Why cant I just do this (VENT)

Instead of some lame patronizing comment (there will be many to come), all I can really say is this:

You have to want it.

Yes, everyone WANTS to have a model or a gymnast's body. Or a bodybuilder's body or whatever. But 99% of people just don't have the dedication and willpower to put in the hard work.

Until you're really ready it's going be next to impossible. It's like quitting smoking or drugs. You have to really want it or you're just going to keep relapsing.

Once it clicks, there's no going back.

My only real suggestion is to try baby steps. Don't try to uproot your whole way of eating or exercising. Do one thing. Cut out sugary drinks and/or soda. Just try that. In a month, try walking for 15 minutes a day, every day. Everyone's got 15 minutes right? Keep progressing and slowly substitute crappy snacks for better snacks, crappy meals for better meals, and sitting on the couch for meaningful exercise. I'm 14-15 months in and I'm still making improvements to my diet and exercise every week. Baby steps. No one just changes their entire way of life in a day.

I don't have advice, in fact, I'm looking for some myself right now, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I am having a lot of trouble right now, too. I cannot break this habit of stuffing my face with carbs and bad crap everyday. I'm going through some health problems which just makes things depressing which just leads to this emotional eating BS. I agree with above poster, that we have to want it, and I DO want it but I cannot get my head on straight enough to DO something about it. I feel your pain, sister!

Start with one new habit and that's it...change is hard and if we pile too much change it just causes an enormous amount of stress.

One step at a time for 21 days...you can totally do that. Maybe you want to quit a soda drinking habit ( just an example) replace the pop for flavored carbonated water with no additives. That way, you still get the bubble feelings with out the extra chemicals. Stick to that for three weeks and then add another change.

Yes this is a slow way and you won't see results super quickly. But you will feel changes and a lot of little successes really do add up!! Good luck

I think my biggest problem with staying motivated is that I find myself saying "Oh, look! Cheesecake! I can always start tomorrow" and tomorrow, of course, never comes. I lack the sense of urgency which goes along with what some people have already said.

I want to want it! I want to want to be urgent!

My baby step was to do at least 30 minutes of some sort of moving my body every day. EVERY day. Whether that meant going for a walk or putting on loud music and dancing around my living room or vacuuming the house from top to bottom -- no matter. I've held to it (except for seven consecutive days when I had the killer cold from hell) and it's been good for me. It's my thing and became my springboard.

You need to find your thing.

You'll get there.

Both times that I have ventured to lose weight and ACTUALLY stuck with it for more then a week, something had just "clicked" in my brain that made me really really want it. There is a huge mental aspect to losing weight. You can't force it, but you can motivate yourself in other ways. Try to read something about weight loss/fitness/success stories everyday to motivate you. You could also try writing down your goals and hanging them somewhere that you will see everyday (like on your mirror or fridge). Stay focused on the journey, and don't worry about days where you slip up. Weight maintenance should last a lifetime, so don't let one day or even one week of "falling off the wagon" mess up your entire mindset.

You have to want it!! A few years ago I did it because every told me I needed to, I lost 20 lbs then gained it all back, this time I realized I wanted to do it not for everyone else, but for myself. Take small steps to do it, start by throwing out anything bad that's in your house, even if it's snacks for your girls, throw out the bad ones and get good ones. Instead of munching on sweets, or whatever, try carrot sticks or something healthy, even sweet stuff has a healthier alternative.

Now that summer is here and the kids are out of school i am having a hell of a time with this as well. i stay home i eat i feel like a failure most days if i go over calories or i find some excuse like omg i am pmsing and i needed that stupid chocolate bar or that cookie. I have a sweet tooth and just cant get past it. I am also finding that i am not drinking enough water in a day so instead of grabbing a bottle of the wet stuff i grab an apple or a handful of strawberries or something to stuff in my mouth. I feel like i need to be reminded every hour to drink water so i set up an alarm on my phone but that seemed to only work for a few weeks. I have been going to the gym but i look at calorie burn and think i shoulda done better but i did what i could when the kids are swimming in the pool by themselves cause they are not old enough to stay home and too young to work out with me.

so heres to new beginnings and leaving the past where it needs to be... in the past.


im gonna wake up tomorrow morning with a smile on my face and tell myself i an worth it. if i dont believe that i am then it will be a struggle in itself to over come and i know i am worth it.

motivation comes from with in. You have to want it and constantly be reminded of why you want it. I want it becasue i want to be healthy i have my life back (i have crohns and have been in and out of hospitals so much then had surgery and it seemed to have helped but for how long i dont know). I think i need to be reminded of how bad i felt

live in the now.. cause we never know how long we will have... take one day at a time and dont beat yourself up if you fall off just dont give up for the whole day. easier said then done i know cause i am having the same issues too. remind yourself why you are doing this and change 1 thing each week. thats a start in the right direction..

Good luck and thank you for letting me know i am not the only one who is feeling this way.

Leanne:embarassed:

I have been at this for 3 weeks now and having lost 7 lbs, I only have 93 more to go. At the moment, my mind is set to reach this goal and have given myself 11 months to get to it. The most difficult part of it are the on-going temptations: you see, there are 3 persons in my house and I'm the only one trying to lose weight. So while others eat "normally", I restrain myself and at times it most certainly is not easy. The temptations I have resisted so far are huge, or huge at least to me: hmmm this slice of pizza looks good, hmmm this cupcake seems delish, wow this brownie is calling to me, hmmm a scoop of ice cream would taste so-o-o-o good right now....I figured out that if I eat just one Yoplait yogurt for example, I have to walk about 1.5 miles at a brisk pace, say 3.4 mph, to offset the calorie gain. A slice of pizza is twice that. Eat 10 unsalted almonds and that'll set you back some 150 to 170 calories, though almonds are supposedly a food that helps you combat fat. It really doesn't take very much to set you off your daily goal. So far I have not flinched and have not succumbed. There is actually nothing wrong with eating a yogurt or almonds, its the quantity I need to be careful about. I want to lose weight. Period. As of 3 weeks ago, I was 100lbs overweight, and I got to that over many years of sloughing it off. It's not easy to lose in one year what may have taken me 15+ years to pile on my bones. God help me, I'll stick to my plan of reducing my food intake and exercising. Once thing I am starting to notice, is that it doesn't take me as much to feel full now and I take that as a good sign. --- I sincerely wish you luck and success. As someone else said in the responses to your post, "you have to want it". As of this moment I want it.