My Sister Makes Fun of me when I try to be healthy..

may i ask... how old is your sister?

I have 2 sisters, one who is the sweetest thing, so supportative - even now that I am smaller than her we still challenge eachother and than on the other hand my other sister, is a complete witch, she puts me down for trying to live a healther lifestyle. I too, as others try and distance myself from the negativity. Your sister has her own issues that she needs to obviously work through, I know its easier said than done, but either have a chat with her or just completely ignore her. All the best in your fitness journey, remember this is for you!

Use it to motivate you! One of the best things to help motivate weight loss in my opinion is turning negative energy in your everyday life in to motivation! You are making strides to better yourself, not only your physical self but your mental self. Getting healthy the right way should improve your whole lifestyle! Think about it this way, you know that she is treating you this way because of her own insecurities...when you hear those hurtful comments and the laughing channel it into motivation by thinking or even saying just you wait, I CAN do this and really love who you are now to strengthen your self esteem. I believe you have to love yourself now to be able to love yourself when you're not dieting, or you'll fall back into the same habits. Then when you're conquering your goal hopefully you will give her the motivation to come to love herself.

Anytime it gets hard or you find yourself staring in the fridge not hungry, hear her in your head saying those negative things and say " I can do this" "I am beautiful" and "I will show her that I have the strength to surpass her shallow remarks, and hopefully someday I can help be her positive motivation"

Wow. She actually sounds jealous and miserable. Sorry to say that about your sister, but I used to do that to people... and at the time I was 270lbs and miserable... so, whatever she's unhappy with, she needs to fix it. Quick.

My sister was the same way. I haven't talked to her in four months. Toxic people will only bring you down. I have found that I am happier without her and without her judgement/drama. It only gets better from here.

This!! ^^^

i agree with this. you both are ADULTS, not kids any more. you have every right to (and you SHOULD) seperate yourself from her until she's ready and able to not be a toxic presence in your life. i have a brother that i've had to do this to. trust me, its for the better for both of you.

I agree that Toxic People should be put aside.. but then I feel like I am doing something wrong by putting my Sister aside.
Afterall she is Family.. Ya know.. It just is an inner conflict I have within myself I suppose.

Toxic Sister......hmmmmm a good band name?

Being family does not giver the right to be abusive. Sounds like she has to try to drag you down to make herself feel better, it may sound harsh but be straight with her. Tell her she has two choices, she cans the crap or you create some distance.

As an older sister who is meaner to her younger sister, here is my advice-

the meaner she is the hotter and more interesting you probably are or are becoming! Try to ignore her and if you have to, just avoid conversation with her. You can try to be nice by inviting her to become more healthy with you and if she responds rudely, just say you were trying to be nice and continue ignoring her. Just because she's family doesn't mean she gets to treat you like ****. I've realized my sister and I will never get along well so we see each other very rarely now. But honestly the distance means that for the brief time we do see each other we get along a bit better. Family doesn't mean you two have to be best friends or hang out all the time.

She is, in the truest sense of the word, a hater. Haters hate on you because you have something they want and they think that they can't have. Whether it be a nice car, a wonderful husband or a healthy lifestyle. What you need to do is realize that the hate comes from HER OWN INSECURITY, as so many others have already mentioned. You don't need her for support or approval, you are wonderful and strong as you are, and if you're feeling down and out or uninspired, you can always come here or go to someone else for support.

She often will say "If you get skinnier than me, I will be so pissed" at first I thought- oh haha, she's kidding.

But then she would start making fun of the things I was doing..
Eating Salad or a low Calorie item when we go out to eat.
Not eating Dessert or having a yogurt instead..
Eating Fruit or Veggies alone instead of chips & dip or added things.
Etc.

But it goes further too..
If she sees, hears or finds out about a guy flirting with me she'll be like "oh they like everyone" or " I bet their gay"

I myself have Self Esteem issues & she knows this. So It's so hard having someone who should be that go to person put you down.

ugh- just needed to vent.

like I always say, let the haters be your motivators!! lol