anyone negative reaction from people after weight loss?

I think people don't handle change well, especially when it makes them look bad in comparison. Turn it around and make it a compliment - these people are jealous of you because you're looking GREAT and they wish they could do what you've done. You definitely shouldn't feel ashamed for your weight loss, and don't let them get to you, they'll come around and if they don't, maybe they just need a good talking to. Either way, you should definitely not let them diminish your successes, you are doing something wonderful, so don't forget that!

I am sorry for their inconsideration and insecurities! That is just what it is! They feel threatened and actually left out. You are not sharing their joy of eating and lack of physical activity and you no longer are putting them before your needs, so this is their response! They will eventually get use to the new YOU, just do NOT give them the old back! I hear from one my sisters "don't lose anymore weight it is starting to show in your face" she use to say before I lost weight was " Oh she's about as big as you" Now I wear smaller than her, but I still love her and encourage her because no matter our size she has raised two awesome children and they really love their parents! i can not say that for my children, we will not even go into that topic! We at MFP are your family for encouragement and compliments so do not ever forget that! I TRULY wish you success!
Verda

:ohwell: No, you are NOT th only one going thru it. My younger sister and my Father NEVER say anything unless my husband or I bring up my Loss. The funny thing is she is very supportive and says all the right hings about it when I post something on FaceBook about it. But in person? Fuhgetaboutit!!! I'm sure a lot of her reaction is frustration and jealousy because we have both tried so many different diets and fads over the years and nothing has worked before. If anything, we just kept getting heavier and more unhealthy.
:smooched: My husband goes almost too far the other way if you know what I mean. He tells everyone, including the guy at the gas station who we barely know. It seems almost like he is 'taking credit' for it even though he has done nothing to change how he is eating or getting any extra activity in his day. He even tried to get me to take money that we needed for the house payment and go on a shopping spree for new clothes. (not that I didn't appreciate the gesture, but we really need to pay the house payment EVERY month).
I don't have any answers for you--maybe the poster who suggestd counseling had the best advice, if you can afford it. Personnally, I am just glad that I seldom see my Dad or Sister, and my Hubby has always been this way soo I'm used to it.
:flowerforyou: Just remember we are doing this for ourselves, not anyone else. Keep your co-workers and friends at the gym close. They are Priceless and will make this Journey easier for you.

My husband doesn't say a word. Not one. The other day I came out in my new jeans and posed....booty side out....and proclaimed : You WILL look at my butt!!

He laughed and said............I look at your butt all the time, should I text you?? :laugh:

Remember gals, these are the same guys that didn't notice you cut 12 inches off your hair and changed from brown to bright blonde! I painted the entire living room with out so much as a raised eyebrow:huh:

As far as friends and family. I have a few ppl at work that avoid me when we eat, but I know it is guilt because they should be eating better. I try to remember how I felt back then............when I was knawing on a KFC drumstick and my friend had a salad.
I felt disgust with myself and the choices I was making.
I felt sad that I had STILL not made any changes, although I KNEW what I had to do.
I felt that the other person was judging me.
I felt nasty, gross, fat, unloved.

Wow, I didnt know all that was in there!!

Can you talk frankly to your sister? Tell her you love her and want her to join in the joy you feel for being a healthier person? Tell her how much you love her and that her words of encouragment would make your day?

You are such a special person Tami, I hope you can work all this out. What the other people are missing is sad....just really sad!:flowerforyou:

I lost friends after a lost the weight. I made new ones, but it took a while.

The thing is, when you lose a significant amount of weight, and go through the changes that make that possible, and commit to them, you are a different person on some levels than when you started.

I discovered that a lot of my friends (and definitely my family) thought that eating together (usually too much) was "bonding". They were offended when I didn't want to bond this way with them anymore. Add to that the fact that some of them were downright jealous of and embittered by my success (since they didn't see all the really hard work I put into it, just the results) and there were definitely some bumps in my relationship life. Whenever I go to visit my family, even though I ask them nicely not too, they still prepare food for the "old" me. (there are certain things I've discovered I shouldn't have due to intolerance/allergy. . .and they still make them)

I think what arewethereyet says about having a frank discussion with your sister is really good advice.

HTH.:flowerforyou:

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS on so much weight lost!!! Your accomplishments are amazing!

In thinking about your problem, I tried to put myself in your husband's position. My husband and I enjoyed getting fat together. We'd load up on junk and sit in front of our computers all night. We'd look for new recipes and giggle while chowing down on lots of yummy food. There were a few times one or the other of us would say, "dang, we are getting fat, we gotta do something!" But we both gained like 50 pounds in the 5 years we have been married. Whenever HE would say, "I'm gonna get back to eating healthy!" I would secretly panic inside, thinking he might actually do this crazy thing and then he would lose the weight and get back in shape and I would LOSE HIM. I really didn't want him to lose weight when I wasn't ready to do it also.

Based on this, my thought is that your husband may be panicking inside, thinking, "omg, my wife is so hot now, why would she want to keep hanging around ME? Other guys are going to notice her, and pay attention to her, and she may be drawn to them!" I disagree with those saying you should confront them and drag all this weight loss talk out onto the table. Instead, you have already shown that you are the one with more strength, perserverence, and wisdom by being able to do this. Now is the time to love on them and show what a wonderful person you are with or without the weight. Don't talk about weight loss anymore. If you count your calories in front of them, or talk about your exercise program, drop it. They're probably sick to death of hearing about it because it is a condemnation to them. Instead, love them apart from food / weight issues. Does your husband like to watch a certain tv show? Watch it with him and get into it. Send your sister a gift that SHE will like (hint: not a heart rate monitor!); take up one of HER interests. Take the focus OFF of food and don't confront them about their insecurities. That will only add to the division. Move over to their side and take up their interests. This way they see that there is more than one side of you.

sorry for the book...

Everyone in my immediate family has been real supportive. In fact between my wife, father, mother and sister we've lost over 200 lbs. Because of that even the family dinners have got a lot more healthy. We're trying to bring my younger brother along, he get's the mentality and knows what he needs to do, but it's the execution part with him.

The only negative vibes I've got from people are co-workers. The biggest offender is just a negative miserable person so I disregard most of what she says anyway.

But it does change your conversations with people. Before this transition I thought it was funny to joke about not getting any excersise or that what we were eating would bring on a heart attack. Not anymore. There's only so many times you NOT mention you got up at 530 and ran 5K. I get that people may not want to hear about it, but that's a big lifestyle change and I'm not going to forget to talk about because someone might have a problem with it.

I don't think it's jealousy. I think people envy you now. They wish they had your motivation, determination, and finally success. It's their problem and not yours.

I think you should win the lottery now, just to really pi$$ them off.

I do have to say I lost a friend over this. Mainly when I talk about MFP, my online friends and logging my food. She thinks this is rather rediculous and has told me so.

She informed me she is athletic and knows how to lose weight. That she doesn't need my help and that logging all of your food borders on obsessive and is completely unneccessary.

Well, I have lost 36 pounds and she has gained more. I really feel sad, because I feel like I have the magic pill and she refuses to accept the gift. When she made me feel stupid for using this site, and 'obsessing', I stopped calling.

My health is very important to me. If you love me, love me as I am.

It's definately interesting to see the different reactions to weight loss. When I started gaining weight I had one friend whose eyeballs seemed to be a living scale weighing me in everytime I saw her. She was not very gracious about her reactions to my weight gain. It's also ironic that she is the only one who hasn't commented on my weight loss. I've also noticed that people tend to forget that most of my life I've been thin and they don't seem to remember the thin me. I've heard the comment, "I didn't even recognize you" more times than I can count. I accept it as a compliment but I'm thinking-this is my pre-baby weight and I've actually weighed less than this most of my life. smile: I've also had people tell me that I don't need to lose anymore weight. I'm 5'6 and 143 pounds. My BMI is 23.1 and in the healthy range but I could lose more body fat and still be within a healthy weight and I'm by no means "too thin." I think most people mean well when they make comments about your weight loss. Those that are insecure about themselves are the ones who have negative reactions and I wouldn't take it personal.

I'm sorry to hear about their negative reactions. I can honestly say though, from personal experience, it's because they are jealous. It's okay for you to feel good about yourself, and you should! But try to be considerate of their feelings and not rub it in their faces, especially if they are bigger than you. A talk might also help. Communication opens many doors, and the only way to know why they are acting this way, is to ask them. Good luck. I hope they come around!

I've found that large weight losses freak people out in a way...even me. Doesn't your draw drop when you see the transformations on Biggest Loser, and inevitably, you always think...he/she looks like a different person. It can be a little unnerving. Not everyone is lucky enough (lol) to have large amounts of weight to lose and get to make that transformation. << How's that for a silver lining!