27
    geordiegirl27 Posts: 307 Member
    :drinker: I'm British but its my wedding anniversary so I'll be joining in the celebration food & drinks.

    Have fun and as has been said you need to be able to do these things once in a while, just get straight back on track the next day and plan in advance - maybe an extra workout to afford you another slice of pie.
  • Ke22yB
    Ke22yB Posts: 969 Member
    I personally dont have a cheat day but I eat whats there in moderation or in "adjustment" I was out yesterday it was hot and when I went to get some cold water there was some good loooking banana bread scanned the pkg it was 445 calories for the piece I ate it but trimmed a little off my afternoon snack trimmed off desert after dinner and came up about 56 over cals after workout " no harm no foul " life goes on you have to be able to live the rest of your life to keep this worthwhile
  • encourageurself
    encourageurself Posts: 11 Member
    Aww don't be scared this is just a part of life. I celebrated the 4th on Saturday and I enjoyed it, I just substitued some things and ate smaller portions of things that I wanted to try like 1/2 rib and sugar free ice cream (both in small portions) and I drank lots of water. I also had my turkey burger with grilled veggies. I enjoyed the fellowship and family time.
  • iuew
    iuew Posts: 624 Member
    i'm scared, as well. scared that idiots in my neighborhood will defy the burn ban and set off fireworks, burning down the entire state. the grass everywhere is deader than dead.
  • sarah2334
    sarah2334 Posts: 2 Member
    I have found that having "just one" can be a slippery slope. You aren't scared without cause. Heed that voice and just walk away from the food table. If it's making you a little nuts to sit there while others are chowing down, excuse yourself and go for a walk, refill your ice water, whatever it takes to avoid that first bite. But, if you don't succeed in avoiding it altogether, aim for moderation. If that's not possible, then forgive yourself and start anew the next day. It's not a sin to wander off the path, but you sound like it might make you feel very guilty so don't punish yourself emotionally or physically with a day of deprivation.

    A recent experience of mine: Just this past weekend, I went to a fundraiser dinner for a great guy who has ALS. The combination of this sad turn of events and a nice buffet, bar, etc. and I had a couple glasses of wine, followed by a nice plate of skinless chicken breast, green beans, red skin potatoes with gravy, a dinner roll with butter, a salad with dressing and Bailey's rocks for dessert. The next morning, I woke up two plus pounds heavier than the morning before. And while I returned to the regime I'd been following, the pounds lingered until this morning. Besides a return to a very carefully managed nutrition plan, I played two hours of tennis each day. This morning I was within 0.1 of the lowest I'd been since starting on this quest again. I knew I'd messed up with the first glass of wine and the moment I picked up the spoon in the mashed redskins, but while I'm disappointed with the set-back, I am shaking it off and back on plan.

    I, too, am sadly "there again" after having lost 80 pounds in 1989 and keeping it off for the most part for a couple decades. Now I find myself with 47 pounds to lose (4 down, 47 to go)! I'm near the start, but determined to avoid temptation until I'm no longer concerned about it. For those slender decades, I enjoyed myself at picnics and parties in moderation, but my triggers were under control and I knew that letting myself eat too much of a good thing wasn't a good thing for me. I let that healthy eating/healthy living resolve fade and the result was going from an amazing size 4 to an unattractive size 16! Plus my thyroid failed so it was hard to get my metabolism to rebound, even with synthetic hormore and I'm 57 now so everything is slowing down.

    It's a struggle, but I'm determined to stay the course. What worked for me in the past isn't all possible now because my body has changed and my life has changed. I don't have a lot of free time for exercise or healthy cooking. I reworked my schedule to match my new priorities. Tennis was a love when I was young and I convinced my SO to learn the game. He likes it a lot. We play almost every day and I feel much better, much more in control of my fate. His birthday is July 4 and a big family picnic is planned. I'll enjoy my fat free hot dog and try to avoid the rest. Hang in there this 4th! :smile:
  • angieroo2
    angieroo2 Posts: 970 Member
    Have small portion sizes. Have one small piece of brownie, not one large or 2 pieces.
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I have mastered the art of just taking a taste of what i want to try and I will only let myself get seconds of the healthier options if I'm still hungry. My downfall will be the booze!
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    The problem here is that it's not just the 4th of July. Every month there is something. And, if you are like anyone else, on top of all the holidays (Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, Valentines Day, and whatever other days you celebrate), there are also birthdays, deaths, graduation ceremonies, divorce parties, odd-ball weekends, someone inviting you to a house warming or baby shower, etc. It goes on and on and on. But, you have to learn how to deal with these things or your success is going to be short-lived. It's not about one day, it's about all the days.

    The problem for me is alcohol. I will be awesome, until I start drinking. A couple beers in, and I'm eating dip and hot wings, and shoveling chips into my mouth, and chicken, and hotdogs, and a hamburger...I go crazy, all because the alcohol lowers my inhibitions. So, the key for me is not keep drinking in check. i've been learning how to drink more slowly...almost sip my drinks. It worked well this weekend for me. People think I'm drinking, but I'm kinda not, and then I still have control of my eating.

    Also, anymore, I'll eat a healthy snack before I go to a thing so that I'm not hungry. I don't fill myself up, because I don't want to be rude. I'll eat something when I'm there, but I don't want to go into it hungry. So, I'll have a good snack, and then just eat something small while there, keep my drinking in check, and I'm good to go.

    It's almost liek a game for me...to see if I can do it.
  • SmexAppeal
    SmexAppeal Posts: 858 Member
    I just spent a weekend at a golf outing for my company. I knew I wouldn't be logging as I would be eating out constantly. I even ate a buffet!!! I just made healthier choices, chicken, salad, turkey... but I drank A LOT!!! But I got on the scale this morning and I was still down a pound!! I suppose that could have been the 18+ holes we golfed for 3 days straight, but I'll take it.
    Just don't fear food. If you find yourself going back to the goodie table over and over, start asking yourself, "Am I really hungry?" Most of the time you will say, no, not really. So control yourself and stay away unless your body is asking you for food. You will be all good girl! Just have a good time, don't worry about that brownie!!

    Happy 4th everyone!!
  • Since I am on the Atkins program, 4th of July will be a breeze. We are BBQ tons of meat and there will be no desserts/chips etc. I planned it this way so I won't go off plan. And protein seems to fill me up quickly and will help with overeating
  • Dawnhasajeep
    Dawnhasajeep Posts: 180 Member
    I am not a fan of the “its one day do what you want”. For me that is a very slippery slope that leads to more bad decisions. Weight goes on a lot faster than it comes off.

    I say don’t worry about it just plan for it. If you know you are going to want one brownie plan for ONE brownie. Earn it by getting in a little extra exercise in BEFORE the cook out, none of this “I can work it off later “stuff. If you did not earn it you do not eat it. Bring foods you know you will be good to eat Veggie platter, grilled Veggie kabobs, salad and fruit. Fill up on these foods first before touching higher empty calorie foods. No one ever got fat making 2, 3 or 4 trips to the salad bowl. You will be more likely to eat less if you are full of healthy low calorie foods. Also stay away from empty calories like soda, salad dressing and dips.

    Use this as an opportunity to show yourself how STRONG you are. You will thank your self on the 5th /9th for it.
    Good luck and Have fun.
  • iuew
    iuew Posts: 624 Member
    The problem here is that it's not just the 4th of July. Every month there is something. And, if you are like anyone else, on top of all the holidays (Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, Valentines Day, and whatever other days you celebrate), there are also birthdays, deaths, graduation ceremonies, divorce parties, odd-ball weekends, someone inviting you to a house warming or baby shower, etc. It goes on and on and on. But, you have to learn how to deal with these things or your success is going to be short-lived. It's not about one day, it's about all the days.

    The problem for me is alcohol. I will be awesome, until I start drinking. A couple beers in, and I'm eating dip and hot wings, and shoveling chips into my mouth, and chicken, and hotdogs, and a hamburger...I go crazy, all because the alcohol lowers my inhibitions. So, the key for me is not keep drinking in check. i've been learning how to drink more slowly...almost sip my drinks. It worked well this weekend for me. People think I'm drinking, but I'm kinda not, and then I still have control of my eating.

    Also, anymore, I'll eat a healthy snack before I go to a thing so that I'm not hungry. I don't fill myself up, because I don't want to be rude. I'll eat something when I'm there, but I don't want to go into it hungry. So, I'll have a good snack, and then just eat something small while there, keep my drinking in check, and I'm good to go.

    It's almost liek a game for me...to see if I can do it.

    the key is filling up on healthy drinks. like vodka. then you're just too full to indulge in Baileys and other bad drinks.

    j/k