Skinny gals who complain about being fat!

Skinny gals who KNOW they are skinny and complain about being fat bother me!! If you won't listen to me the first time, don't ask again because the answer you get might not be the one you were fishing for!!! :laugh:

Oh, for sure. Skinny girls who KNOW they're skinny and talk about how fat they are drive me crazy. I was not put on this planet to follow you around and reinforce the fact that, yes, you're hot.

Whenever someone smaller than me says they want to lose weight, regardless of if they're fishing for compliments or being genuine, I give them the same response. "Well, if you'd like, you can be my weight-loss buddy! We can exercise and count calories together. " If the person was just fishing for compliments, it's usually a disappointing answer, lol. If they really DO want to lose weight/get healthier/whatever, then I wind up with another person to be accountable to.

Everyone is entitled to feel anyway they want about their bodies. Just because someone is smaller than me does not mean they can't talk to me about their problems with their body. One persons opinion of "fat" could be different from someone elses. Really it comes down to how confident a person is with themself as to whether or not a person smaller than them talking about her body upsets them. Just cuz I am not 115 does not give me the right to say only I can complain about my body. That is childish.

Everyone is entitled to feel anyway they want about their bodies. Just because someone is smaller than me does not mean they can't talk to me about their problems with their body. One persons opinion of "fat" could be different from someone elses. Really it comes down to how confident a person is with themself as to whether or not a person smaller than them talking about her body upsets them. Just cuz I am not 115 does not give me the right to say only I can complain about my body. That is childish.

Sure, everyone is entitled to feel how they want, but they don't HAVE to nor are they entitled to tell me! And frankly, if they are fishing for compliments or sympathy...I don't care whether the person is fat or skinny... I don't like when people manipulate others to get a reaction THEY want. And then they are unhappy or offended when they didn't get the reaction they wanted. They can tell me their concerns/opinions on their weight, but that isn't going to promise that the answers or suggestions or advice I give them will be what they WANTED to hear. (Granted this is separate from those with eating disorders, etc). We can tell these people over and over what they want to hear....but they won't listen to us..it has to come from within themselves. And frankly, I don't want to hear it if they don't want to listen or want the advice!!

Examples for clarification:

1) Skinny girl, naturally thin (no disorder), 5'5", 110 pounds, my friend. She proceeds to tell me how fat she is and how she doesn't even want to go out tonight because no guy is going to even look at her because she is fat. Okay, my reaction is "Girl, you are not even fat, you are so hott! That shirt looks amazing! We're going to go out tonight and you are going to have fun." Her response "How can I have fun when I am SO FAT and ugly?? ughhhh". My next response, "I really don't know why you think that, you look great. Well, maybe we should just go to the gym tonight to make you feel better?" Then, she is pissed "oh so you DO think I am fat?!?!?!" Me- "No you are definitely not fat, but if you aren't going to have fun, then we should do something thats going to make you feel better." "Okay fine, lets go out" (Verdict- she was a FISHER for compliments. She wanted me to go on and on about how hott she is and how guys drool over her. Which I could have said! But, I don't see a need to keep fishing tons of compliments when the person DOESN'T want to listen.)

2) Slightly overweight, always been athletic, 5'5", 170 pounds, cute girl, my sister. She proceeds to tell me how fat she is and how she can never lose weight and how she's never going to get married because she is so fat. My initial reaction "I'm sorry. I think you are so beautiful and I hate to see you upset! Have you went to see a doctor? Maybe you're not losing weight for some medical reason that a doctor could help with?" Her response "No, I haven't seen a doctor but its not like he can help me anyways, I'm always just going to be fat. And I'll never get married." My reaction "You just need to do whatever makes you feel happy. I hope you do see a doctor if you think that there could be reasons as to why you aren't able to lose weight. " Her response- "I don't know what a doctor is going to help with, I'm just fat." (Verdict- she was a FISHER for sympathy, and I wasn't going to agree with her that the doctor couldn't help her. She thinks she is ultimately hopeless, and until she realizes that she CAN take action and feel better about herself....she's never going to TRY. I can give her advice all day long- and trust me, I have, but its up to her).


Bottom line.... they may be entitled to feel how they want. But, it is not my responsibility to agree with how they feel. I'll be sensitive and tell them how I feel and express concerns. But, I shouldn't have to listen to their image problems all day long-- FAT OR SKINNY when they won't listen to me anyways.

FYI- I am not offended, angry, etc with the quoted statement...I appreciate all views! ....I just had this situation happen with my sister TODAY and needed to share my opinon & clarify