Keeping weight loss a secret?

Until yesterday, I kept most of my weight loss a secret from everybody. I also kept my weight GAIN a secret too. I think it's nobody's business but my own, so I have no obligation to tell them.

I try to keep my weight loss talk on this website and with my husband...I don't want any advice from people are are thin but not "healthy" if that makes sense and they all have tons of advice:)

only a select few know but thats because i do not feel like hearing everyones input and what diet pills to take or herbal remedies. I dont need all that stuff. Do not really need diet advice from someone that wears a size zero and if she hits a size 2 shes like OMG I AM FAT! yea just stfu with it lol

I'm pretty much keeping it to myself this time too, apart from on MFP, because only on MFP is it okay for me to constantly talk about what I eat . I'm not sure it's helpful so much as a defense mechanism. I've taken the advice to tell everyone to keep myself accountable advice in the past, and then I failed, and this has happened a couple of times... so not only do my friends/family not really want to hear about it, but I feel like I'd rather show them than tell them. My husband is aware that I'm doing it, but pretty much no one else is.

I read an article that said that when we tell everyone that we are dieting, it does something to our brain to make us feel as if we have done it. Kind of like a pay off, even if we have not lost a pound. And therefore, it makes us less inclined to stick with the diet. But then, I read another article that said, we should tell people when we are dieting because they will hold us accountable and we will feel more inclined to try harder. I have done both and neither worked. I think that when you are ready to make a change, you will do it. And it sounds as if you have.

For me, it is not a secret, but I don't really talk about it either. I just keep on trying to make small lifestyle changes that I can keep on doing for the rest of my life. And every time I mess up, ( which happens all the time) I just start again. So far, so good. This is the first time that I have recorded what I eat daily and kept track of my exercise. It has helped me tremendously.

I was keeping it from everyone for almost 2 weeks, I just told my mom yesterday, and hours later she brought over cookies and cake... sigh.

My husband does the same thing. Sigh. There's also the judgement: "Oh, you're on a diet?" *eyes item I'm eating that they think I shouldn't*

Conversely, it's also really uncomfortable having other people try to accommodate me. It really is just easier to keep it to myself.

In the beginning I didn't tell anyone except my Mother of course I also have done that in the past and realized people were happy to see me fail so this time I decided to just let the results tell it for me!! At first I got comments like are you loosing weight? Now I have lost so much weight, that those same people( which I'm now currently smaller then) are asking me what I'm doing to loose it!! Aaaaah what a great feeling I tell you!!

I only told select people like my mom, boyfriend, and my best friend.however a few random people have commented that I look smaller, but they don't know I am actively trying. I am not comfortable with anyone else knowing I am trying because it is a long process and I don't need them on my back constantly. Especially since all my friends are all really thin and won't understand the moderation of unhealthy foods rarely because they can eat everything and not gain weight.I am doing this to better myself so I don't feel like telling anyone or having them know.

I try to keep my weight loss talk on this website and with my husband...I don't want any advice from people are are thin but not "healthy" if that makes sense and they all have tons of advice:)

My thoughts EXACTLY...I out-weigh everyone giving me health tips, but I can also out run them in a marathon or out lift them at the gym... I hate thin-unhealthy people's tips...

My parents are the ones that told me about MFP so at first it was just them and my boyfriend that knew. I work in a hospital and I told a few close coworkers at first (one that helps people with gastric bypass even) and they were super supportive and ask about my progress. Well I had learned to camoflauge my tummy so most people couldn't see the weight I had gained. And with working in a hospital I have to wear scrubs which aren't all that flattering anyway so it also hid the weight.

Then i decided to tell some other people thinking "hey I'm getting some awesome support here" and they came back with "you don't need to lose any weight you look just fine!!". About that time my boyfriend started being not all that supportive because he thought I was starvin myself. After I showed him my food diary his response was "wow you are eating all that and still losing weight!?!? I had no idea! I didn't realize how healthy you were being!". Then he was supportive again after explaining to me his ex tried losing weight but would skip breakfast, eat an apple for lunch and train horses all day in the heat. Then she wouldn't eat dinner or if she did it was another apple because she was too nauseated for anything else. He was worried I was doing the same thing.

Now when I tell people what I'm doing they tell me it's dumb because nobody cares anyway. Ran into this just this last weekend. And keep in mind both people who were telling me this were overweight themselves. Not that I care if they are overweight, and I understand you have to WANT to lose weight to do it. But just because you are comfortable in your body doesn't mean I like mine so don't rain on my parade for being healthy!!!