Bingers..

I'm a closet binger. If no one can see me, or find evidence, it didn't happen. The only one who knows is the scale. and my larger *kitten*. and my too tight pants.

It sucks, but I can at least now "feel" it coming on and take steps to prevent it from happening.

I binge something fierce some times, but I'm basically the same as this. I'll finish something off and then I'll take the trash out, so all evidence of said something has vanished from the kitchen.

Binge on carrots and romaine lettuce wraps with a wheat tortilla.

Filling and healthy.

My first reaction to reading your response is to get very upset and tell you, sir, something along the lines of: you have NO idea or knowledge on what bingeing is, the nature of it, and how if someone who is afflicted with this disease, they can't CONTROL what foods they binge on, therefore your suggestion is pointless, uneducated, and completely insensitive.


I apologize in advance if I have offended you(or anyone else who has had this thought), and centering within myself I can actually understand what you're trying to say, sir.

It is in fact logical, right? The idea of this: Hey, If weight gain is the cause of suffering in the aftermath of bingeing, then why not binge on healthier, lower calorie options?

However, there is a flaw to this logic and what I'd like for everyone to understand, coming from personal experience within and outside of myself is this:
Binge eating and over eating is NOT something you can CONTROL, because
1) If we COULD control our binge eating, then WHY wouldn't we fill ourselves with lower calorie foods, to avoid the weight gain that causes our suffering?
2) "Bingeing on carrots and lettuce/healthier food" is preposterous, Because binge eating, OR over eating, ANY food is not healthy, irregardless of its caloric density. The behavior associated with bingeing is where the problem is.

And here's something that has always baked my brain: The weight gain and poor body image is not the closet bingers, or the over eaters CAUSE OF SUFFERING. It has made me think a little differently.


Lastly, I would like to point out once again, binge eating is an ADDICTION. If Alcoholics could CONTROL their drinking, they WOULD NOT be alcoholics. Most people and alcoholics themselves would admit, they can not control their drinking. They are addicted to drinking alcohol. They do not control what their poison of choice is, it is their poison. The idea of moderation for the alcoholic is laughable, or to exchange his/her poison for something lighter, less alcohol content by volume is merely a substitute, a band-aid if you will, to a problem that is DEEPER and more complicated than the drink.

There is information, there is hope out there for everyone, you've got to look, put yourself first, and most importantly you've got to be willing to understand in order to heal. I am not perfect, I do admit I have my struggles, issues, emotions; I do not deny myself these things because that is how I grow. But I also CHOOSE to seek help, I choose information, and I choose to love myself no matter what happens, no matter what I put in my mouth, no matter if I go hungry.


I hope... You, whoever is reading this, the binger, the over eater, or maybe you just know someone who knows someone, perhaps you're just curious and want to know more; know that there is always hope. You are not alone.

One word... GUM.
It sounds simple, but I am a major binger and gum (when I am sane enough to remember), actually helps. Plus, I read that it helps with weight loss (maybe because you have gum in your mouth instead of food?)

Also guilty of binging,., I get physically anxious, and need to find something I can totally fill my mouth with. Today it was marshmallows

I've gained 20lb in the last year, and am starting this journey to get back to healthy. I've joined a gym, with some support there, but would love support from you -- and would love to support you as well!

Best of luck to all!

...also...am i the only guy on this thread...h,mmmmm.

Amazing to read my own thoughts and behaviors in so many comments above! I tend to binge on sweet things and hide the evidence from my husband and children. I always feel so guilty...once my husband borrowed my car and found a half eaten box of swiss cake rolls under my seat. I was so ashamed. Add me as a friend, too... :flowerforyou:

I am determined to beat this!!!!!!!

I want to binge so bad today...I can make cake and cookies, just to have one right?? But then I will start to sneak and that one will turn into omg what the hell have I done. Well, now if I am off then I can just say eff it and go on and on until I puke, then everything will be okay so then I can binge some more.
This is inside my head, I know it's wrong, I know that it's not how normal people think about food, I know I binge, I know I emotional eat, and I know that this is not how I want to live anymore...but I still want to!

This is what goes on in my head to.

I am a severe binger myself. But I do so when no one is around. If family or friends are at the house I will sneak into the pantry while they are in the bathroom or put stuff in my pocket (the side of my body that is away from others) and leave the room. But when I am alone I hit the store and buy all the junk I can get (lie to family about what was purshased) and eat it all. Even when I know someone is at home I will buy a bag of cookies or several candy bars and eat it before I get home. I only live 4 blocks from home. I also feel ashamed. I am 61 and have been doing it all my life. Looking for encouragement and hope that I can be to others. Interested in addindind friends if you would like too

I also struggle with binging and its something i have to fight every single day. I'm scared. terrified actually. All I want is for it to go away. I used to binge once every 7-10 days but since I started college it has been way too frequent. Constantly being alone, not having many friends. its trapping me and I will do anything to fix it.