How do you say no to the snacks at a party?

Simple.... "No Thank You."

You either choose to, or choose not to. It's your choice what eat and how much.

This. "No, thank you."

I have a big glass of water, wait 2 minutes then ask myself again if I REALLY need that snack.

90% of the time the glass of water fills me up or the impulse to actually have that unnecessary chocolate bar is gone.

Believe me, this is something I struggle with. A lot. One thing I've found that does help - sometimes - is to think about how I will feel after I eat _______ (fill in the blank). Honestly, that's what got me off of a lot of the crappy food I used to like. I realized I feel disgusting after eating it.

The other thing that has helped me, though I can't say I've been able to apply it consistently, is to remind myself that I am worth it. It's okay for me to care enough about myself to pass over certain foods RIGHT NOW because they are not going to be healthy for me TODAY. There may be other days when they will be okay for me to have, but just not today. Because I am caring for myself - not depriving myself.

Don't know if that makes any sense at all, just sharing some stuff I've learned that works for me. Good luck!

Honestly though, are the parties so dull that you keep thinking about the food? I know at bbqs I go to I tend to forget about the food because we're busy kicking a football about or something.

Okay, first I'm pretty much thinking about food all the time, dull or not. Right now I'm thinking about dinner, I'm thinking about what's in my fridge, I'm thinking about what my next snack can be, I'm thinking about all of the food at the party. It's how I became obese and yes, I'm already seeing a therapist.

At these parties my friends/ family have a tendency to congregate in the kitchen, where the food and booze are. It's tough to sit in a kitchen for 4 or 5 hours surrounded by food, watching other people eat and comment on the food without wanting to eat some of it.

My social circle seems to be quite a bit different from yours.

Dude! Wow, I'm genuinely impressed then if you feel like that and have lost all the weight shown on your ticker...good going!

I don't know what to suggest though, just try to have the sort of levels of self control that you've clearly shown to date...want to not screw it up more than you want to eat...

just say no simple

Honestly though, are the parties so dull that you keep thinking about the food? I know at bbqs I go to I tend to forget about the food because we're busy kicking a football about or something.

Okay, first I'm pretty much thinking about food all the time, dull or not. Right now I'm thinking about dinner, I'm thinking about what's in my fridge, I'm thinking about what my next snack can be, I'm thinking about all of the food at the party. It's how I became obese and yes, I'm already seeing a therapist.

At these parties my friends/ family have a tendency to congregate in the kitchen, where the food and booze are. It's tough to sit in a kitchen for 4 or 5 hours surrounded by food, watching other people eat and comment on the food without wanting to eat some of it.

My social circle seems to be quite a bit different from yours.

You are not alone! I think about food all the time too! I try to log my food the day before to make sure I stay on track! That way I know how many calories I have left to allot for the party! Plus who doesn't go to a party, see food & not want to eat it!!! It isn't that the party is boring or other activities aren't going on, it's FOOD!!!!! Why do you think people are on here trying to lose weight? She is on here for suggestions, not to be ridiculed! Sorry but that really irritated me!!

I remind myself that: "Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels!"
And then I suck down some carrots, celery, and a lot of water.

I tell them I've started seeing other snacks and ask them if we can still be friends on a very limited basis. They're usually surprisingly agreeable.

Choose to.

I never WANT to say no. I know I SHOULD say no but I don't want to...so I don't. Instead I am good for every single day that week, like way overly good, like exercsing ridiculous and eating under my calorie count. And then on the day of an event that I know is coming I literally eat Saltines for BF, and lunch, and then I go to the party and eat whatever the eff I want. And then I am super good for two days after and by then I am back to normal. But I am maintaining so maybe mine's a different story. But it works for me! Then I can eat literally 1600 calories in one sitting. Which admittedly is not so good for the digestion, but when its only once in a while it doesn't kill me.