My boyfriend makes fun of me when I diet.

This is what I hate about asking for advice online. First thing out of everyone's mouths is the ultimatum: "leave the moron." Oh yes let's give that advice because we were just told EVERY aspect of their relationship and how the OP is treated in every situation, day in day out. ...Oh wait, we weren't!

None of you guys are helping, seriously.

My initial thought.....he's not a good boyfriend. I don't know you, or him, but a good BF would never do that.[b/]

I will try my best to answer your question of how to go about "sneaking" your new diet/lifestyle in. I have a fiance who loves me very much (and I him), but let's face it...he's seen the "Oooh! I'm going to go on a diet and lose weight!" cycle a few too many times (with his grandma and mom, past girl friends, past female friends, and myself). We all start out well meaning and we are pumped about it. We go out and buy "healthy" foods that cost 5x as much as normal foods depending on what "diet" we are going on, and after a week or two we get sick of it and drop it. But, he also shows a little bit of resistance because he is my 30 year old man-child. He knows that I grocery shop and cook. He knows that if I decide to go on a juice cleanse...guess who else is going on a juice cleanse. If I decide that carbs are the devil, somebody else in the house can no longer eat carbs. So long story short, his trepidation is a small part due to my past failures but a HUGE part about his forced involvement in it.

So here's what I do:

1.) I buy him the foods he likes to eat. We have frozen pizzas in the freezer. We have soda and beer. I don't force him to eat anything he doesn't want to eat. Yea, sometimes I do force small changes on him (like refusing to buy white bread and only buying wheat. This isn't a huge deal though since he's never been so outraged to go to the store himself and buy different bread), but for the most part my diet/lifestyle isn't put onto him.

2.) I cook the same as I always have, I just make sure that I have a single serving of the casserole and not half the darn pan. We normally eat one meal a day together, so the other two are mine to eat as healthy/horrible as I want.

3.) I invite him to exercise with me, but sometimes I'm a little bit tricky about it (ie: "Hey, can we go down to the park quick and look for good photo spots for the wedding?" which turns out to be a nice mile or two stroll for us...he has no clue he's been juped into "exercising")

4.) I get one meal a week that I get to experiment with new recipes. Some turn out really well, and some I make a mental note never to attempt again. I really like the website: http://www.eat-yourself-skinny.com/ I usually don't tell him it's low-cal until after he's made up his mind whether he likes it or not. Good news is once it's "approved" I can work it into other days.

But my relationship is completely different than yours. Find out what his real objections are. Also, depending on what type of "diet" you are doing, he may have legitimate concerns as to the sustainability of it (there are a ton of fad diets that don't work). And keep in mind that most men are result driven. My fiance became so much more supportive once he started seeing results. He now has a list of calories for different beer so he can make "smarter choices". Small steps. Small steps.

I've been on and off diets, and everytime I start one, my boyfriend tells me that I'm not going to stick to it and its a waste of money buying healthy food. I find myself just giving up, sometimes because I just can't stick to it, and sometimes because of the hard time he's giving me. How do I eat healthy without beoing obvious that I'm trying to diet?