MY BOYFRIEND MAKES ME FAT!

We have different size plates, regular large dinner plates, around 12inch across, and then we have medium size plates, around 8 inch across. I feed him from the big plate, and me from the medium plate, and the baby gets the smaller 6inch plate. My older child gets the same size plate as I do.

This has helped us keep portions in check and I have lost weight while my husband hasn't (and he has a few pounds he could stand to lose) so we've started having him use the same size plate as me. We RARELY use the "normal" size dinner plate anymore.

Whenever he deployed in the past, I would lose the weight I had gained since meeting him each time, and then slowly gain it back when he got home. I am not doing that this time and since he hadn't deployed in a few years, I got even bigger than before so I had a harder time losing the weight anyway. It definitely is easier to lose weight when you're not thinking about feeding other people (I have husband and kids to worry about) but you have to find a way to balance your hunger with their hunger even if it means making 3 different meals or cooking at different times. It can be done! Good luck!

YES! My husband LOVES fried, fat loaded food... Junk food... It is SO hard! If it was just me, I'd never bring it into the house or go out and get it, but with him here, asking me to bake (which is my favorite thing to do), it can be really, really difficult. I want him to be happy and I love baking and feeding others, so it's hard to resist. Just gotta keep trying! He's been better lately and has been buying junk food that I don't care for, which helps. I've also started eating dinner from a salad plate to reduce my portion sizes and have asked him not to request baked goods as frequently. I guess it will be a life long battle! But, he's worth it

Truth! When my man's not around I'm not going to bother opening a package of meat just to cook for myself! When he's gone I just eat lean cuisines. When he's home it's meat 'n potatoes, crock pot meals and other "man food".

Oh people I could totally blame my boyfriend for making me fat, since I gained since we met, but of course it's me !!!

It is easy to let loose when out with them and when your feeling that complacent feeling of being in a comfortable relationship, but take the reins on your life and your fitness a little more that's all you gotta do ! I did and I'm slowly re gaining my pre boyfriend weight.

Get Divorced!!! )

I split with my wife in October of 2011 and I have dropped almost 35 pounds since! In the best shape of my life!

lol i like how you all blame your boyfriends. Did they force feed you crap? NO. Its just down to you all not being able to say no to junk and sitting around on your lazy arses all day not working out! :laugh:

Hmmm yes and no lol my now hubby did not force me to eat crap I ate crap purely of my own doing as for lazy arses I was always active till my bike accident then I really started pileing on the weight
But I am getting more active again its hard but I will get there
We are what we eat simples really I am a Jam Rolly Poll with nuts in middle lol or should I was as now I wont have crap in house the only thing that will be allowed when hubby gets home on leave is his full fat coke which is still in fridge from when he left....

I would have to say that it is my own fault that I gained weight when we moved in together. I got out of the habit of eatting vegies, fruit and whole grain products. He won't eat any fruit, will only eat corn ON the cob and potatoes as far as vegies go, and his main food group is carbs featuring white bagels, kaiser rolls, hogie rolls, white rice and pasta. He only drinks ultra sweet tea (8-12 glasses per day), coffee (2 cups per day) with 4t sugar and Irish Cream flavored creamer, and orange gatoraid (24oz per day)....never just water. He might weigh 175. I got out of the habit of buying or cooking fresh vegies because I was gearing the meals towards him. He constantly snacks....pretzels, cookies, candy and sunflower seeds. He still won't eat fruits and vegies, but has accepted the whole grain instead of the white stuff. He has no interest in changing any of his eatting habits.

I just got lazy about proper nutrition and ate the same as what was prepared for him. I gained 50 pounds and started having bad heartburn and acid reflux. Once I realized what was going on I got back into the fruits, vegies and whole grain. Once I lost 20 pounds and cleaned up my diet the heartburn and acid reflux went away. I felt even better when I started cutting back on the grain products and eatting more protein.

I know exactly what you mean! After moving in with my boyfriend I packed on an extra 20 pounds! Of course wanting to be a good woman, I was cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner for him and when I wasn't cooking we were ordering things, like pizza, subs, chinese and all that stuff thats not good for you! another thing was my boyfriend loves pop which i can go with out drinking but for some reason I would drink some with him, on top of eating late! Needless to say I am unhappy with the weight gain while he has gained nothing! I think its so much easier to pack on those pounds with your mate because of comfortability and not remaining aware of the things we are consuming. Like you, my everyday life is so busy that I would tend to forget to eat somedays or end up eating one meal for the entire day while drinking lots of water (although that still isn't healthy) but that was my lifestyle before love Any who, It's weird how your lifestyle can be influenced in a such a way by something so simple. but I think if u and your boyfriend start working out together and make better choices in the food your consuming together, you will be just fine!!

This is exactly what happened to me, even the 20 lbs! My boyfriend always comes home with chocolate and sweets. I just tell him if he wants me to stay super fit that he won't bring me anymore junk. That doesn't mean I dont treat myself every once in a while though.

Yup I had to tell my boyfriend too like babe ur on ur own I can't gain another pound and fortunately he understands and is all for me getting fit as well, neither of us had actually stopped to realize the weight I had gained but once we did we both said its time to get back on the good foot! especially since we'll be planning our wedding soon

My fiance is the worst influence ever. He can eat as much junk food as he wants and not gain a pound. The last 10 years of our relationship has been a test of my willpower...up until 6months ago he was winning...but now I have a good handle on saying no.

Bump

I forget to eat. I love to cook for us, but when he is gone (Navy Sailor) I just wanna eat stuff that requires no cooking at all or just not eat. He is also my workout buddy so I don't workout when he is gone.

So in essence, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU

I totally agree! My boyfriend must eat 3500 calories to maintain his weight. He's 6'6 and very active. My diet is supposed to be 1600. While we mostly eat healthy, he eats frequently and pretty big quantities. I think my mind sees him eating so much and thinks that I can eat that much.
I am kind of excited to see if I lose weight when I move 2 hours away from him. Like you, I noticed I eat way less when I am not around him. I've been trying to diet for 6 months and will do well for a few weeks and lose 10 lbs and then we go on vacation and I eat poorly and take a week or so to gain back motivation. I am very scared of when we move in together.

I love cooking too, and healthy food is actually more interesting/fun to make. I LOVE to make a big pot of healthy soup with lots of vegetables and protein. I am usually cooking for myself because we don't eat at the same time. Also, it's summer, start grilling! Eating out too often is the biggest offense for couples, IMHO!

I do blame my ex for a gain of about 15kg of the 28kg that I've gained (and lost 21) in the last 12 years. The reason was that she ate junk food (chocolates, chips, sweets etc) e.v.e.r.y s.i.n.g.l.e.d.a.y. She would offer me these foods. Initially it was nice living in a candy store. Sweets and stuff that I normally wouldn't eat. Then of course the weight gain. It took me a while to train myself to say no every time she offered. Sadly it was the reason why we broke up, I decided that I didn't want to see her die an early death, I'd been through that with someone else that I dated and it had an enduring effect on my mood.

I don't actually eat any differently whether my husband is around or not. That being said, I did gain about 40 lbs gradually when we first started dating. That was 13 years ago though... I think when people are happy and not paying attention that the pounds do sneak in.